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onyinye2 (f)
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #32 on: August 21, 2008, 12:46 AM »

Quote from: chamotex on August 21, 2008, 12:38 AM
its funny to see how some ladies in the house didnt say anything about the generalization of GUYS here

@ topic

because some just talk yama-yama into your brains, nothing really relevant Embarrassed

especially on the phone at night when a negro is trying to get some sleep, thats when they want to talk for hours

"I'm so tired, lets chat" - if u are tired why not go to bed

"You can't beleive what happened at the salon today" - Thats for u and your girlfriend

They call u 3am in the morning "Are you sleeping?" Duh, even if I'm not. . . . .
Are you serious? This reminds me of the stuff i use to do when i was like 16. Are you sure this is a girl not a woman?
chamotex (m)
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #33 on: August 21, 2008, 12:53 AM »

Quote from: onyinye2 on August 21, 2008, 12:46 AM
Are you serious? This reminds me of the stuff i use to do when i was like 16. Are you sure this is a girl not a woman?

Quote from: bluespice on August 21, 2008, 12:44 AM
lmfao! what sorta girls u been rolling with?  Shocked

 Grin Grin Grin exactly, so u know u do that Tongue

i roll with all types of girls, no discrimination Grin Grin
topup
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #34 on: August 21, 2008, 12:54 AM »

Oh, they listen, they catch the things you don't want them to Tongue

Seriously, they often do listen, but they rarely store jibber jabber in their memories, but when it comes to your birthday, that coat you talked about is wrapped up, or that necklace you couldn't afford is boxed for you.
Hannibal
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #35 on: August 21, 2008, 12:55 AM »

Quote from: topup on August 21, 2008, 12:54 AM
Oh, they listen, they catch the things you don't want them to Tongue

Seriously, they often do listen, but they rarely store jibber jabber in their memories, but when it comes to your birthday, that coat you talked about is wrapped up, or that necklace you couldn't afford is boxed for you.


You are a top babe. Cool
onyinye2 (f)
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #36 on: August 21, 2008, 12:55 AM »

Quote from: chamotex on August 21, 2008, 12:53 AM
Grin Grin Grin exactly, so u know u do that Tongue

i roll with all types of girls, no discrimination Grin Grin
Hmmm. . . . . mind you i said "16". so you are hanging with 16 year olds. . . .
bluespice (f)
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #37 on: August 21, 2008, 12:56 AM »

chamotex! ma begi fun e!
oya ni shon'le
iyawo'n re ti te bed fun e
ogogoro yen ti to! Grin
DeepZone
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #38 on: August 21, 2008, 12:57 AM »

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ms HIV me ass. . . . . If every guy that Polys get infected with the Virus then mankind woulda been erased since.
Have u heard of prophylactics

Prophylactics for HIV? How many people  have the prophylactics?
DeepZone
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #39 on: August 21, 2008, 01:00 AM »

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Oh, they listen, they catch the things you don't want them to Tongue

Seriously, they often do listen, but they rarely store jibber jabber in their memories, but when it comes to your birthday, that coat you talked about is wrapped up, or that necklace you couldn't afford is boxed for you.

Have you also noticed that men suffer from SELECTIVE amnesia? They'll remember who scored the 2nd goal during the 1978 world cup finals but will find it difficult to remember your birthday. Why? If their memory is not retentive, how come they remember something that happened 20years ago? Men are fraudsters.
chamotex (m)
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #40 on: August 21, 2008, 01:01 AM »

Quote from: bluespice on August 21, 2008, 12:56 AM
chamotex! ma begi fun e!
oya ni shon'le


kini k'alo she nile?

mi o she jo. . . . . . iyawo mi ma binu Grin Grin

ko kin sun e ni Cheesy Cheesy
davidylan (m)
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #41 on: August 21, 2008, 01:02 AM »

Quote from: DeepZone on August 21, 2008, 01:00 AM
Have you also noticed that men suffer from SELECTIVE amnesia? They'll remember who scored the 2nd goal during the 1978 world cup finals but will find it difficult to remember your birthday. Why? If their memory is not retentive, how come they remember something that happened 20years ago? Men are fraudstars.

Your birthday comes everyyr, if we miss it this time there's still next yr and the next and the next and the next but if you want your gift NOW then you can always wait for easter or christmas or new yr or aniversary or . . . the world cup happens only once in 4 years. Be understanding.
DeepZone
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #42 on: August 21, 2008, 01:05 AM »

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Your birthday comes everyyr, if we miss it this time there's still next yr and the next and the next and the next but if you want your gift NOW then you can always wait for easter or christmas or new yr or aniversary or . . . the world cup happens only once in 4 years. Be understanding.

Cheapskate!!!!
minute (f)
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #43 on: August 21, 2008, 01:06 AM »

Most of them listen,guess it depends on the   subject:-\ Undecided Undecided

He will not listen??

Hmmm!! orun ma jabo nio.
The Sly
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #44 on: August 21, 2008, 01:15 AM »

Quote from: minute on August 21, 2008, 01:06 AM
Most of them listen,guess it depends on the   subject:-\ Undecided Undecided

He will not listen??

Hmmm!! orun ma jabo nio.
Grin                              Grin Grin                                Grin Grin Grin                                 Grin Grin Grin Grin                                       Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin
rampant (f)
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #45 on: August 21, 2008, 01:33 AM »

sly where on this planet earth have u been? Angry dnt u know we all missed u Sad
DeepZone
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #46 on: August 21, 2008, 01:47 AM »

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dnt u know we all missed u
Except me, I don't miss womanizers. Grin Grin Grin
rampant (f)
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #47 on: August 21, 2008, 01:52 AM »

LMAO @funmi Grin Grin  everybody don know sly occupation Grin Grin
Ruby_Pearl
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #48 on: August 21, 2008, 02:43 AM »

Quote from: DeepZone on August 21, 2008, 01:05 AM
Cheapskate!!!!
Thank you!!
DeepZone
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #49 on: August 21, 2008, 04:48 AM »


The Male Brain, Explained

By Laura Schaefer
Women have puzzled over it for years—why the heck do men do the things they do? Why do they profess their love for you one minute, then ignore you the next (say, when an Attila the Hun special turns up on TV)? Why can they not remember our birthdays? Let science explain some of these conundrums—and help you rev up your relationships!

Be patient with his memory
The hippocampus, where initial memories are formed, occupies a smaller percent of the male brain than the female brain. If on your first date he can't remember where you work, even though you told him all about it when you met, just remember that size matters … hippocampus size, that is. Don't take it personally. (Oh, and don't be surprised when, months down the line, he has no clue you've just changed your hair.)

Don't expect him to get hints

Have a crush on him? You may have to put it out there, because men aren't as skilled at women at reading subtle emotional cues. As Dr. Larry Cahill of the University of California at Irvine puts it, "We have been assuming that the ways in which emotions are organized in the brain are essentially similar in men and women," but they aren't. Parts of the limbic cortex, which is involved in emotional responses, are smaller in men than in women. Additionally, scientists at McMaster University have found that guys have a smaller density of neurons in areas of the temporal lobe that deal with language processing. That's why it's probably a good idea to tell him straight-up how you're feeling ("I'm kind of hurt that you forgot I hate sushi"). Expecting him to infer from your hints could leave both of you scratching your heads.

Don't take conversation lulls personally
Fact is, guys in general just aren't as verbally adept as women are. Large parts of the cortex — the brain's outer layer that does a big part of recognizing and using subtle language cues — are thinner in men than they are in women. A study led by Dr. Godfrey Pearlson of Johns Hopkins University has shown that two areas in the frontal and temporal lobes that play an important role in language processing are significantly smaller in men. Using MRIs, the Johns Hopkins scientists measured gray matter volumes in several brain regions in 17 females and 43 males. Women had 23 percent more volume than men in the dorsolateral prefrontal cortex and 13 percent more volume than men in the superior temporal cortex. "Women," explains Dr. Cahill, "excel in being able to come up with appropriate words, given cues." Men — not so much. Don't expect him to chatter with you on dates with the skill of a girlfriend, and don't assume he's not interested in you if he occasionally lets the conversation lapse. Think of it this way: He's simply basking in moments of quiet companionship.

Appreciate his naturally upbeat nature
Does he seem to be "up" most of the time? It's not your imagination: Male brains produce 52 percent more serotonin (the chemical that influences mood) than female brains, according to a study done at McGill University. And studies show that fewer men than women suffer from depression. Guys may also have an easier time rolling with life's big stresses. If he tells you he recently lost his golden lab or suffered a job loss and doesn't get all teary, it doesn't mean he's heartless; rather, he has healthy stores of serotonin.

Don't expect his take on your relationship history to match yours
He may be incapable of seeing your shared past the way you do. Brain images have started to show that men and women use their brains in vastly different ways. For example, women use the left part of the amygdala — the part of the brain that creates emotional reactions to events — to put memories in order by emotional strength, meaning that something emotionally important to them (like a great first date a couple of months ago) will be ordered in front of what they ate for breakfast yesterday. Men, however, use the right part of the amygdala to put memories in order. Traditionally, the right hemisphere of the brain is associated with the central action of an event, while the left hemisphere is associated with finer details. Translation: You'll both remember your first date, but he might not remember the color of your sweater or the light rain that was falling that night. It doesn't mean he was checked out; it just means he's a guy.

Remember his brain is his largest sex organ
In males of several species including humans, the preoptic area of the hypothalamus is greater in volume, in cross-sectional area and in the number of cells. In men, this area is more than two times larger than in women, and it contains twice as many cells. And what, say you, does this have to do with the horizontal mambo? Plenty. This area of the hypothalamus is in charge of mating behavior.

This small structure connects to the pituitary gland, which releases sex hormones. So if your boyfriend wants to get intimate all the time and you feel like Ms. Low Desire, remember: You're just experiencing normal, brain-based differences.






http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/articlematch.aspx?cp-documentid=8860750&GT1=32023
j-girl (f)
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #50 on: August 21, 2008, 08:48 AM »

 Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry
Don't mind the rapscallions.
The best thing you can do to punish me is to put me with a dude who doesn't talk and when I talk, he won't listen.
It's a freaking disaster. Those are the guys who punish me too well for my liking.
Tell them once that I don't like this. . . . . .and the goats continue to do the same thing over and over.
When you try to engage them in conversations, they just give you monosyllablic answers.
Arrrrrrrggggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
Just throw me in fire instead  Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry better yet, just put me with a lifeless object. That will at least not talk about you talking too much.  Angry Angry Angry
Gamine (f)
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #51 on: August 21, 2008, 09:51 AM »

Exactly, they only listen to the things they love to hear Undecided

DeepZone
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #52 on: August 21, 2008, 09:36 PM »

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Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry
Don't mind the rapscallions.
The best thing you can do to punish me is to put me with a dude who doesn't talk and when I talk, he won't listen.
It's a freaking disaster. Those are the guys who punish me too well for my liking.
Tell them once that I don't like this. . . . . .and the goats continue to do the same thing over and over.
When you try to engage them in conversations, they just give you monosyllablic answers.
Arrrrrrrggggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
Just throw me in fire instead  Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry better yet, just put me with a lifeless object. That will at least not talk about you talking too much. 

Roflmao; You won't like my bruva. Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin

Dude is mute!!!
DeepZone
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #53 on: August 21, 2008, 09:37 PM »

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Exactly, they only listen to the things they love to hear
i.e food and sex but anytime you want to talk about shopping, they suddenly become deaf and dumb.
Moyola (f)
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #54 on: August 21, 2008, 09:41 PM »

Quote from: DeepZone on August 21, 2008, 09:37 PM

i.e food and sex but anytime you want to talk about shopping, they suddenly become deaf and dumb.

Yeah,
sum guys kant juzz b bothered!!

topup
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #55 on: August 21, 2008, 10:17 PM »

The whole thing about 'the male brain', girls lets be realistic, if a guy is really into you, he'll pay attention to you, into you as in he is head over heels with you. However, over time guys will get complacent, because they are used to you, it doesn't mean they don't care, but they will get used to you and the tiny details about you become less of a priority in their brains.

I remember with my ex, he remembered my shoe size from the first time we spoke, he remembered the name of my village/hometown though it's name's really random and I don't even talk about it, he remembered a lot of thing, in fact he asked a lot of questions in a desperate attempt to know me and get closer to me, but then as the relationship went on, he couldn't remember me telling him I'd come over to see him, and then funnily enough, he couldn't even remember telling me he loved me LOL! Yeah, that just shows you a little peek into the mind of guys.

If they truly love you and value you, the little details matter to them, but as soon as you become permanent/casual in their lives, they get comfortable, and don't listen as hard, because these little details won't determine whether you'll stay with them or not, because you would have already been with them for months and so they are more relaxed. It's not just guys who do this, this is the norm! It is human nature, in the first moment of meeting someone you try and listen hard, but then over time you become more relaxed around them, if you miss something they say, you're not begging them to repeat it. It's not only guys who do this girls do it too, however women just seem to think it's a bigger deal if their guy doesn't hear something they've said. Whilst I think guys just let it slide, it doesn't bother them much. They are probably honest and realistic enough to accept that not everything they're saying is keeping you at the edge of your seat Tongue
bigboyslim (m)
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #56 on: August 21, 2008, 10:33 PM »

Dear Topup, you are so full of wisdom. This is hitting the nail right on the head. i'm not saying it's right for guys not to remember anything their girl says, but ladies should cut us some slack. Sometimes its difficult to remember every little detail, especially when the chase is over if you get what i mean:)
DeepZone
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #57 on: August 21, 2008, 11:45 PM »

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The whole thing about 'the male brain', girls lets be realistic, if a guy is really into you, he'll pay attention to you, into you as in he is head over heels with you. However, over time guys will get complacent, because they are used to you, it doesn't mean they don't care, but they will get used to you and the tiny details about you become less of a priority in their brains.

I remember with my ex, he remembered my shoe size from the first time we spoke, he remembered the name of my village/hometown though it's name's really random and I don't even talk about it, he remembered a lot of thing, in fact he asked a lot of questions in a desperate attempt to know me and get closer to me, but then as the relationship went on, he couldn't remember me telling him I'D come over to see him, and then funnily enough, he couldn't even remember telling me he loved me LOL! Yeah, that just shows you a little peek into the mind of guys.
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If they truly love you and value you, the little details matter to them, but as soon as you become permanent/casual in their lives, they get comfortable, and don't listen as hard, because these little details won't determine whether you'll stay with them or not, because you would have already been with them for months and so they are more relaxed. It's not just guys who do this, this is the norm! It is human nature, in the first moment of meeting someone you try and listen hard, but then over time you become more relaxed around them, if you miss something they say, you're not begging them to repeat it. It's not only guys who do this girls do it too, however women just seem to think it's a bigger deal if their guy doesn't hear something they've said. Whilst I think guys just let it slide, it doesn't bother them much. They are probably honest and realistic enough to accept that not everything they're saying is keeping you at the edge of your s
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That's because he wants PUZZY, as soon as he gets it, every other thing you are saying is yaba yaba DoooH.
StephenP (m)
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #58 on: August 21, 2008, 11:58 PM »

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But then again i like silence too. . . . i rather sit outside and soak up the energy of the earth then an afternoon running my mouth.

Onyinye, I know better than to believe this blatant lie. I know you're the type to talk too much even in your sleep  Grin.
Ruby_Pearl
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #59 on: August 22, 2008, 12:05 AM »

Quote from: StephenP on August 21, 2008, 11:58 PM
Onyinye, I know better than to believe this blatant lie. I know you're the type to talk too much even in your sleep  Grin.
lol
And I guess you knew that how. . . . . ? Grin
DeepZone
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #60 on: August 22, 2008, 12:06 AM »

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lol
And I guess you knew that because

He's stalking her.


Dude graduated from Hannibal's college of stalking.
Ruby_Pearl
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #61 on: August 22, 2008, 12:09 AM »

Ohhh, ok, now I understand. But am sure that Stephen is too smart for that school 
StephenP (m)
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #62 on: August 22, 2008, 12:14 AM »

Quote from: DeepZone on August 22, 2008, 12:06 AM


He's stalking her.


Dude graduated from Hannibal's college of stalking.

Oga o . . . I had my degree a long time ago. I already have my PhD.

Quote from: Ruby_Pearl on August 22, 2008, 12:09 AM
Ohhh, ok, now I understand. But am sure that Stephen is too smart for that school 

 Grin

Quote from: Ruby_Pearl on August 22, 2008, 12:05 AM
lol
And I guess you knew that how. . . . . ? Grin

It's between Onyinye and I. Nobody else will know.
Ruby_Pearl
Re: Why Won't Guys Listen?
« #63 on: August 22, 2008, 12:23 AM »

Quote from: StephenP on August 22, 2008, 12:14 AM
Oga o . . . I had my degree a long time ago. I already have my PhD.
Hmm, I trust you did!
Seeing the way those poems roll out of you, every ounce of doubt is slowly evaporating

Quote from: StephenP on August 22, 2008, 12:14 AM
It's between Onyinye and I. Nobody else will know.
*couch*Excuse me
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