Ways Of Spicing Up Your Sex Life (fingering)

Fingering: The art of using your fingers to masturbate you partner's vagina. That's the definition anyway. You just put your fingers inside your partner and push in and out and she has a major orgasm; right? If only life was that simple!! Most of us know it isn't. There's a lot more to the art of fingering than the above. I've tried to include a few pointers in this article that can help you and your partner enjoy this experience a little more. As always remember that every woman is different and this only a guide.

The first thing I want to draw to your attention to is lubrication. Lubrication can go a long way to making fingering a more pleasurable experience for a women.

Guys, ever had a woman grab your privates and start to yank, no lubrication, no stimulation. Hurts doesn't it!! It's the same for a women, no lubrication = pain and soreness and that's not what we want. You want her to moan with pleasure not pain.

There are a couple of ways you can help lubricate your partner, foreplay is the obvious one, stimulate her mind as well as her body. Talk to her, tell her how wonderful she makes you feel and how much you want to please her. Lubrication will probably come naturally but if not you could run your finger around your lips and suck on it and then when it's moist begin.

So she's nice and wet thanks to your thoughtfulness. What now?

Don't just shove you fingers inside her, try applying a little gentle clitoral stimulation first. Take your time and explore her folds and curve with your finger tips. Listen to her, talk to her and watch her reactions. You may want to ask her to use her hand to guide yours to the places and pressure that give her the most pleasure. Or you could take that a step further and ask her to show you how she masturbates herself. Watch and learn, take you time and the rewards will be great for both of you.

After some clitoral stimulation you might want to try inserting your finger gently into her. Begin with one and if she enjoys this then try another. Many woman find one finger is not enough but two are just right. As always this depends on the women, because we are all different. Use your discretion here and listen to her, watch her body and her reactions. You should be able to tell a pleasurable moan from an uncomfortable one.

Slide your fingers between her lips and begin to gently explore. Most women don't find the in-out motion that pleasurable to be honest. A much better approach is try and find her G-spot. It's located at the top of her vagina, if she's aroused you will likely feel a rough spongy spot on the roof of her vaginal wall. Push on this and watch her reactions. Using a "come here" motion will probably send her into orbit. Again talk to her and watch her reactions, try applying different pressures until you find what she really enjoys. You may want to get fancy here and stimulate her clitoris with your thumb at the same time. This can be wonderful. Another option is to give her oral whilst using your fingers. This will also help to lubricate her.

Many women are concerned that the guy isn't having any fun here, so make sure that she knows you are. Tell her you love to please her this way and how much of a turn on it is for you to see her receiving pleasure.

Try and be consistent. Changing positions and exploring can be fun but it can also be frustrating for the women. When you find something that she obviously enjoys, keep doing it. Also don't forget that you have two hands and a mouth. Kiss her occasionally, use your free hand to touch her thighs or her breasts but do something. This all adds to the intimacy.

When she has come please don't just jerk your finger/s out, instead remove it/them slowly and gently. This is a wonderful time to look into her eyes and tell her how much you've enjoyed pleasuring her this way.


The key here is to not be afraid to explore your partner or afraid to ask if they like what you are doing. Learn to watch her body, listen to her reactions and be prepared to just pleasure her.

Using your fingers on a woman's vagina can reap amazing results -- given that you do it right. Of course, it's up to you to figure out exactly what your particular woman prefers when it comes to speed, tempo and amount of fingers.
So today's tip is going to offer up a bunch of ways that you can use your fingers on a woman. But before you get to work, there's one thing that's certain -- women need to be revved up and ready to go before you can manipulate their vaginas. You can't just shove your fingers inside them or rub their clitoris without ensuring arousal first. So remember to turn her on before you introduce her to your hands.

1- The rubber
The clitoris is the place to be for most women. When she's adequately self-lubricated, or you put some water-based lube on your fingers, use the tips of your index and middle fingers to rub her clitoris softly in circular motions. Her reaction will let you know that you're on to something. Continue your pace and slowly begin to increase speed. At no point, however, should go so fast that you end up losing focus.

If she yells out something like "Don't stop!" then don't stop. Some women, however, like it when you take a break away from the clitoris and proceed to insert those very same fingers inside their vagina at a rhythmic pace. Figure it out.

2- The fastest finger
Does your woman prefer to have slow, exaggerated sex, or hop up and down on you like a bunny? If it's the latter, then using your middle finger to go in and out of her at high speeds may be beneficial in the orgasm department.

You'd be best served to position yourself in front of her vagina (that is, spread her legs open and kneel in between them). That way, you can keep your hand straight and ensure that your finger(s) is (are) going in at full capacity. It also lessens the chances of missing your target.

3- The helping hand
If you can manage to use both hands at different tempos, she'll be juicing all over the place. While you use the tips of your fingers on one hand to rub her clitoris in a circular motion, use the index and middle fingers of the other hand to glide in and out of her vagina.

The multiple sensations will serve to increase her chances of reaching orgasm. And it's not a race; you don't have to go as fast as humanly possible. Just keep a steady rhythm. If she wants it faster, she'll let you know. At least, she should.

4- The screw
In the spirit of the "fastest finger" technique, you'll need to use your index and middle fingers for this one. Again, sit between her legs and start off with the palm of your hand facing down. Insert your fingers all the way in, then turn your hand so that your palm is facing up and come out. Repeat it as often as necessary until she reaches orgasm.
Tip: When you turn your hand so that your palm faces up, tap her clitoris with your thumb each time.

5- The G-spot indicator
Sitting in front of her with palm facing up, when you insert your finger(s) inside her, make a "come hither" motion. Your objective is to try to tap her belly button from the inside, in effect hitting her G-spot. Don't get aggressive right away, however. Start off slowly and, judging by her reaction, keep the same pace or increase speed.

6- The shocker
If you and your woman enjoy experimenting and you've explored the back end before, then this one may be quite enjoyable for her. While you're using your index and middle fingers in her vagina, stick your pinky finger in her anus (your hand must be sideways, that is, your palm would be facing her thigh). While you go in and out, both holes will be stimulated simultaneously.

Keep in mind that after you place a finger into her anus, you cannot place that same finger into her vagina -- it may lead to infection.

7- The slider
This one needs good lubrication. With your index and middle fingers, start off by placing the tips of your fingers on either side of her clitoris, then glide down and make your way inside her vagina. Get back to where you started and keep repeating this maneuver.


Can't put my finger on it

Manipulating the vagina to orgasm is not as difficult as you may think. Once you manage to arouse her mind, her body will follow. And of course, you should encourage her to be vocal about what she likes.

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@calabarman
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