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lindygirl
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this is my story in summarry
been datin a guy for 8yrs. we love each other so much. he does evrytun for me. he is so carin n lovin. a straight and plain person. recently his love has grown to sumtin else. he is now over protective n possesive and also bossy. av now seen another side of him. we he is angry he is sumtin else and can do anytin and say anytin but minutes laterr he starts beggin. but d truth is dt i don't want to get married to some one dt can't control his temper. bt d rel is 8yrs old and i don't know wt to do. recntly we av a quarrel and i told him i want to be on my own so for d past 2 days he hasnt called me because he calls evryday and more dan once. bt rreally i don't know how to go about it because he'll might start tinkin i av sumone else. of which i avnt had any other boyfriend apart from him all my life. but his temper is too much for me to bear even though i know he loves me. i need ur advice please,,
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davidylan (m)
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 It took you 8 years to decide you could not date a guy with an anger issue? It took you 8 years to notice he had become bossy and possessive? Very simple story - you have been with him for too long without marriage, maybe you've even had sex more than some married couples, you've seen other guys, you're bored with him, you want some one fresh. You want out of the relationship not because of his attitude but because you want to be free to get involved with someone else In order words you are just grasping at straws to run away from the relationship! Tell him u're bored and u want out, after 8 years you should not be complaining of his bossiness, it should not have taken you more than 6 months to notice and decide if u wanted to stick with him or not! Don't take the cowardly "he's too bossy and possessive" nonsense, face the truth. you want out to date someone else!
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twinstaiye (m)
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If a woman had not tried another man, she wont know which is better. The truth is, you gave yourself away when you said you had been dating for 8 years. Nobody will believe your story about him being bossy and over protective. Davidylan had said it all, you are simply tired of the relationship. But I warned you, you may find another man's behaviour serious than his, when eventually you succeeded in leaving him.
Why don't you try and live with it, if you know very well he still love you. The negative side of him could be work on, if he takes good care of you and is a responsible guy, the reaosns you gave is very flimsy.
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keliscia (f)
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HI! I don't KNOW IF THIS WILL BE A HELP TO YOU ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS TO SIT HIM DOWN AND TALK IT OVER WITH HIM ABOUT WHAT IS REALLY GOING ON IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU HE WILL TRY TO COME DOWN,    |
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lilnaomi (f)
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yall r jus attackin d girl. she said it dt he was caring, loving, a str8 n plain person. he might av been all these in the 8 years she stayed with him and suddenly changed. it might b dt d guy is d one dt wants out of d relationship not d girl, hence d change of behaviour.
Lindy, my own is talk 2 him bout it n if after som time, he doesnt change, its going to b hard but u gotta let him go.
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akani (m)
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Yea! this issue is somehow flimsy as said because it just a sided game.who know the critics of the issue,the problem might be from the guy or lady and i believe its better to be indiffrent in this case.
i will only suggest that u should take it easy lady,uve been on for 8 good years its not easy to quit the relationship.since uve discover his problem,it will be better to solve amicably by telling him ur want and dislike than for u to terminate the r/ship.do u know how and what the latter parther have as an altitude.
"its better to stick to the bird at hand than those in the bush" as an adage says
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hibans (f)
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Well i agreed with twinstaiye, bcuz u may find another man worster than him and i also agreed with keliscia, seat ur man down and talk t him.
working out the relationship may look somehow, u become a married woman already u have fun even more than some married couples so definitely alot of people know u as a married woman.
in any case we can conclude now bcuz we didn't hear part of the man's own. so, judge but judge wisely, then man can't just rise his temper on u like that u must do one or two things that would upset him.
If u don't know how to handle ur house believe me u even if u meet another Manchester United would still work out. [b][/"be patient and thats what makes a woman ok"b]
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