Can You Remember Choosing Your Sexuality?

i wonder why gays are being treated like creatures from the devil, Can you remeber ever choosing to be STRAIGHT? obviously no because i cannot remeber.
that means that it is not a sin being gay but allowing your feelings to guide you is a sin,

I am bi i have wanted to commit suide sevearl time because what i am is not acceptable in our society, it is ver hard to contruoll our feeling just like it is hard for u STARIGHT to look at a girl without admiring, i cry evey night because of what i am, sceintist are trying to figure out what make sus what we are i hope they do so that beinjg gay becomes a sicknes we can cure, then shall beibg become a sin, there are also [programm to help adjust our feeling, please accepting us in to the society is a help you can render to us,  your brother maybe gay, even your own child, i am only 17, then the society shall do to him what u are doing now,

Being GAY is not such a good thing else, why would you be trying to justify your sexuality.

_{Don't like gay guys . . . . sue me}

Help me tell am o.

 

@dayaredum:
Please listen to G2g and mohawkchic.  They're right.  And, give a moment to consider what I have to say, as well.

First of all, God (however you perceive Him to be) did not make anything ugly, wrong or bad.  Any Christian can tell you that.  All are children of the universe and have every right to be.  And, if I may paraphrase Desiderata, whether or not it is clear to us, the universe is unfolding exactly as it should.

It seems that deyaredum has decided that rather than accept such to be the case, it is seemingly more important that mere mortals "define" and "cure" something that is nothing more than a social construct and, thus, has no "cure." 

Why?  If something is not broken, why would (and how could) you fix it?  So, you're bisexual.  If, by that, you mean that you feel that you can love both genders, then perhaps you should consider yourself lucky.  You have come to a realization (if not a total acceptance) that many people deny of themselves and others.  And, if you didn't know, so-called bisexuality exists in the animal kingdom much more than you might think. 

Rather than beat yourself up, maybe you should take a look at yourself, deyaredum (great screen name, by the way)--are you a caring person?  Are you inclined to help those who are in need?  Do you have a good sense of humor?  Are you a hard-working person?  Are you compassionate?  Creative?  Intelligent?  Do you judge others?  Are you non-selfish?   If so, then it sounds as though you're the kind of person we need more of on this Earth. 

Now, let's further consider that you're 17 years old.  Your orientation might still be undefined.   Nonetheless, it is still a very minor part of the whole person that you are. 

I would like to ask you to please consider what these postings have to say.  Let us know how you feel.  I, for one, am not simply trying to make you feel good.  I'm telling you what I see to be the truth. 

you guys speak like i said i am proud of what i am , i only asked a question to see were i went wrong, looks like u guys are just feeling inscured about the rising of gay, even though i am not insupport of them obeying there feeling rather trying to change them self psycologically even thoug i think tha t it is very hard.
   i was  stop from committing sucide by ma cousin even though i didn't tell him the reason why i wanted to do it, people say i would rather have a thief for a son than a gay, you straight think you are better off, in the sight of God, remmember all sins are equall you guys also have sex before marraige, i thank God that at least am bi,

   all i ask for from u guy was advice like those from drrionelli ,G2g and mohawkchic, cause critism is all i have heard all ma life

people do choose their sexuality and to me if you bi then to me you are obviously confused
you either homo or straight, but thats just me
but hey its you're life and you're choice, but i still think you should choose one.

@dayaredum,

U're not alone in ur condition. Here's a post I sent to a similar thread sometime ago:

It's not easy pin-pointing when one actually comes to terms with his or her somewhat "weird" sexuality like being gay, bisexual or stuff like that. You just keep having feelings that u know are unusual, but u just can't help it! Such feelings persist but overtime it just dawns on you that there's little or nothing u can do to change who u are and how u feel - U just have to accept yourself the way u are!

I think all through my childhood I noticed that I took special care in making sure that whatever I did was beautiful and done with style. If it's not extremely pleasing to the eyes I wouldn't be satisfied. That, I have come to realise is one of the attributes of gays/bisexuals. They tend to like things that are really exotic and eye-catching - things usually associated with the female sex; but get aroused by a good-looking and appealing member of the same sex.

I began to seriously question myself when in pry and early sec sch I would often play freely with the girls without one bit of sexual attraction to them. In fact some of my male pals believed I did something to such girls at some corners of the school, but I would just innocently shrug off such comments. Meanwhile I would usually get attracted to some 'beautiful' younger boys around.

It wasn't until I read in some magazines about gay sex, sodomy, fellatio, 69, blow jobs etc that it dawned on me what kind of feelings I have been having all along.

Even till today, I take one look at a boy - young or grown up - and I can almost certainly say this guy will be attracted to someone of the same sex. I almost always know from their eyes, looks, movements, etc. I know because I am one of them. And I have done some good research on these issues. Most times it's just pure instinct. I have had sex with a few boys at the first approach just because I was damn sure the person would like another boy; and I was right!

Gamine you can say it no better. I don't remember choosing any sexuality but I know what sex I came as. I know how my parents made me and I wished to have my own some day and school, society and the media taught me what sex I would procreate with. I heard of fellatio from some boys in a Boys' school. As boarders I guess lack of access to socialize with girls with their school led them to this. I consider it ridiculous that you can decipher a GAY guy from his looks. This world is just becoming weird. One can't even play with a female kid without peeps suspecting you have ulterior motives!   

@Mustay:
Believe me, it is not ridiculous that someone can know a gay guy by his looks.

@Gamine:
You have started with this 'Madness' insult again?

I must agree with ebumowa.  The original poster has not "gone wrong."  Nor has he any reason to be less that proud of the person he is.  And it's quite clear, as G2g says,  that dayaredum is, by no means alone.

Is it not interesting that so many people justify prejudices and biases against homosexuality, especially given that gays do nothing that compromises them directly?  Gays/bisexuals don't take food from the mouths of straight brothers and sisters.  Gays/bisexuals don't take jobs from straights (unless they are far more qualified).  I don't get the lack of tolerance. 

Methinks some so-called straight people protest too much!   

I think people are way too judgemental about the whole gay, bi sexual orientation concept. Like some previous posters have pointed out, being gay/bi is unusual in society, more so considered a sin according to Bible teachings. But so also is fornication and sex before marriage and robbery and lying and stealing and cheating in exams and embezzling public funds and forging certificates, I could go on and on. These so called lesser offenses are just not frowned against that much because they have become so prevalent and society has gradually become tolerant of them.

Because gays/bis still make up a minority of the world's population, it is difficult for straight people to accept them for who they are. I personally don't believe that any living being has the ability to consciously determine what sexual actions arouses them. lets be logical about this. If you are straight, you can't help getting attracted to members of the opposite sex, you can't wake up one day and decide that from now on you will start learning how to become attracted to members of the same sex. You obviously won't do this because it just is not psychologically nor anatomically possible. You also will not do this because you know society frowns at it. So why would you think that gays would be so stupid to develop habits that society openly criticizes. This is just one evidence that sexual orientation is involuntary. We do not determine what we respond to. Nature does.

So please let the gay and bi guys be, they didnt choose to be who they are and if they've tried to change their orientation and it doesnt work then, let them be free from the judgement of selfish and ignorant straight guys who would rather see the speck of dust in their neighbor's eyes rather than examining the plank of wood in their own eye.

PS: By the way i'm not gay just open minded. I love me some fine dark chocolate skinned shawties with the big behind.

@bigboyslim:
Excellent posting!