Now She's Interested!

hello guys,
    i need your help, its a personal problem and i need objective answers, i met this girl in a cyber cafe (where i worked part time)and we got talking, i felt we had a connection, she told me about her finace abroad who intended to take her over, i could read that she was so bent on going over that she overlooked the feelings aspect of the whole thing, what i read from her(i could be wrong) was that she was going over to meet him not because she loved him but because she wanted to travel out, i didn't sence any thread of love when she talked about him, and to me it felt like an arranged marraige stuff,between families, she was at the moment working her visa abroad, i had fallen for her and felt threatened , how could i competete with some one abroad, earning dollars offering her green card, and all the works and i was a fresh graduate doing temporary jobs just to get by and praying for a good job, all i could offer was my heart.and she knew it, it took a while before i could tell her my mind and i braced myself for the worst, she told me we sholud just be friends, she said i shouldn't mention going out at all, that i knew she was engaged, i didn't give up, but my persistence was fizzling out, and with a stroke of wonderful luck i got a MEGA job which pays hell, men it was more than i could ever imagine, ANYWAY some how she got to know about it, (i didn't want her to)and now i recieve calls,sweet txt messages and flashes, i'm scared i really like her but i don't want to be her branch office, where she go dey collect money from, what do i do, do i play along or just forget about her, because she doesn't seem to like me for me,

Make her your bed mate and not your woman or girlfriend, if you are attracted to her in that way, otherwise move on.

please don't even listen or try dating her as a bedmate
she is not good for u assuming the money goes she eill leave u
better beware

u don't know it might be that she just started aving feelings for u at Da same time u got da mega job.

Its a coincidence. u never can tell

neways didnt hav time to read ur jargons. neways if u think she wants u now just because u landed a good job, then homie play tha game wit her and use her for something else. u kno 2 can always play tha game!!!

Thanks guys,
   i given it some thought, and i thinking of aleast having a taste of her honey at minimum cost before leting her go,because men this girl is delicious,and i won't want to lose out both ways, after all my investments, what do u guys think, 

Tell her not to loose sight of her obodo oyibo bobo, occassionally ask about the bobos welfare. Make it clear to her that you would like to remain friends with her and wouldn't mind an open relationship (friends with benefit) afterall body no be firewood and you two have your needs. I know she would agree and when she does shine the congo and have fun, but keep in mind she is not the right babe for you and be on the look out for a better girl. Make sure she doesn't crowd you and try to prevent you from meeting someone else just the same way you have been considerate knowing that you are sharing her with her obodo oyibo guy.  Enjoy her as much as you can while you can but manage your money carefully. Don't let her take you to the cleaners and don't be stingy she may have genuine financial needs. The best way is usually to have a monthly budget for babes. I used to do that and it worked perfectly, just don't let her know that this budget exist and manage it properly


Once you find yourself a better babe, stop sleeping with her and let her know you now have a serious person you want to plan your future with but nevertheless you still treasure her friendship and would like to sustain it without the sex part. She may accept and she may not, but any which way you have made the whole thing transparent and open and she cann't wake up tomorrow and claim you used and dumped her.

Something similar happened to me years back and I managed it in a similar manner the babe and I are still very good friends till today.

Good Luck man and ENJOY.

THANKS ALOT CALABAR MAN  ,I TOOK CAREFUL NOTE OF YOUR ADVICE AND WILL EXECUTE IT TO EVERY ONE TO THE LAST DETAIL, AT LEAST I SHOULD SHINE CONGO SMALL NOW, HABA, I CAN'T AFFORD TO LET IT GO LIKE THAT , I WILL LET U KNOW WHAT HAPPENS AS THE DRAMA UNFOLDS , PEACE OUT,

well, you should know some girls are money crazy. you said the girl told you that she has somebody before and when you propose she turned it down but now that things are getting better for you she wants you. it's no new! what i will advice is that you shdn't get much involve with such girl.she only want pleasure but not real love. she does not love you an inch. it is v mobile, ,it all about MONEY,