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Hannibal
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Very true man! Women are the best in emotional captivation for a mans heart. It is best to widen the gap, and give no room for emotional sentiments from a woman, that way you do be safe.  No no no! I agree 100%. A man has to be ruthless if he wants to make any headway. All those crocodile tears don't SCORE with me. . . . . . . Rants like. . . ."i love u", "how can u do this to me", "u cannot do this to me". . . . . They are all emotional blackmail. That was the same thing she told Segun, Tunde, D'banj and 9ice. . . Sometimes they think men are STUPID.  I beg to differ. I'D rather tell her "look there's someone else I'm seeing" and get it off my chest rather than let her assume because she may not see anything wrong in my inability to talk to her.
It depends on the time frame, hombre!!! A girl u have stopped speaking to for 6 months won't come back one day expecting miracles. Are u supposed to ignore the incommunicado of half a year and just take her back in a stride?? StephenP, don't make me bash your nose with a sledgehammer.  |
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syren
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I agree 100%. A man has to be ruthless if he wants to make any headway. All those crocodile tears don't SCORE with me. . . . . . . Rants like. . . ."i love u", "how can u do this to me", "u cannot do this to me". . . . . They are all emotional blackmail. That was the same thing she told Segun, Tunde, D'banj and 9ice. . . Sometimes they think men are STUPID. It depends on the time frame, hombre!!! A girl u have stopped speaking to for 6 months won't come back one day expecting miracles. Are u supposed to ignore the incommunicado of half a year and just take her back in a stride?? StephenP, don't make me bash your nose with a sledgehammer. Why the violence now? Men , women, no one is safe from you are they?  |
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rubi (f)
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I agree 100%. A man has to be ruthless if he wants to make any headway. All those crocodile tears don't SCORE with me. . . . . . . Rants like. . . ."i love u", "how can u do this to me", "u cannot do this to me". . . . . They are all emotional blackmail. That was the same thing she told Segun, Tunde, D'banj and 9ice. . . Sometimes they think men are STUPID. It depends on the time frame, hombre!!! A girl u have stopped speaking to for 6 months won't come back one day expecting miracles. Are u supposed to ignore the incommunicado of half a year and just take her back in a stride?? StephenP, don't make me bash your nose with a sledgehammer. It depend on what seperates them in the first place and how close they were before the seperation if she comes back after six months and issue are discussed rather than hanging then eachone will know their stand. A relationship separated in peace is better than in pieces |
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StephenP (m)
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It depends on the time frame, hombre!!! A girl u have stopped speaking to for 6 months won't come back one day expecting miracles. Are u supposed to ignore the incommunicado of half a year and just take her back in a stride?? StephenP, don't make me bash your nose with a sledgehammer. You mean I should spend six months not calling her, not picking up her calls, hiding in my house praying that she doesn't come by, praying I do not bump into her when I'm outside and if I do act like I don't know her, leaving a store or party because I spotted her or someone that looks like her there. Naw brother, I can't be living my life in fear like that, I'll rather break it up officially and have my sanity. |
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rubi (f)
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You mean I should spend six months not calling her, not picking up her calls, hiding in my house praying that she doesn't come by, praying I do not bump into her when I'm outside and if I do act like I don't know her, leaving a store or party because I spotted her or someone that looks like her there. Naw brother, I can't be living my life in fear like that, I'll rather break it up officially and have my sanity.
Preach it my brother |
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Hannibal
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Why the violence now? Men , women, no one is safe from you are they? That was meant literally. . . . .StephenP is ma homie. It depend on what seperates them in the first place and how close they were before the seperation if she comes back after six months and issue are discussed rather than hanging then eachone will know their stand. A relationship separated in peace is better than in pieces.
I agree relationships should be seperated in peace. However, what other peaceful way can it be done if it's not. . . . going DARK on a partner. There's nuthing to guarantee there won't be argument from either party if one set up a rendezvous with one's partner. Some people are willing to accept a break while some people won't take it lightly depending on how much they have put into the schitzo. You mean I should spend six months not calling her, not picking up her calls, hiding in my house praying that she doesn't come by, praying I do not bump into her when I'm outside and if I do act like I don't know her, leaving a store or party because I spotted her or someone that looks like her there. Naw brother, I can't be living my life in fear like that, I'll rather break it up officially and have my sanity.
Don't get me wrong, amigo!!! Why should one run away from a chic? All i am saying is when a geezer is fed up. . . . . .cut the communication line and stay dark. If she comes calling, then u sort it out with her. . . . . . . .If she doesn't come. . . . ALL well and good. The moral of the story is. . . . . . .Let her do the seeking and searching!!! It's a fundamental golden rule. This is a bit safer than calling a babe and telling her. . . . reh reh reh, get out-i don't want u, i am dating someone else and other shittery. Many men lost their lives with such arrogance and sheer stupidity. P.S. There are many witches/vampires and female killers out there. . . . .WATCH OUT!!!   |
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syren
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That was meant literally. . . . .StephenP is ma homie.
*sigh of relief* |
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LadyT (f)
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WOW some of you are gutless wonders. You can't be bothered to tell someone its over. They should read the signs?
Unless the relationship was purely sex only as a decent human being you must tell someone you are dating its over.
Oh wait I said decent human being.
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ibkaye (f)
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@topic
better just to tell them
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CH3COO (m)
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baby, I'm looking for someone younger.
baby, i just realized I'm not quite over my last relationship
sweetie, you looked better when I was drinking . . . now that I'm sober, you figure it out.
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Hannibal
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*sigh of relief*
Sigh of relief?? A Shropshire chic shouldn't be scared of Hannibal. . . . . Aileen Wuornos is from your town, innit?? |
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LadyT (f)
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CH3COO baby your looking for a fat lip with those lines!
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CH3COO (m)
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CH3COO baby your looking for a fat lip with those lines!
that's fine. anything to get rid of her in a sweet way. baby, I'm happier when I think of you with another guy. |
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StephenP (m)
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Don't get me wrong, amigo!!! Why should one run away from a chic? All i am saying is when a geezer is fed up. . . . . .cut the communication line and stay dark. If she comes calling, then u sort it out with her. . . . . . . .If she doesn't come. . . . ALL well and good. The moral of the story is. . . . . . .Let her do the seeking and searching!!! It's a fundamental golden rule. This is a bit safer than calling a babe and telling her. . . . reh reh reh, get outi don't want u, i am dating someone else and other shittery. Many men lost their lives with such arrogance and sheer stupidity. P.S. There are many witches/vampires and female killers out there. . . . .WATCH OUT!!! I completely understand you but I still don't agree with you. What if she eventually calls and my new girlfriend picks up the phone? What would I say to both of them? It just gon' be hella awkward. I choose to do things the easy and straight forward way. If she starts tripping too much, I've got 911 on my speed dial. |
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syren
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Sigh of relief??
A Shropshire chic shouldn't be scared of Hannibal. . . . .
Aileen Wuornos is from your town, innit??
Who's scared You've started again havn't you I'm not from your hometown so go and find your friend Aileen and make jist with her. You two can be milking your cows together |
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syren
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I completely understand you but I still don't agree with you. What if she eventually calls and my new girlfriend picks up the phone? What would I say to both of them? It just gon' be hella awkward. I choose to do things the easy and straight forward way. If she starts tripping too much, I've got 911 on my speed dial.
Hmmmm interesting. @ topic It's simple. Just tell them you don't want them anymore, in nicer terms of course If someone said that to me I'D be gone, I wouldn't hang around looking desperate |
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Hannibal
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I completely understand you but I still don't agree with you. What if she eventually calls and my new girlfriend picks up the phone? What would I say to both of them? It just gon' be hella awkward. I choose to do things the easy and straight forward way. If she starts tripping too much, I've got 911 on my speed dial.
Then u tell your new girlfriend she is your EX. . . . . .Pure, plain and simple. A girl i refused to speak to for 6 months CANNOT be a girlfriend anymore. Geddit?? Hmmmm interesting. @ topic It's simple. Just tell them you don't want them anymore, in nicer terms of course If someone said that to me I'D be gone, I wouldn't hang around looking desperate How do u tell a jealous, insecured and desperate chic u don't want her in a nice way?? There's no nice way of telling a bad news. . . . . . . Is it hard to figure out that some chics don't want any sorta rejection?? |
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rubi (f)
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that's fine. anything to get rid of her in a sweet way. baby, I'm happier when I think of you with another guy. How do you know? |
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onyinye2 (f)
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@post
i would just confront the dude. if i see things aint working out, what the hell im i still in the relationship?? waiting for a miracle? I think by just not calling someone and avoiding them shows true cowardness. i don't have time to be hiding out, scared that so and so might come around when im with my new boy toy. I would just say "We had a lot of great times together but i feel things between us are no longer what they use to be. I just think that we should go our separate ways and see what else is out there. It has been fun, good bye my love."
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CH3COO (m)
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How do you know?
you will never get it. baby, I'm way too busy these days, and that's not fair to you. I love my career more than I love you so swe better call it quits. |
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Hannibal
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@post
i would just confront the dude. if i see things aint working out, what the hell im i still in the relationship?? waiting for a miracle? I think by just not calling someone and avoiding them shows true cowardness. i don't have time to be hiding out, scared that so and so might come around when im with my new boy toy. I would just say "We had a lot of great times together but i feel things between us are no longer what they use to be. I just think that we should go our separate ways and see what else is out there. It has been fun, good bye my love."
I think it's easier for a woman to do this more than men. . . . . Men usually take these things in their strides and move on. . . .no 72 hours crying and kicking themselves. Whereas, women go on a lengthy hunger-strike, loss of appetite, insomnia, tears, sorrow and blood for donkey weeks. Besides, HELL hath no FURY like a woman scorned. |
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StephenP (m)
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Then u tell your new girlfriend she is your EX. . . . . .Pure, plain and simple.
A girl i refused to speak to for 6 months CANNOT be a girlfriend anymore.
Geddit??
Let me rephrase that. You said "If she comes calling, then u sort it out with her", now I am asking, what if she calls within the duration of the six months and my new girlfriend picks up the phone? Remember my "ex" still think she is my girlfriend. Now I am looking like a playa in front of my new girlfriend, who thinks I am the one, on our magical third date. No sir, too much drama going on. |
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syren
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How do u tell a jealous, insecured and desperate chic u don't want her in a nice way??
Is it hard to figure out that some chics don't want any sorta rejection??
At least tell her It's not that hard, and it will be over quicker than waiting 6 months. And we're not talking about the crazy chics that you might date Hannibal, just a regular sane woman. Of course she might be hurt but she'll realise she can't force you to be with her so what else is she going to do? |
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Ruby_Pearl (f)
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I feel that love is a wasted emotion.
I want to be a buddhist. And I need to be alone to find my inner Self, like Siddhartha did.
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Ruby_Pearl (f)
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baby, I'm happier when I think of you with another guy. olodo, then she'll be like "We can try open relationship. You don't have o leave me |
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StephenP (m)
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I feel that love is a wasted emotion.
I want to be a buddhist. And I need to be alone to find my inner Self, like Siddhartha did.
Best wishes. |
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Ruby_Pearl (f)
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@stephen am not leaving you now That line was for CH3COO here he comes with his shakara |
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onyinye2 (f)
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I feel that love is a wasted emotion.
I want to be a buddhist. And I need to be alone to find my inner Self, like Siddhartha did.
chic, you don't want to start with me. I am a love guru. Just call me Aphrodite. I think it's easier for a woman to do this more than men. . . . . Men usually take these things in their strides and move on. . . .no 72 hours crying and kicking themselves. Whereas, women go on a lengthy hunger-strike, loss of appetite, insomnia, tears, sorrow and blood for donkey weeks. Besides, HELL hath no FURY like a woman scorned. What are you serious. Oka the chic might get emotional which is human. But i highly doubt we would go on a hunger strike or lose sleep. Oka i know a lot of brothas who have been dumped and it turned their whole world around. |
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CH3COO (m)
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@stephen am not leaving you now That line was for CH3COO here he comes with his shakara Your heavy snoring makes me wunna rip off my face and stick my head in salt water. this relationship is over. |
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Hannibal
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Let me rephrase that. You said "If she comes calling, then u sort it out with her", now I am asking, what if she calls within the duration of the six months and my new girlfriend picks up the phone? Remember my "ex" still think she is my girlfriend. Now I am looking like a playa in front of my new girlfriend, who thinks I am the one, on our magical third date. No sir, too much drama going on.
How can u look like a playa when the so called "ex" hasn't spoken to u in 3-5 months. . . . .What kind of union is that? No txts, no calls, no form of comm whatsoever and she expects to meet u in your ground state?? Come on, homie. . . where is that done?? If she calls and your new chic picks up the phone(hardly a drama). . . because i expect u to have to have told the new chic u have an ex somewhere!!! At least tell her It's not that hard, and it will be over quicker than waiting 6 months. And we're not talking about the crazy chics that you might date Hannibal, just a regular sane woman. Of course she might be hurt but she'll realise she can't force you to be with her so what else is she going to do?
You honestly think all those women u see in skirts are sane?? I beg to differ. I have seen women trash men's cars, send goons to beat him up, acid baths, drive-bys and all form of vengeance in ma hood. One of the worst things u can do to a woman is to reject her when she is not ready to be rejected!!!! Restraining orders are not there for jokes. . . . . .they are enforced to maintain law n order.  |
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Ruby_Pearl (f)
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Your heavy snoring makes me wunna rip off my face and stick my head in salt water. this relationship is over.  But I loff you na. @Oyinye That was a line o. Love is not a wasted emotion abeg. Which Greek goddess am I sef? hmm Athena? |
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onyinye2 (f)
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You honestly think all those women u see in skirts are sane?? I beg to differ. I have seen women trash men's cars, send goons to beat him up, acid baths, drive-bys and all form of vengeance in ma hood.One of the worst things u can do to a woman is to reject her when she is not ready to be rejected!!!! Restraining orders are not there for jokes. . . . . .they are enforced to maintain law n order. Hannibal, now come on now. Are you serious?? what chic would send a goon over to her boyfriend?? unless the girl is truly crazy, yeah it aint happening. And besides, i doubt a goon would even involve himself in such matters. i have seen brothas go nuts when the relationship is over too so stop being bias. Dont act like a brotha gets restraining orders put on him cause they do. |
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