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kalmebad (f)
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This case is beyond me, honestly if i find myself in this situation, might not really be able to deal with it alone, hence i have come to seek a candid opinion from good advisers.
A cousin of mine, still an undergraduate is in love with a young fella, they are both in age bracket of (23-27) the guy is from a rich home, honestly can't say if it's the trill, he stays in London but back home now for holiday. The guy is SS and the girl is AA which she is ready and willing to deal with, for me no bones as nothing contradicts, but she recently saw him injecting himself, she asked as could not understand y, only for the guy to tell her he is testing his blood levels. I was honest to tell her that d guy could probably be a diabetic patient, as she also confirmed she has seen his sister injecting herself too. I kwn only diabetic people can inject themselves with insulin.
Now she can only understand why the guy has been asking they do blood oath with my explanations, i could not really be sure of what to advice her on, but the guy always tells her he will kill himself if she ever leaves him. She claims to also love him, but not too sure how to deal with the both sickness.
She is really bitter on y d guy shld not be more open, but my advice was that,it is probably hard for the guy to deal with the situation, probably thinking her knowing more will scare her.
She is in dilemma, what can she do? she is asking? play on nad eventually marry him or tell the guy she can't continue with the relationship, but same time afraid to hurt him. Please ur advice is kindly needed.
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spikedcylinder (f)
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Err, sorry, I didnt really understand your grammer but from what I can, the sick guy wants to take a blood oath?
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Gamine (f)
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Gbese. Didnt she know before she started dating him. See wetin ojukokoro don land pesin o.The thing is, if she dosnt love him anymore, she had better leave him He will still die either ways, its just the sad fact  |
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lidbb2 (m)
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@ poster
i'm not trying to sound insensitive,but i think your cousin should leave the relationship while she still can.
i see problems all over it.
the guy is SS which means he will be falling sick from time to time with crises and all the sort.Besides,sicklers rarely live to their mid thirties (my dad is a doctor,so i know some medical stuff).
on top of it all,he seems to be obviously diabetic.
thats double wahala for your cousin.
this is a case of a perfect storm brewing.
things like blood oaths and the like are dangerous things to dabble into.if a lady asks me to take an oath,i will run for my life.
she should not allow herself to be tricked into a very problematic relationship.
i will advise your cousin to save herself a life of trouble and move on.
the guy can kill himself if he likes.
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kalmebad (f)
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Gbese. Didnt she know before she started dating him. she was aware of the genotype but not that of diabetics Err, sorry, I didnt really understand your grammer but from what I can, the sick guy wants to take a blood oath?
Which exatly did u not understand? either u have a pblm with undestanding or u are probably joking Someone needs an advice here and not seeking for notice please |
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spikedcylinder (f)
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Who is seeking notice? I didnt understand the mumbled words. Sorry. I will get out of your thread now.
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ojubi (m)
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It true that diabetes patient inject a drug known as insoline into their bodies folowing medical advice.
U said this guy lives in london i am sorry to inform u that this guy might be injecting himself with A DANGEROUS DRUG OF ADDICTION. something he may ve been doing for a very long time now.
As for the request for an oath, this again is an indication that this guy is having so very many coacoches in his secrate coboat and ur sisther is close to knowing. It is suprising that in this 20th century someone with de nomenclature of so call western education is asking for this BABARIC practice.
as for de AA AND SS STUFF marriage is medically advisable.
I would say this guy is not being sincere and ur lovely sisther should stay away from this guy.
As for de guy threathning sucide i can asure u he is kiding because no relationship is worth daying for. sheres
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tpia
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Is the main issue here the fact that the guy is diabetic, that he wants her to take a blood oath, or his threats of suicide to make her stay with him?
Anyway, he's obviously unstable, and the girl better find a way to break off gently without upsetting him.
By the way, can't they just be friends- why must they be lovers, given the situation. You can't force someone to love you, really. It doesnt work that way. For women especially- you can't force their love.
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francessby (f)
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i sense danger because your sister is in a big mess, please advise her rightly
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kalmebad (f)
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Thnks for d responses so far, i will communicate all to her, still waiting to have more.
@Tpia tnks but will appreciate if u can read inbtwn lines again. she loves the guy, the contradicting issue here is not the oath, she is not willing to do that. They r inlove and has been for long now, but the issue is her recent finding that d guy is diabectic aside the fact that he is an SS. The big "ISSUE" what the consequences might be if she end up marrying him having to deal with SS which is not so much of a pblm cus she is AA, but also as a diabetic person.
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