Which One 1st. Will You Start Dating A Girl Or You Will Inform Your Pastors 1st?

will you start dating or courting a girl without the knowledge of your pastors or will you inform them first?.

i will start dating a guy first, if things become serious - then we going to the pastor



Rhoda, it is for spiritual advice

Some times it is good. I mean spiritual guidance matters because God knows i ain't going to marry a mistake for 40 years or more. Chai, that is worse - i will just regret my entire life

I don't know pastor

I must inform my Pastor first. I must also inform my teachers at school, my grandmother, the king of my hometown and our gateman. Duhhhh Pastor ko, Stopper ni

Honestly, I don't understand what you are saying. I'm lost.

Just think if you have two girlfriends and you are with one in the house, you do not want to get caught do you. So you have to tell the gate man not to let the other girl in if she comes.

or on the other hand you tell the gate man to give the girl vip treatment when she comes.

But i was just kidding

No.

Thank you, omogenaija - you seem to be the only one that actually understands me

It would be a good idea if you go to the same church, i guess . BUT let the girl know of your intensions first.

it's getting more confusing by the day. does it means our pastors can't advice us on this issue before going into it. what is even the attitude of our ladies to this issue. do they like a third party to know they are going out with a guy? am really disturbed about it. let us throw more light or advice into this topic.

pentcostals are good with that, everyting is pastor 1st

i don't understand,  can u please explain ?

can i call u mom,  u remind me of my mom 

i commend you omogenaija, we just don't understand the important of it. information is very vital you know? they have the experience and also leading us through with God's own guidelines. we just have to let them know about it.

some churches require that before you approach the babe you should contact the pastors to prevent you from "chancing" any incumbent if there is already one.

Not to go into too many details. Before getting into my current relationship, i prayed about it. Yeah! i knew the guy, liked him and bla! but it's onething to like someone, and it's another for them to be right for you, so i took it to God, and yes, i got an answer that "the boy is mine," so i carried go. As things began to progress--meeting families and stuff, once the issue of the likelyhood of marriage started coming up, i knew it was time to tell my pastor my intentions. Not just because i wanted to get married or something, but because, i needed spiritual guidance. You think it's every time you pray that God will sit you down and counsel you? that's why men and women of God are there. ***Take advantage of it.

My pastor asked how i met the guy, how i came to the conclusion the guy's for me, if i prayed about it, what God said about it--questions you would ask your child. Being Christians, he asked the vital questions--is he born again? does he love God, and things along those lines. The reasons being that, as committed Christians, you don't want to marry a person that will hinder your relationship with God, you want someone you can build a home with, someone who you can help fulfil their purpose, and they yours! someone who together, you can labor with in God's vineyard. You want someone who you share common visions with. Family will not tell you that, because a lot of cases, they don't know! they will ask you if you love the person, what they do, do you have things in common, does he beat you? things along those lines, but the vital issues of purpose, they won't, but your pastor will.

Remember, we're all designed for a purpose, what good is it being with someone who can't help you get there, or who you can't help get to where they're going? It's like joining a horse and a cow together because you want them to plough a farm! yes, you want them to do the same job, but they're not suitable together to be able to pull that plough, hence you join two like animals to do the job!
In all honesty, how many marriages do you know are happy/ good? or without severe problem? i believe if a lot of people knew God is joining destinies and not just people who are "compatible" with each other, they'D be more purpose oriented when it comes to choosing a partner, and then we'D not be having the high rate of divorce we're seeing now. There'll be days you don't feel in love, but you stay put because you know this person is "help meet" for you.