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vikingv200
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face reality everyone. What is the point marrying some who is boring in bed. i am a person who say the way he feels. i believe that you and your partner should attempt sex at least once to find out if you guys are compatible because if you want a long lasting marriage then the sex must be good.
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kenshin (m)
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To everyone who thinks premarital is okay, I wonder how you will feel when in future you have a daughter and she has had sex with every boy in your neighbourhood all in the name of 'testing', experimentation and pleasure?
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allonym
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I didn't know premarital sex means screw every boy on the block.
Wow, you have opened my mind. Now I know, if a wife has sex with her husband the day before they get married, she's been secrewing everything with two legs.
All this time, I've been living under a delusion as to the definition of premarital sex. I just thought it meant having sex before you were married. I didn't know it meant indiscriminant sex with everyone you can.
Now, I understand some of the (to my uneducated mind) idiotic statements I (thought I ) was hearing.
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Hotstepper (f)
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premarital sex means when you have sex before marriage doesn't with who or with how many peolple
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kenshin (m)
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Premarital sex is sex before marriage
Even if you do it with your husband- to-be 2 haours before the wedding it is still premarital sex
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t4cash (m)
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This thread merely confirms that most of the people on this forum are young people.
I'm not saying its OK. But despite all these protestations, most people will have sexual partners before marriage.
Seun, start a poll asking : How many of you had premarital sex? (only married people obviously should answer).
Zip up if you can, but if it has to happen, please please please use a rubber
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allonym
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Premarital sex is sex before marriage
Even if you do it with your husband- to-be 2 haours before the wedding it is still premarital sex
Oh, I was a little confused by this: To everyone who thinks premarital is okay, I wonder how you will feel when in future you have a daughter and she has had sex with every boy in your neighbourhood all in the name of 'testing', experimentation and pleasure?
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curiousNja (f)
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what does yanka mean?
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zatoichi (m)
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If the 2 involved mutaully agree i see nothing wrong with PM sex. At the end of the day it does not in anyway guarantee that you'D have better success in marraige or whatever, infact it could turn out contrary, Whatever side of the fence you are just pray for the best!!!
Virginity is the least of the criteria i'D consider in marrying a babe,there are far more important things!!!!!!!
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kenshin (m)
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@Allonym, I was simply trying to define pre-marital sex.
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sage (m)
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I am still to see anybody who is married who would say that his marriage would have been a failure or bad if their wife had not been a virgin (since africans are sexist).
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Nia
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Per the starter of this thread, I'm not sure why anyone should tell people what to do with their lives. If people want to have PM sex, so what?
Sex is a beautiful thing that connects you with someone you care about. Or even if it's just physical, it's still your choice to enjoy this aspect of being human. Unless you're hurting other people (like cheating or using others), there's no reason why you shouldn't do what you want with your body. Yet we like to attach so much uneccesary stigma to it, i.e. you lose respect for having sex, you're less of a person because you've had a certain amount of partners, (although i'm not sure most people go around announcing how many people they've slept with),
Since when should someone be judged by the status of their dyck or vagina? Is that all a human being is worth? Sexually expressing yourself with someone you care about doesn't stop you from spending every weekend at the homeless shelter or risking your life to save others. Or just being a decent human being.
This is 2006. We should learn to let live.
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SweetnSour (f)
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it is absolutely wrong
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Reverend (m)
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Sex before marriage is absolutely acceptable. Why marry somebody just to find out you are not compatible!
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dominobaby (f)
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Okewole, i am somewhat dissapointed @ your statement: it is important i know if what i am buying is a re-bag, re-bore,, That's not fair to your lady n d women folk! Marrying someone cannot be compared to buying a pair of shoes! A woman is not to be thot of as a piece of merchandise to be 'tried out' but a life partner to be loved n cherished!
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hot-angel (f)
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Ohh this thread. It's making me THINK!
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alj (m)
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i cannot believe this is even a question , i would never marry a woman i had never slept with. i think it is madness
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hot-angel (f)
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i cannot believe this is even a question , i would never marry a woman i had never slept with. i think it is madness
Haaaa?? WHY? |
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alj (m)
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@ hot angel-i just believe that it is such an important part of a successful relashionship
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dominobaby (f)
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hot-angel, why did u say this thread is making u think? Jst asking.
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zatoichi (m)
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while at thesame time being comfortable with the consequences "if" it doesn't last 4eva |
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curiousNja (f)
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You should always test drive a car before you buy it. End of story.
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dominobaby (f)
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Oh really?*omg* so, just how many 'cars' would u test drive before you're satisfied?
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curiousNja (f)
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Keep test driving until you find a car you can live with.
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akani (m)
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i cannot believe this is even a question , i would never marry a woman i had never slept with. i think it is madness
What kind of arguement is this?who has ever gone to the market to purchased some items without having a glimpsy taste of it?how wise is it for one to be in close contact with a person without fully aware of whom,what and who is it?it just like one marketing or purchasing a product in the complete darkness. if this happen guess what might be the result?(oja okukun).For those who may be intrested in the taste, i think its better!Afterall knowing well fully that you're tasting from your dinner no problem about that! |
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ogbonnaya (m)
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william shakespare said that nothing is good or bad but mind made it so
so if you don't like sex keep it for yourself alone but don't tell others to do same.as
your are not having sex there is still other sins you might be committing,you will not know that others are seriousely against it. but don't over shrink yourself in the name of waiting
till marriage ok.
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Sisieko (f)
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Basically the decision lies in YOUR hands and no ones elses. Some people view it in a religious way and some people just have there own opinions. Nobody's can be judged on what they do. The only personm to suffer the consequences is themselves, so why the hell should other people worry. Some parents i kno do not support pre-marital sex. I mean theres so much u have to know before getting married. Like whether or not the husband can perform or even have kids. Not everything u can go to the doctor for. It lies between the couple. There has been many stories of why people wait and don't wait before having sex. Some parents back home would want the couple to have sex before wedding simply so they can make sure they can have babies before they wed. they even hopef or them to be carrying a baby inside a womb on their wedding day. I think nobody is wrong with their decisions on premarital sex.
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goodguy (m)
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Now I see people are comparing themselves to items just to justify their arguments. Keep test driving until you find a car you can live with.
Once you have already test-driven one car, is it really necessary to test-drive other cars you're eventually going to buy? Of what use will that be? Just to let you know, my uncle only learnt how to drive after buying his first car, and he has absolutely no problems with that till date (Now, I mean this literally). Therefore, your comparism doesn't make any sense. What kind of arguement is this?who has ever gone to the market to purchased some items without having a glimpsy taste of it?how wise is it for one to be in close contact with a person without fully aware of whom,what and who is it?it just like one marketing or purchasing a product in the complete darkness. if this happen guess what might be the result?(oja okukun).For those who may be intrested in the taste, i think its better!Afterall knowing well fully that you're tasting from your dinner no problem about that!
Now listen to yourself. You bought the item, so you definitely have every right to taste it because it has now become yours. This is not the case in pre-marital sex. Using your analogy, pre-marital sex is more like stealing an item to test/taste it, after which you will dump it and go for others until you finally decide to buy one yourself. |
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Ashiwaju (m)
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Its one thing to say this and it is one thing to do anada, i am sure most people here don't pratice what they preach. In Honesty the Holy Books kicked against it but in the present generations many things have changed and things are self driven. If we have to live by the Holy books premarital Sex is bad and if we look around, we would find out that 85% of STD's victims are unmarried couples aside the unfaithful thing. It is bad but we can't help it you know. I am no virgin don't get me wrong and like someone said, we have lost the pride, Gone are the days when Bride's and Groom get to do it at the Night of their Wedding. And come to think of it? Asking if Premarital Sex is bad is like asking if Smoking is good for health. We all know it is bad but different strokes for different reasons i say!
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