Premarital Sex is Not OK!

tayo please tell me why?...  i want to know

Uhhh.....is private message the same as sending someone a personal message? Seun, anybody help me out here!

@ tayotina can you tell me why?

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i ama against having sex before marriage because even in the bible it said so and whatever is writtenin the bible shall be obeyed. having sex before marriage is crime. however in most cases girls are rape at their younger age, but then parent should try the possible best to provide these things from happening. i hate sex before marriage it makes you feel thta you are not any longer a woman andyou have not to to you husband when you finally get married to one "because anthor man has seen you nude.
   avdice: stop it if your are doing to some oneand pray that GOd would rescue you from ti

there is no how thta can happen as long as god is with you and he has promised thta he will never live you nor forsake u

to legry
you what is your own problem e=are a nigerian at allif youare a nigerian you should try and do as they do/ stop all this your talk about vir...............let tell you as long as God gives a woman to you you will be able to have sex with her.... GOd said reember that we should respect our husband and stop adultress, when you sleep with an man before marriage you are commit adultress if you are doing it you better stop having sex with young girl please. i am begging you it no use distroying you vir or showing them to another person other than your husband now man can do what they want because this is their orld do not advice girls to have sexual intercourse with a man i am a girl and it of not good to say what you are saying to u.

Isn't marriage all about learning and growing together?... I'm neither claiming to be a virigin nor a slapper, but if i get married to a man with more freakish tendencies than i do, then i expect him to 'teach' and tell me how he likes it being put on him.  As long as one is married, one is not sinning and  one should be as open as one can when it comes to sexual matters.

I am just playing devils advocate here  .  Most relationships end up in divorce today, why?...because they start off in sync with each other sexually (seeing as good sex = love to most people today) and somewhere down the line realize that they are not really compatible in most other aspects of their lives.  Wouldn't married couples be better off by not being totally compatible sexually at first and then growing into 'super freaks' together?

If you take relationships for example, i'm pretty sure most girls (or may be i should be saying naija girls) don't sexually open up fully on the first shag...if this is the case, and if it takes more than one shag to get to the level of sexual compatibility/comfortability in a relationship, then what makes waiting for that to happen in a married situation any different.

hehehe...if i'm attracted to him and we plan to get married the day after we meet each other, then YES!  lol...on a serious note though, i honestly cannot say because each relationship is different and what worked in the last might not necessarily work in the present.

Would you?  or should my question be are you married? 

sup guys. We are all talking like we are some robots that perform some prearrainged function. The truth is that we as humans know many things that are wrong and we still do it, because it is not a simple matter of just say yes and no. 2 adults who know what they want will go for it.

Regardless of what we feel is theoritically right the question of premarital sex is not a strictly logical one. People will always do it because it simply involves our emotions. I don't see many guys that go for two months without sex see. Not that i am promoting anything but the truth remains that if we are really honest to ourselves we will admit that there would always be premarital sex regardlessof individual feelings

okay since its ask copho the question game here, ill ask mine Copho how long can you dateor court a guy before sex happens

Na waya oh, I no dey forum na all sorts don dey happen....sege, so una don begin toast una...na wah oh!!! me don miss oh

Look, unless the man/woman has been through some real trauma (maybe incestous rape) she will 'perform' as well as anybody else given the right information. 

You cannot really test a fiance or fiancee before marriage.  No matter how much testing you might do things will be different after marriage and that's just the fact. (for example, the woman that was 'faking it' before marriage may stop faking after )

If you say you want to test, then where will the testing stop?
- Can she bear children? (does this mean getting her pregnant before marriage?)
- Can he bear children? (does this mean getting preganant with his baby before marriage?)
- Is he/she a good father/mother? (does this mean bearing the child and taking care of it before marriage?  Do you take back the child into your womb when you discover he's not a good father?)
- Will she keep herself attractive ten years after our first baby? (does this mean raising the child together and waiting for ten years before getting married?)
- Will he get a good job and take care of his family? (wait until he is made a manager at his place of work before marrying him).

You can see what I am saying?  You really cannot test anything; a lot of things have to be taken by faith. 

And if you believe so much in testing, then sex is not the only thing to "test".  But it appears sex is the only thing men (and some women) bother to test because they just want to have sex and they are looking for excuses.

 

spoken like a true virgin.

Trust me that is not true at all! Performance varies a lot from babe to babe, there is also a matter of physical compatibility where you do not just click sexually.

But you are right in asserting that we cannot test all aspects before getting married. A lot of people though are more and more  living together before marriage.

A lot are also waiting till the babe is pregnant before going forward.

But as you said this is no guarantee of success, but hey at least they are trying to reduce the odds of failure.