Premarital Sex is Not OK!

uchesco, I agree with you that my expressed views over the virginity issue are too strong.  I have decided to soften them.  So let me just say that I have a strong preference for someone who is (also) a 'novice in bedroom matters'.

meoo,  i said it before and am saying it again, primarital sex is wrong wether u like to admit  it or not, is not just wrong, God himself is agianst it so . THE ANS IS WAIT UNTIL UR WEDDING NIGHT. even if u have done it before u can still stop it afterall we have PRIMARY AND SECONDARY VIRGIN IF You KNOW WHT I MEAN

[color=#770077]If you are truly a Christian, you will understand why God says no to premarital sex. Why would anybody want to have sex before marriage even if the guy proposes marriage. What if he just said so to get you to sleep with him?
My sis once told me this story about a guy who was dating this girl that claims to be a virgin. He told his friends that he was going to sleep with her no matter what. The guy proposed marriage, the girl accepted but still refused to have sex with him. After much persuasion the girl gave in, after the whole thing the guy got up and said to her....." I thought you were stronger than this, I thought you said that nothing would make me see your undies before we get married, how cheap you have fallen" and that was it.
I read something about sampling before marriage somewhere on this site that you sample to see if you are sexually compatible, and ladies who allow themselves to be sampled, is this how you will continue letting "them" sample you to see if can do wonders? as they sample they drop you and it goes on.
And they all say the same thing, "I wonder how many guys she has slept with"
God who said a big no no to premarital sex know why He said so. He will help everyone of us in our area of weakness.
Nothing is more fulfilling than waiting for that time, knowing that what you r doing is right and knowing that obeying God comes with all things beautiful  [/color

Peculiarose, you're my kind of girl.

Excellent contribution!

Well done dear and keep being you.


Viera: She is 18.

Dablessed thanks for the answer.

It goes a long way to explain her post, I hope she can keep her outlook till when she is older.

The innoccence and naivety of youth...........keep it up






if you can.........you obviously have never had a crush on any boy before..... theory my dear is different from practical

sumtimes Premarital Sex might not be okay..because catholics believe its not but sumtimes it is because u might not kno wot your partner's sex organ is..lol..he might be a shemale

I find it charming that a lot of us in this forum are very naive!!!

erm...... uncle Peter, forgive me but I don't particularly think that's an appropriate question to ask a 14 year old.

 This virginity issue has not stopped...and to Miss Peculiarrose try to keep it up..more power to your elbow.
 I have a friend here who waited the way we were taught to wait and she divorce the husband after 3 months.The problem started right from the first night when he claimed he was too tired...and u knw wedding here,u don't have to call Sunny Ade before u get married unlike Nigeria stuff...so things  start going worse and according to her they only made love twice in three months...its very difficult to believe but this is a very close friend of mine.They actually court for 3 years and they never had sex,according to her when she told him she wanted to wait until they get married the guy never object ,he agreed and never asked for it not knowing what he has up his sleeves...so the issue of whether premarital sex is ok or not is by God's grace because its believed its a sin and at the same time....
Well it depends on individual because "one man's meat is another man's poison"I'm not supporting it but what if u get married to a man like my friend's husband???Will u stay and tell me marriage is for better for worse..now she has not gotten over it and she has to start all over again.

OK what about those that can't get pregnant after marriage, non virgins I mean. What is the next thing your in-laws or even your husband will say, they will quickly say its all the countless abortions you have done, even if you are innocent. That is the next thing they will say.
All the same I guess its a decision we all have to make. If you are intact, stay intact because Good things come to them that wait. If you decide not to remain intact before marriage, its your life.
I rest moi case.

Peculiarrose! I concur with you ojere. Stay the way u are and don't give-in. The lord shall see u through'

 Peculiarrose,try not to misunderstand me.I'm just giving you an instance of how  funny life can be at times.Do u know there are people who are virgins that still have problem with having a child..how many of your in-law will u tell u were a virgin before you married and I hope it will be so funny for your husband to start telling everybody in his family that u were a virgin just to defend you of not having a child.Thats why I said one man's meat is another man's poison..what is source for the goose might not really be source for the gender..so keeping one's virginity is a strong decision and I'll always appreciate girls who maintain that so I never support premarital  sex..but someone being a virgin does not mean u have 100% chance of having a child after the wedding or being 100% happy.Its not really a guarantee.

This una virgin thing never stop. omo i tire 4 una0

@peculiarrose your story only confirms that girls fall for the wrong guys. I am sure that he was not the only guy that wanted to do it but she would have chaffed the guys who would not have disrespected her like that.
          Let me tell u guys about a true story about my close friend. She is almost 35 years and she was brought up in a very religious way and by very strict parents. Her parents told her right from her childhood that if she was ever disvirgined she would never get a husband in her life. Her parents were so strict that she never even had a boyfriend till she was over 29yrs. She admitted that so many guys were intrested in her but she kept them off because she alwayz wanted to marry and she never forgot what her parents had told her. Well at over 32 years she had still not gotten married(i wonder y because she is a very pretty lady) and she decides to have sex for the first time and have a steady boyfriend. I asked her if she had any regrets about beign disvirgined and she said that she had non whatsoever and that if she had had sex like 14 years earlier she would have attributed her not having a husband to that fact but here she was 32, a virgin and still no husband or fiancee 4 that matter. I told her she did an unbelivable thing;32 yr old virgin! and she said that i don't understand how strictly she was brought up. She had never been smooched until she was over 30. Kind of far fetched but its true. I asked her y she decided to give up her virginity and she replied that when she was in her late teens and then all her twenties beign a virgin was her priority but as she advanced in life her priorities started to change and she started to focus on achieving a carrier 4 her self. She says she is happy though because she might have thought that it was because she had had sex that would have made her unwanted but time and experience had shown her diffrently. She had friends even in her university dayz who were wild but r now married. The most baffling thing 4 me i repeat is that she is pretty. She blames part of her ordeal on the fact that she never really got along well with guys well in school and whenever a guy approaches her, she would alwayz have in the back of her mind that he just wants sex and that once she has sex she will never get married. This story is kind of of funny but il tell u its true.
    She says she respects peoples personal decision on the matter now and given a second chance she might not have been as hardline as she was.

plz guys check out the religion and state issue. i need your candid comments