How The Loss Of A Beloved Affects Your Love Life: My Own Experience

That really touched me and brought tears to my eyes too.

August 4, 2005 was the day

"Daddy" as i call him because that was what he was to me.

He died a soldier, he died while in the battle front, he died fighting. He was a GENERAL trying all his best to train and commandeer little soldiers like me. He was without his own biological child after years of marriage, but he became shelter to us in every way, on every side. "Mummy" cried so much, she could cry no more, telling me there can never be a replacement for "Daddy" in her life.

She wanted to go on that journey that day but "Daddy" said

"you wait behind and take care of the discipleship class" (there was supposed to be class that day)

On his way to search for  & monitor new converts, he was called. It was too much to bear 

Dr. M.O.A I remembered your contant words to me again this moment.

,  life is short, we have little time left 

as if he had known that all his life 

We often do not realize the importance of the presence of people until their absence hits us.

How can I enjoy having a good time in Shomolu without Francis Ochalla.
I remember the day he was visitng and a girlfriend came to dress well on her way to keep an appointment.
Ochalla said if the babe could change in our bedroom that meant she was not doing so for the first time and he kept on teasing me. He was very popular in our neighbourhood. He left Nigeria for another country and returned to introduce the beautiful woman he wanted to marry to us. He was planning their wedding when he died in a road accident.
The world stopped moving that day.
I said if I knew, I would have stopped him from the trip that cost him his life.
He was going to the Eastern part of Nigeria to  tell his aunt about his wedding.
Some people are unforgettable and life will never be the same without them.
Francis Ochalla always smiled with glints of love and joy in his eyes.

The loss of such loving souls have made me to love people more and made me to appreciate life more and to give my best to my beloved ones, because I believe how much we love someone shows how much we appreciate the life we share with the person.

Love heals and love saves lives.


Only the living matters most to us now, so let us do our best for the living, because there is nothing more we can do for our dearly departed than to keep their memories alive as we move on,

Let us all make our path right while we can,  Life is a pilgrimage, nothing is permanent.


RIP,   my  beloved Dad.

   very sad thread this one is!  but it reminds us of the transient nature of our existence in the land of the living.     my mother's burial outing ceremony is tommorrow friday 22nd august 2008. she died of sudden heart attack on "friday" 20th june 2008- two days to my birthday -after my dad and her finished watching the network news without any hint of any clinical problem talkless of an impending demise.she was said to have wore all her best clothes during her last one week alive.she changes into two ceremonial clothes per day.she insisted that my brother should delay his return to school till "friday" because she's "travelling" on "friday". she actually breathed her last in the hand of my younger brother that "friday".she never waited to eat the fruit of her labour for any appreciable time. i am a medical doctor and a serving corper in gombe state . she died in the wake of my working life. she never knew my girlfriend talkless of seeing my children. i lay down my own floral wreath at this cyber graveyard and i soberly inscribed this epitaph for the woman i've loved all my life Odunola atoke! abiyamo tooto!iya alanu omo, oninututu, Orun re re o![i] Maa sun Olufe ti ao fi pade l'ookan aya Jesu. you live on in my heart and even in your death i love you. your  dearest son, olufunmibi.[i][/i][/i]

To the loving memories of my dear friends:

Seyi Aweda (FGCE)- 199X

Anthonia Eke(Archi Ife) - 02/02/02

Tade (Archi Ife)

Otito (Archi Ife)

Jennifer (NYSC SOK BAtch A 06) - ADC Plane crash 06

Remi (Cousin) 04/07

Remi (Friend) 08/07

And other relations, neighbours and friends

We will meet again. Who are we to question God?

it could be really very devastating for one to lose a loved one. July 11,2008 is a day i will never forget in my lifetime.my dad, my great hero passed on.i just could not believe it. it looked like a dream but it was reality.my dad was gone for life.funny enough, God strenghthened my family. we all loved him so much.but God was there for us as we did not weep too much. our only consolation is that he has made heaven.
i wish to light a candle for my late dad and for the souls of all the departed. enjoy your deserved rest in peace.

 it so hard even if u make me remember the most painful departure of my brother and my friend. i have this cousin named sikiru which was also my brother on the fathers side it was tagged on dere mother that she killed her husband, she was sent out of her her husband house without takin pin out of the house,all d six children she gave birth 2 were siezed and were given 2 dere fathers brother who was with d best behaviour he took care of them sent them 2 school and after some few months her first child died and was buried, and another died which was d last born
when it came 2 sikiru turn he was at d back of a lorry which wasnt his first time riding, he fell down at d back of d lorry on express and was rushed to the  hospital he was bleedin through his mouth and nose and later died few minutes later a day i will never forget. d last time i saw him he gave me 500 that i shld  share it with my siblings and said he would call me not knowin this is the last time i will ever see him, i didnt hear about his death i was tryin 2 play april fool on my dad and told him someone died in d village he said have we heard we said that what when he told me i cried and cried cause he is respectful, he has courtesy and evry thin 2 call som1 a good behaved human being i also lit a candle for him R.I.P.
i was just admited 2 this new school i met a girl called remi in class she was called all sorts of names and wasnt even brillant enough 4 d department she was in,later we be came friends through my siblings when dey came 2 ask 4 money for food i would hav spent it then lie 2 them but she will tell them d truth and gave them another money and from dere she told me how her mom was a single parent since she was born and whenever we talk she always told me  that if she collected her first salary  she would give it 2 her mom ,she apreciated her mom a lot and unfortunately she was an ss so she was sick as her friend i voluntered 2 take her home and imediately we got 2 her house her mom new it was  her sickness and for almost 2 mnths she didnt come 2 schl when she came i was so happy that som 1 that takes care of my responsibility is back . iescorted her home not knowin it was d last time i would see her later i heard she was very very sick that she had t.b and diffrnt kind of ailment d nxt we hrd was that she was dead i was shocked i couldnt cry in schl when i got home, i told my mum and wept as if i havnt done it before and rmbrd times we share 2gether  i couldnt go and greet her mom because she would not be happy seein me i missed her so much  REMILEKUN IF I HAD  SOM THIN I CLD TRADE 2 BRING U BACK  I MISS  U SO MUCH R.I.P.

May God rest the souls of the departed ones and keep thoseof us alive so as to worship him as he ought to be and then die with our faith amin.
I have always dread the death of someone close because it has never happened to me in my life but on the 7th day of july 2008, i actually knew how it feels to loose someone.
Olalekan Habdulhafeez my beloved brother died after a very brief illness infact he walked to the hospital himelf and he never came back.
I am yet to come to terms with his death,anytime i hear a knock or someone opens the gate i always feel as if he has finally come back but i think i have to shake myself up to reality and accept the fact that he is gone.
I kept wondering and pondering each time it rains that it all goe to him in his garve,all alone without a neighbour or even a confidant. loko God bless ur soul and may He rank u among the righteous.
It is already written that every soul shall taste death,even death himself will die leaving only God, Allah SWT may we die with our faith.
My heart goes out to all the breaved take heart and please live everyday as if its the end.