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Z4M4eva (f)
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tassamal, abeg tell them jo!  It's tassmal  |
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vyvyan (f)
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Pre-marital sex is not ok.The Bible says "marriage is honorable and the bed undefiled".Why would you have sex with someone that is not married to you? I guess majority don't know that sex goes beyond the few minutes enjoyment.it is a covenant, a sacred thing. as many people one sleeps with, a part of that man/girl is tied to them. If a guy says he will not marry you because he has not slept with you, then it is good riddiance to bad rubbish.Come on girls, you are not that should sampled by every Tom, privates and harry.You are priceless and cannot afford to allow yourself get messed up or infected with Stds.
so zip up and stay up!!!!!!!
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kellorah (f)
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r we still on this topic?  |
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dablessed (f)
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Kellorah dear! Why roll your eyes? The topic can't be completely ignored you see.
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brick (m)
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the risk in premarital sex is very high, and the consequences may be difficult to bear. i would subcribe to sex after marriage
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Z4M4eva (f)
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the risk in premarital sex is very high, and the consequences may be difficult to bear. i would subcribe to sex after marriage
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thelastdon (m)
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anything una say na e good, but why don't u direct this to the church.......... wt if after marriage.. the wife come dey deny the hussy of sex....... and I think theres no bad thing if taste wetin u won take ur money buy( wetin u won chop)
Make una no blame me oh!, na Naija spoil me............. LOL
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beautifull (f)
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I do not think it is fair for you to deflower all the girls and then dump them for people like me to marry! Seun! ibeg make u tell the guys wey feel say without sex their's no relationship 
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SweetnSour (f)
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I don't care if its okay with people or not. Its none of my business. I'm against it. thats all
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eneekaycee (m)
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I'm not by this going to say or claim I'm holy or anything of the sort.I too have made my own mistakes in the past and I pray God forgives me as I try to make amends.
From all Ive seen,read heard and experienced.pre-marital sex just exposes you into a world you are not yet prepared to face.Check out the problems associated with it(inspite of the so-called pleasures)diseases(AIDS and all),unwanted pregnancy,emotional trauma(of someone you have given yourself to,body,soul and all suddenly dong sme with someone else etc).You might want to counter with your using protection but the "Oyibo"who made that clearly says that its not 100% foolproof.
So why morgadge your life,future ,health and all to very transitory pleasures.Think my fellow youths,Iknow its not easy.I'm still fighting it myself from day to day.But Iknow that if you can only call on God and confess your inadequacies,He s more than willing and able to help us out.He ll really be more than happy to.And I mean it.
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babwilms (m)
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These world is really funny. Back in the days u see a lot of virgins around , but now adays it has become the protocol (standard) to meet a girl in a club or bar and have sex with her on the same day. It has become acceptable its expected of both parties on the same night to have sex. The bible or any of the holy books does not support it, so why should we engage ourselfs in the act. I surely know its for our benefit to stay free from it. Its funny how some people tell u that they are christians, muslim and any other religions they practice and they constantly cannot obey the basic rules in what they believe in even if u cannot uphold all the laws in it. Premartial sex is wrong.
I'm sure those of us that sees nothing wrong in premartial sex will tell u they have a religion they do practice, and why can't u all follow the basic rules?
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Thagodfada (m)
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I believe in finding out if you are compatible with a girl before marriage. This involves everything, including sex. we should not allow culture to cloud our judgment. You don't want to get married only to find out that the person you married is frigid. That leads to divorce. A little stat: Over 50% of marriages today end in divorce. Most common reasons are money and extra-marital affairs. So please lets get over this sex thing. I am not saying everyone should be dogs and hoes, all I'm saying is if you have that special someone you are planning to marry, you owe to them to make sure that they are really what you want, that way you don't go out later at night looking for what you like on the corner of streets.
FYI: I think the Ten commandments says adultery (going after some else"s wife, right?) That is where i draw the line. PEACE!
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babwilms (m)
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Its not culture, its what we believe in and our holy books does not support pre martial sex. Its for our benefits not to engage in such act unless we are married. Also u said u believe in finding out if u we are compatible with a girl before marriage, that is true but u can never know how compatible u are with the person u getting engage to until u start living under the same roof as her. All courtship before marriage its only 45% of knowing if u are compatible or not and the remaining its when u get married and start livin under the same roof
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whitelexi (m)
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I don't need no log of wood just lying there and doing nothing and expecting me to work my ass out satisfying her on my honeymoon night, she'D better learn the skills at the right age without destroying herself or its over between us. Lol, imagine losing ur hussy on ur honeymoon night simply because u can't move that thing!  Even if u don't lose him that early, you're bound to do so because other women like u will be willing and able to convince him that they're better than u. It is issues like this that drives a man to another woman just because his wifey don't satisfy him in bed. Men?, we don't complain about such issues to the women, we just avoid the woman altogether. |
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whitelexi (m)
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its what we believe in and our holy books does not support pre martial sex. Even those that brought the religion to our country are now ten times worse than we are.  |
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babwilms (m)
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I am a guy.by the way. No doubt , they are worse than us. But it still does not mean that we should turn a blind eye from doing what is right and what has been installed in our mind since we were kids. It's been installed in us and preached to us as kids nt to engage in such activity except when married and just because the world is changing does nt permit us not to follow does basic rules.
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whitelexi (m)
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Practice what u Preach! |
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babwilms (m)
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I do practice what i preach. And i know a lot of guys and ladies that got involve in it that wished they could turn back the hands of time and i'm sure deep down in u, u wished u could turn back the hands of time unless u like lying to yourself. Note one of the worst thing a man can do to himself is too keep lieing to himself and nt face fact. Face the basic fact my guy. I know i do face the fact and i don't lie to myself. Peace
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Hotstepper (f)
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@babwilms, i agree with u. that da world is changing doesn't mean u should negatively change along with it. it is in da bible and not acceptable but who am I 2 say something, itz b/w individuals and God, on that day, I shall be answering ma own questions  |
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Hotstepper (f)
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and yes, i had friendz that wish they haven't done it because accoring 2 them, itz just a matter of 5 minsss,
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allonym
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and yes, i had friendz that wish they haven't done it because accoring 2 them, itz just a matter of 5 minsss,
so then why do they wish they hadn't done it? Its not like it would have been longer if they waited. |
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Viper (m)
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first i think some of you that believe in the bible and GOD should read this. [url=http://diskbooks.org/p2.html ] http://diskbooks.org/p2.html[/url] it might help in the discussion |
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Hotstepper (f)
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@allonym, not matter of been longer if they waited, they found out itz not da end of da world
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allonym
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@allonym, not matter of been longer if they waited, they found out itz not da end of da world
So then they wished they hadn't waited. |
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Hotstepper (f)
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@Viper , da site is soo good so people, da bible sayz there is no sucj thing as safe sex because even condom is not 10-20 percent ptotective
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allonym
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Its not culture, its what we believe in and our holy books does not support pre martial sex. Its for our benefits not to engage in such act unless we are married. Also u said u believe in finding out if u we are compatible with a girl before marriage, that is true but u can never know how compatible u are with the person u getting engage to until u start living under the same roof as her. All courtship before marriage its only 45% of knowing if u are compatible or not and the remaining its when u get married and start livin under the same roof
Don't mean to burst your bubble, you don't need to be married to do any of things you just mentioned. |
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allonym
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@Viper , da site is soo good so people, da bible sayz there is no sucj thing as safe sex because even condom is not 10-20 percent ptotective
The bible says no such thing. Condoms are supposed to be 99% effective. I think by law, they cannot guarantee the last 1% any more that car manufacturers can put a 100% guarantee which says "Car will not blow up when started". Comparing losing your life immediately to losing it over a battle with some disease, its easy to see that many things in our daily lives carry infinitely more risk (assuming that all safety precautions are taken). |
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okewole (m)
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Are u saying marring non-testing because i can't.Its important i know if wot am taking up is re-bag,re-bore,new or fairly used.Any of the above i can take but i must be sure of wot am putting my money on--period
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ashric (f)
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I know a girl who's list of premarital sex partners is more than twenty. She not a street girl by any means, but she can't control herself and has been in a humiliating situation on more than one occasion. (Her boyfriend was talking with some of his friends and they discovered that they all had been with the same girl. Of course he was disgusted and left her.) I wish she would read this post. It can't give her virginity back, but at least she could stop the numbers from going higher. Seun, thanks for starting this thread. Now, I feel much less of a prude!
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allonym
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the fact that she was obviously not his only ever sex partner did not bother him. . .
so, i'm supposed to learn what from this?
- it is ok for a guy to have multiple sex partners but not a girl.
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Reverend (m)
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Part of this begs the question, which Bible are you referring to? If you refer to the King James Bible, there's all sorts of stuff regarding sex and fornification.
It states quite resolutely that sex before marriage is wrong. However, some people do not take from the King James Bible because it is "impure" and many consider it not to be the word of God. So, if you go to the New Testament, things become even more vague.
The New Testament doesn't expressly forbid it, but alludes to it. Some claim that it does not forbid sex before marriage, others claim that it does. Part of the problem is that the New Testament has changed a great deal over time through translation after translation, so there's some argument over it's interpretation. If you want, you can go to the Old Testament - the Torah (the Books of Moses).
The Old Testament is regarded as being reliable because it has hardly changed since Moses wrote it. It's still the original Hebrew. Look in the Old Testament in Leviticus, chapter 18. There's a lot in there about sex and marriage.
In reality there is nothing wrong with sex before marriage. The overall outcome, in my opinion, is that we shouldn't treat sex too lightly. Look in your own heart and you will know how far you can go.
Enjoy yourselves :-)
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