My Brother Is Sickly In Love

My bros fell in love wit an Ibo lady for the past 8 years and nothing to show for this relationship.  I don't know if the lady has charmed my bros, because he acts stupid atimes.  Anytime my parents or any of my sis/bros/family asked about his progress in the relationship he always flair-up, sometimes warn them not to come to his house again.  There was a time he stop giving his parents monthly allowances for some months because of this issue.

To fall in love wit an Ibo lady is not an issue.  But the lady in question is making matter worst.  I liked here initially, but she's just too lazy, she can't sweep nor take care of the house.  I do the cleaning always because I live with my brother. She comes during the week spend 2 to 4 days and leave. I can't imagine when I left for NYSC, I came back to meet the house unswept for months, cobwebs everywhere, the bathroom & toilet unwash for months etc and my bros will not talk or tell her to do anything than to cook Igbo soup for him.

She pretended to be pregnant and having miscarriages, she is just allowing my bros to waste his energy and sperm.  My parents are not happy with the relationship, my mum especially cries anytime my bros shun her in respect of the relationship.

Please help, what can we do about this or should we leave him alone with his palava?

seem like your brother is rily crazy in love, but since he's happy wit d dirty, lady you av no option but to try n b supportive of his choice and pray he comes 2 his senses.

Mustay: I don't know how to confront her. If I do am sure my bros wil throw me out of the house.

Dominique:I don't feel comfortable with dirt. But it is annoying that I do the cleaning always. She is not supportive atall. I wonder how the house wil look like when I finally leave my bros house.

Idupaul: take your time, am talking serious issue here.

I am certainly feeling the non-sexual content of KEMISUGA's posts nowaday _{ol girl, have u repented?!}

Brash take your time ooh

olukemi tanx.

Han han how many times you go post this Story that touch

Leave your brothers house, maybe then you would be able to see clearly

Is not crime o, but hin dey affect your brain sha

Mustay, honestly i don't know ooh. For her own case she might feel rejected. So I don't want to hurt her or cause any arguments between me and ma bros.

you posted this topic twice?




@ bolded: thats the main thing for sure.

but don't you think its very disrespectful to be fighting your brother's girlfriend/wife in his own house? That's something I can never see myself doing- I hope I respect myself beyond all that.  I don't even know what will make me live in my brother's house at this stage- regardless if he's in a relationship or not.

And shouldnt you be making plans for your own man and your own place, or how long do you intend to live with your brother?

neither am I surprised you're the one doing the cleaning. I had actually suspected that, from the other thread. She may have been the one doing it before, until you probably told her she doesnt know how to clean, or something similar. Na today African/Naijas dey get interfering relations?

abi oh.

I hope I didnt hit a nerve asking when you're going to get your own man and place.

Why must your brother's girlfriend be the one sweeping his house for him, and why is it any of your business.  Jobless girl.  You better go and find a boyfriend or something else to occupy your obviously empty head.  Maybe a cleaning job.  If you're tired of sweeping the house, then move out and stop living off your brother.  let your brother sweep his own house.

 


mr nairaland u harsh o!

Why can't the guy clean his own house.

You should be asking your brother this. She is not married to him yet so should not be doing the cleaning.

Even when they do get married, he should still share in the cleaning. If he can't then they should get a cleaner or househelp.

You are just proving my point. It is not your business if she cleans the house or not. You are way out of line. She is his fiancee and he will more than likely marry her. Do yourself a favor and don't interfere in their business. You have not said that she mistreats him, you have not said that she cheats on him or anything like that. The only thing you can say is that she does not clean the house which I have to respond again by saying it is none of your business.

You worry about your future husbands house being clean and leave the poor woman alone. I sense that you probably tried to bully her but you realized that she would run away to a corner and hide so y'all are frustrated. Have you stopped to think why your brothe ris so frustrated with you guys. Oh I forgot, you said she probably jazzed him. Abeg pick up a second job or something because you have too much time on your hands.

My brother has a girlfriend that he carries everywhere with him. Infact we call her his handbag but I cannot go to my brother's apartment and expect that it should be cleaned by his girlfriend. Even if she lived with him it still would not be my issue. If they want to live like pigs then let them. I cannot even disrespect her like that and I am almost 10 years older than her. Abeg find your own and leave another woman's own alone.

@kemisuga
I understand!!!

outstrip or instrip I don't have your time.