How To Stop Watching Porn And Masturbating?

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go to http://sexaddict.com, the resources there will be of help to you. but whatever happens, dont despise urself, whatever has a beginning, has an end. Above all, don't forget to always look up to HIM, the source of all helps

for all of you who use to give useless counsel to people in need of help, do not forget that we all have our different moments and areas of needs, and ''whatever you sow-------''

get u a girl, and if u scared talking to ladies, bore a hole on your wall, no time ooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo,

I myself struggle with this issue and though our flesh believes its normal we know through scripture its not. The Lord freed me from my addiction to porn after 7 long years. But when my youth leader needed help fighting his addiction to pornography and masturbation, I fell. And here I am feeling so ashamed, I tried to help him but instead I messed up! I dont even know what to tell him. All I can tell you is to make sure you get help from the right people and make sure they are of the same sex so you wont get tempted, because that was my mistake as a female I should not have been trying to help him with his sexual addiction. Thats my advice: go to the right people that have truly battled this addiction.   

yeah right!i agree with u.Rev?

Oops. . . sorry

BUT do you have any part of the scripture which says that when we have done something we think is wrong, we should start telling ourselves that we are not wrong? or trying to make ourselves not feel the guilt?

If the conscience has told you that you are wrong, I think it is better for you to thank God that you have such a conscience which recognises wrong and convicts you of wrong. The next step should be confession of the wrong and a determination followed by action not to do the wrong again.

What you advised there seemed to be like telling him to have his conscience seared. It is a dangerous path to lead anyone into. When one recgnises wrong, the best advise is to tell them to confess and then counsel them on how to avoid such again.

  funny  yall

LOL I think in this Nairaland have I seen the good, bad, ugly and beautiful,
Man, let me advice you on this, I think I should say I was once into this, right now am 22 plus but started with me when I was 19,  To get this off, according to what they've been saying, try and engage your mind in different things, for me, Money was the number one prority, secondly try to see something unbearable in the ladies ass, come on, it sounds so silly but thats the truth guys,  try to disqualify them anytime you watch,
Whenever you find yourself indoor, try to engage in either video games or watch the most interesting documentary,
Lest I forget, discard all the video cd/dvd lol,  Cos the DVD consists about 5-10 different porn ,  so you see how long that is and the more you have the pictures of this ladies in your mind, the harder it is on you to stop,
To be sincere with you, I would say there is nothing wrong in it but having it done than the expected and reason time is the problem, 
Actually, doctors always advice either male or female to have sex after a long time so as to help their body against old blood, if you know you can't have sex or approaches a girl, then do this once in a while, maybe once in a month, before you know it, you would even forget masturbating after 3 Months,
If I want to continue talking, I would talk and talk and talk on this ,
Good luck to you bro,

TOOLS FOR OVERCOMING A CHRONIC HABIT OF MASTURBATION/LUST

Understand that the battle is the Lord's. You don't have the power in and of yourself to overcome masturbation (or any other chronic sin). You are actually pretty powerless and your Father will have to be the one to create righteousness in you. Rely on God to create new desires in your heart and to give you the fruit of peace and self-control. Self-control is a fruit of the Spirit, not you (Galatians 5:22-23). You will be amazed as you trust in your Father at how the "want-to"s of your heart will really change over time. As a Christian you ARE being transformed into the image of Jesus Christ:

And we, who with unveiled faces all reflect the Lord's glory, are being transformed into his likeness with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit. 2 Corinthians 3:18.

Don't simply grit your teeth and try harder. Ask God to do it. Trust Him to provide new desires. Participate in the miracle of God changing you. In other words, this battle will not be won without trusting in Jesus. Developing a relationship of trust (faith) in God's ability and God's desire to change your heart is the most important thing you will do to overcome. For more on this, see New Covenant Living.
The key to self-control in masturbation/lust is thinking the right thoughts by the power of the Holy Spirit.
 
The mind of sinful man is death, but the mind controlled by the Spirit is life and peace. The sinful mind is hostile to God. It does not submit to God's law, nor can it do so. Romans 8:6-7.
 
Your mind controls your sexual arousal. Your most important sex organ is your mind. So let's begin the process of transforming your mind (Romans 12:2). Get these Scriptures into your head and heart. Quote them when you get up in the morning and whenever you are tempted. They will help you to renew your mind and the Holy Spirit will use them to teach you to think differently.
Romans 13:14 "Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature."

Romans 8:6 "The mind of sinful man is death, but the mind controlled by the Spirit is life and peace."

John 8:34,36 "Jesus replied, "I tell you the truth, everyone who sins is a slave to sin. So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed."

2 Corinthians 10:4-5 "The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ."

Get a concordance and look up other verses about sexual immorality or who you are in Christ or the power of the Holy Spirit. Write these down and begin committing them to memory.

Work on victory only one day at a time:
Never think about getting victory for the rest of your life.

Here is the way to think: "My roommates are all out of the apartment. Lord, just let me get through this one afternoon."

Remind yourself how long it's been since the last time you masturbated/lusted.
"I've had victory for a whole week. Praise God! Now do I really want to go through that guilt again just to start over again? NO, not today!"

Remember and review the downside of masturbation/lust.

The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. 1 Corinthians 6:13
If you sin, it's a little bit easier to sin the next time; but the opposite is also true -- resist and it will make you stronger.

Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. James 4:7.

Resist the devil, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of sufferings. 1 Peter 5:9.
Engage in some type of strenuous exercise. "Go and burnout" and it will lessen the desire. One man in a support group we held would go and do chin ups until his arms felt like they would fall off. It helped him with sexual control and was healthy too.

Therefore, I do not run like a man aimlessly; I do not fight like a man beating the air. No, I beat my body and make it my slave so that after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified for the prize. 1 Corinthians 9:26-27.
Avoid any situation that tempts you personally. Avoid it. Change it. Expose it. Purify your environment. Remove anything from your home or place of work that causes you to want to sin sexually -- books, magazines, TV shows, DVDs, internet access, etc.

I will set before my eyes no vile thing. Psalm 101:3

Flee from sexual immorality. 1 Corinthians 6:18.

Flee the evil desires of youth, and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart. 2 Timothy 2:22.

Find out what pleases the Lord. Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. Ephesians 5:11.
Be accountable to another Christian brother. Call a Christian friend with whom you can fellowship during this time of temptation. See The Importance of Accountability (PDF file).

He who trusts in himself is a fool. Proverbs 28:26.

Let not my heart be drawn to what is evil, to take part in wicked deeds with men who are evildoers; let me not eat of their delicacies. Let a righteous man strike me--it is a kindness; let him rebuke me--it is oil on my head. My head will not refuse it. Psalm 141:4-5.

Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. James 5:16.
Change your habits of thinking. This is also the area that will take some of the most work. Quick and easy victory is unlikely. This is a war, not just a battle.

Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is. Romans 12:2.

Ask the Lord to show you why you have wrong desires. Give some serious thought to figuring out WHY you masturbate. A chronic habit of masturbation is usually an emotional substitute for something. It's like a drug we use to anesthetize our emotional pain. Are you using masturbation to overcome sadness, lack of self-esteem, feelings of rejection, or fear of failure? If so, then you are confusing psychological/spiritual issues with sex. Masturbating isn't going to help you mature emotionally. It will only keep you childlike. Take some time to really figure out what masturbation is being used for in your life. Then separate out the psychological issues from God's gift of sex. Ask God to reveal any burdens or anxieties you are carrying, then give them back to Him. Learn how your Father helps you deal with emotional pain.

Changing your habits of thinking may require talking with someone. A wise Christian brother or a Christian counselor can be invaluable in pointing out different ways of thinking and acting. A few sessions with a Christian counselor who specializes in sexual addiction can provide huge insights into what sex really means to you.

Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisors they succeed. Proverbs 15:22.
Get in the habit of praising and thanking God for the way you are, including your sex organs. Thank Him for making you a sexual being and ask Him to help you control yourself so you can enjoy sex in its proper context.

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Psalm 139:14.
If you yield to the temptation of lust, confess as soon as possible, and don't dwell on it. You will feel guilty, because you have given in to your flesh and have obeyed it desires. BUT don't keep punishing yourself about it. "For every one look at your sin, look ten times at the mercy of Jesus." Rejoice in the cleansing, forgiving power of the blood of Jesus Christ. Your standing with God, your Father, is because of Jesus' rightness, not yours. Renew fellowship with your Father immediately and again reckon yourself "dead to sin, but alive to God."
Grow spiritually. Don't stop serving or learning. Sometimes guilt makes us feel like we are not worthy to serve in the church or associate with other Christians. That is Satan's trap to keep you away from God's grace (Romans 8:1). Don't run from the "streams of God's grace": fellowship, teaching, communion, Bible study, using your spiritual gifts. Stay involved and active. Becoming more like Christ in other areas will help you in this one.

courtesy http://www.new-life.net/mastrbte.htm

My goodness, there are some troubled souls out there, aren't there?  What the hell is wrong with masturbation and watching porn (decent porn, devoid of exploitation, coercion, etc).

Why do you guys deprive yourselves of some of the pleasures of life for the sake of an afterlife about which you know nothing?

Is there a way to stop watching porn or masturbating?? For us people, who want to look at it in a religious perspective YES it is wrong. i just want to say to everyone whoz religious and balieves in GOD, dont look for answers somewhere else. if we believe in God Jesus Christ, there is no impossible thing to be done. The answer isn't going and trying to do some other activities, cutting off you penis or taking out your eyes, so that you can get your mind off of the problem. You need to do some honest praying and yes feel shy, shamfull and disgusted why because HES LOOKING FROM ABOVE.  just imagine someone watchin you while your materbating or  watching porn< you dont like it right, we always do it hidden and why do we do anything hidden so that no one sees<< you ask yourself this question. YES IT HURT WHEN WE THINK ABOUT IT. this is a FIGHT with Saten, he want to pull u away from doing good. for all who believer in the bible. how much time do u put into it? let your daily activity be Reading and praying  beacuse the word of god has power to do anything and if there is a problem he could fix it even though us humans are creating the problem. if anything is wrong in the eyes of god that we do, FIRST a persons heart has to be changed in order for GOD to help,  who want to  pay there bill if you don't work? what i mean is that if a person doesn't change his or her heart then GOD IS NOT GUNNA HELP ANYONE WHOZ LAZY, 

Well brother my advise for you is that any time the temptation comes for you to do any of those things remember the suffering of christ just for you to be saved, pray to GOD to help you and flee away from such a scene because truly the body is weak.

Hey!!!!
Its not by power or by might but HIS SPIRIT,

Man, go get some pu$$y!!!!

Philippians 4:8
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just,
whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report;
if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
Occupy your mind with creative ideas,great vision and get involved.

Overcoming masturbation is one of the tasks that youth and singles has to face in this generation of ours. However, it has not really been easy to overcome sexual challenge, but it very possible to surmount it and this of course requires determination and a great measure of will power.


A. Shun Pornography.
One of the easiest ways to overcome masturbation is to shun pornography. Pornography in this context goes beyond the normal mental picture of what you think it is. Read the section of pornography for more explanation.

The more you stick to pornographic objects and items, the more you are tempted to go into masturbation. Keeping yourself from such things will help you overcome the thoughts and the grip of masturbation. Remember that masturbation runs on information, this implies that you need to starve yourself of pornographic information that keeps the act running.


B. Watch your Associate.
Friends and peers that you associate with could be a force to reckon with when deciding to overcome masturbation. They could be influencing you, especially in this sensitive aspect of life to the extent that you might find it difficult to make a choice as to whether quitting masturbation is the right decision.

What you need to do is to find a friendly way to disassociate with such people, because the more you stay around them the more you feel you are doing the right thing. This is usually a painful thing to do, but you have to remember that this has to do with your life, hope and future and not theirs. 



C.  Be sensitive to your thoughts.
Your thought is another major factor you really have to work on, it is a very powerful tool that influences your life either positively or negatively. Remember thought comes then action. Whenever you think about masturbating and you don’t control the thought immediately, you stand the chance of giving in, and that is where it all set in.

I am not saying that you have to check your thoughts every seconds and moment, of course that will be brain tasking and is not ideal, all I am saying in a nutshell is that you can control your thoughts.

This implies that you manage these thoughts, and decide if you will either allow them into your mental system or not. Now, you have to be careful here, you need to check the thought and see if it will either make you vulnerable to the act (of masturbation) or not, once you notice that it has an iota of masturbation in it, you have to quickly shun it.

Therefore, you really need to take notice of your thoughts to actually manage the power of masturbation over your life. Many people had overcome it and you too can, just decide to and you definitely will.

In the field of psychotherapy (the treatment of mental disorders by psychological methods) there is a very effective technique called Aversion Therapy. Here is how it works. It states that when we associate or think of something very distasteful with something which has been pleasurable, but undesirable, the distasteful thought and feeling will begin to cancel out that which was pleasurable. If you associate something very distasteful with your loss of self-control it will help you to stop the act. For example, if you are tempted to masturbate, think of having to bathe in a tub of worms, and eat several of them as you do the act. It sounds stupid, but it actually works, just give it a trial!

D. Watch where you go
Another way to overcome masturbation is to watch where you go. If you are the kind of a person that visits area that stimulates the sexual act of masturbation in you; you really need to stop visiting such places if you mean business.
Staying or hanging around places that has object(s) that stimulates the act of masturbation must be out of thought for you. Do not ever think that you can overcome those tempting objects or items, you will only have yourself to blame at the end of the day. Many young people had tried their best by using their instinct to overcome masturbation in such cases, but they only regret the after effect of such action. You do not need to make the same mistakes

E. Don’t give up!
Does this sound funny; you may even ask yourself that what is this guy talking about? One thing that makes people a failure is not the fact that they fail, but the fact that they fail to continue trying. You might have tried so many times without much success, but this is just part of the exercise, the more you tried the more you are getting nearer. So don’t ever stop trying.
Let me give you an illustration. Whenever a farmer walks into the farm to get a wood for himself and he started cutting the wood, initially it seems nothing is going on, but actually, he is getting somewhere. He might not even get the wood down in a day, but he is sure of getting it down. Eventually, in a moment, in a time, in a jiffy the wood will fall flat. So don’t give up on your way to overcoming masturbation, it is sure not going to be easy, but you will ultimately overcome it.
Overcoming masturbation would not be an easy task, but with your mind made up, you sure going to overcome.

E. Ask God for help
Whenever there is a problem with an item purchased (especially electronics), it is usually given to those that specialize in repairing such product, why you attempts to give it to them is because you are rest assured that they know the components of the products and that they are in the best position to render the service perfectly. Additionally, there is a measure of confidence that you exhibit toward these individuals because of their acquired skills over the product(s)
God can never be left out of this business, because it is His in the first place, so how can you excuse an expert on a matter if you want a maximum success? You need to understand that you were made by God and this implies that the only person who can help you is God Himself.
All you need to do is to tell Him to assist you on your decision as against masturbation. You will never regret you did, and He will be more than willing to give you a hand, you can always count on him.

I don't know about porn. I've a buddy who has an extensive collection. It's gross and sad and I don't get why guys like it so much. Maybe because men are highly visual creatures. But masturbating? It's a biological imperative of sorts for men,isn't it? If it feels good it must be sin,abi?