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mosiate (f)
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See eh, there is a rule man should run after women, not women to do otherwise. I've tried it, I gave the signs, it clicked but, later it was fucked.
As lady if you love a guy, be careful how you show your sign, the guy might get the signs but the end will be fucked. Rather keep him as a intimate friend instead of going into a releationship.
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Seun (m)
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Mosiate,
What about the relationships you had with your previous boyfriends before the one you asked out? Were they not "fucked", too? 19 out of 20 relationships in this day and age are "fucked" because hardly do you find a relationship that ends in marriage. So your story does not prove anything.
A girl can do her thing to catch the right guy but she needs to know that the guy may not love her in return. She has to be ready to accept that.
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stababy (f)
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See, I'm a fine girl and I remember one day when I was just coming back from class. One guy was staring at me and walking and he stumbled and almost fell. He was a fine boy and men I still trip small sha! But na na I won't let him know because guys are the actual tolotolos. Tell him you like him or show it to him and him head go swell like over-pumped football.
So if I like a guy I won't show him. I will just let him suffer; get ma point?
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Seun (m)
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You don't have any point. If you like a guy and you don't tell him, you're the one who will suffer! I mean, the guy probably doesn't even like you; he probably has his eyes set somewhere else. By the way: When I see ladies being proud because of their beauty I just laugh. Unless your into modelling or prostitution (high class, you know what I mean;)), you have just as much to lose by your beauty as you have to gain. So don't let it get into your head, or soon you'll be 35, still beautiful for your age, and wondering where all the responsible men have gone. (Well they are married and you're not  ). |
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stababy (f)
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Well, like I said, I'm just too fine. It's just that the guys I see around are not up to my standards. Get what I mean? Dem no fine reach!
So when I see the one I like, maybe I'll fall. But as a girl I have to make the necessary yanga, you know. If I like you, I will play, but if I don't like you, I'll just play along with you and eat your money.
I think now you will get that.
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Pinky (f)
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stababy & seun, u guys sure want to kill me laughter though  |
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love4ever (f)
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Well, it's kind of embarrasing for me to ask a boy out. It those not make any sense. Moreover, I am not interested in them and I do not wish to be until I am done with my studies. I like a guy who is real, down to earth, caring and not annoying. Someone who would always stand by your side when you are down. I have boys that are friends but I am not ready for serious relationship. I can love someone just for an hour then the love would be gone and that is my life now. When I finish studies I would marry and that is it. Anyways I am interested in a guy who is intelligent and cable of helping. What does a guy want from a girl? |
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love4ever (f)
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because there are shy and there feel that when they tell this guy they would be in trouble or the guy would rejev them.
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mosiate (f)
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love4ever, why do think they are shy? Have you ever tried it once?
This is not a matter of being shy, it is a matter of intergrity. I mean, it is not not a polite thing in our society. We are not in Europe nither are we in America; we are in Nigeria! It is unheard of; ladies are to reject guys, not to face rejection by a guy.
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Seun (m)
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ladies are to reject guys ... Is rejection of a man's proposal a thing of joy to you? I have never understood how women could sit around "waiting for the right guy". I mean, they have so much faith in fate! What if the right guy doen't come around? I like to be in charge of the things that affect my life. Marriage is something that's so important in a woman's life (especially) yet you see girls sitting around waiting for guys to ask them out because they can't handle rejection. When you want to apply for a job, a scholarship, admission to college, or so many other mundane thing your fear of rejection doesn't stop you. But when it comes to something you spend every waking moment thinking about you want to sit down and wait for fear of rejection . |
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legry (m)
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... my advice is.. "if you like him, he looks appealing to you.. go for him, if he acts funny or says 'No' ...get on with life. There ere other sweet dudes out there waiting to know you better"
I just bumped into this topic and I am amazed at how I could miss such interesting (shaking my head in amusment) conversations. Pinky, in my books you are the smartest person on this topic. Ladies, you don't have to shout 'I love you'. Haba, if you like a guy and you think he likes you and in the name of shakara and I have to be all prim and proper you let the guy go then I'm sorry for you. Body language works a lot of miracle. Nobody is saying you should be slutty about it, but girl use that body language very sensibly and you would be amazed at his reaction. 95 out of every 100 men react well to body language.Yes, we men we all love the thrill of chasing, but the thrill of something different is also amazing. Imagine you giving a guy strong body language now and the reacts to it and almost immediatley you react to him like you don't give a hoot about him. Guess what? Reactions like this confuse us and interest us immensely. There is nothing wrong with you going for the guy you like; it's just how you go about it that would determine your fate. Love4ever, you had better be young by the time you finish school. If not, this your dream of realising men or the males exist and would be waiting for you when you leave school would hit right in the face. Stababy na wa for you o. So you think say na fine boy go solve your problem? Well okay, the choice is yours, but ' when e go happen don't shout that all fine boys are bastards o'. And by the way, what standards exactly are we talking about here? Na wa for you, guys are not up to your standards ... look there are bad boys everywhere don't let them show you o! |
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Pinky (f)
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legry, thanks for the compliment. My head dey swell! Anyway I was only being real, you know. So Mr seun moderator/administrator, don't you think I deserve a price for being the best on this topic? Lol!
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love4ever (f)
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to legry
so you like to hear what other people are saying you are one kind of boy you love girls alot stop it. legry you are not like the other boys i have met here
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legry (m)
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Love4ever i don't love girls alot according to your quote what i do is respect them alot and in return i get mine back, and yes off course ill hear what others are saying and ill comment on it too, and please do tell me madam what makes me diffrent from the other guys here.
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tayotina (f)
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 legry, maybe you've got two balls. Oh, sorry that was a slip of tongue.
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sage (m)
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a lady making here feelings known to a guy that she has studied does not make her cheaper or any of sortt. I appreciate women that can go 4 what they want
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stababy (f)
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See legry don't talk like that, a friend of mine was beaten up by her boyfriend so bad she had 2 go to the hospital bleeding like a stuck pig u think i want that 2 happen 2 me of course not.
its not as if i like only fine boys but see guys generally these days r ruthless and if i want 2 go out with one ill look for a responsible young bachelor not any irresponsible little child okay
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twinkledew (f)
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You all make me laugh . I saw the comments some of you lot kept there. Solo2, winking [  ] isn't a good idea. It isn't a good way of communicationg to a man. It might mean winking to get quick sex. To some it means "notice me", etc. I guess if you want to rate it, 1% of guys would take that to be " I love you; would you want to go out with me?" To all the girls out there, if you want something, go out to get it. But don't be desperate, and when I mean go out there I am not saying you should ask the guy out. You all should be able to take any rejections. And why would a guy reject a girl? Seems to me that dude must be a dump ass person. Someone said guys are the head. That is (wrongeditor). This is 21st century, there ain't head of the family. Anyone is the head. This question should not be related to gender. We females are equal to the lads, so you girls out there should act the same way guys act but be wise with it . Play guys if you want to. Ask them out (there is still a ' but' attached to it). |
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justdman (m)
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Wow! This is great. I never know that stuff like this exist in Naija setting. I'm 'flaberwhelmed', sorry overwhelmed. Hello Ladies, with all due respect, "GO $ WHAT You LIKE", what a man can do, a woman can do it even better or don't You ladies believe in it again. I think its time to wake up to reality, make your feelings known, stop hoarding. It flows out naturally or do You think that men don't find it hard to make the moves, we do but have to. I'm still waiting for the 1st Lady that will walk up for friendship, its going to be her and that's all. It proves to me she can stand up tall, anywhere anytime no matter the settings. Once again, go for what you want ladies, enough  for the bold ladies. |
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legry (m)
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Twinkle why don't we have more women like you it would make this world a whle lot easier, but why spoil it with the no respecting of he man aspect, why you do that
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love4ever (f)
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to legry
hey legry i did mean that u are different but it just the way
you do your things the way you go about talking abiut girls like there are everything you are interest in sorry anyways for saying you are diffferent guy. but honestly it is good for you to stop all this things it will never lead you to anyway/
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Kukura on the Move (m)
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Well, let's be serious. You guys are just plain scared. Any biologist would tell you it's not natural for females to approach males unless there is an adverse effect that will occur to the male (like the black widow spider that eats the male after sex though the male has developed a way of escaping by spinning some sweet yarn to keep the female occupied.)
Of course, it would be nice if we could cut through the red tape. In the words of John Nash of Beautiful Mind fame, "since the purpose of approaching you is intercourse lets cut to chase"
Kodewiriter Thats interesting... I however think that the implication of such a move on the parft of the girl is that the order of things will be changed... Guys too need to grow up , be sure of what you want and go for it... u are in stinctive a hunter ... modern day situations have changed that of course ... but thats the fact you need to grow up and move,... took me five years to get my babe and it was worth the years i can tell you  |
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ezinne1212 (f)
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took me five years to get my babe and it was worth the years I can tell you You are a very patient individual~ |
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love4ever (f)
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love4ever, why do think they are shy? Have you ever tried it once?
This is not a matter of being shy, it is a matter of intergrity. I mean, it is not not a polite thing in our society. We are not in Europe nither are we in America; we are in Nigeria! It is unheard of; ladies are to reject guys, not to face rejection by a guy.
well i have never tried it and i do not wish to try but my friends have told me a lot about it
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twinkledew (f)
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ya all am kind of diverting the topic now.what if a girl is "open" to talk about sex is it right or wrong? and what would u think of the person?
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chonny840 (m)
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thank you, i mean you, for your good suggestions and ideas. I wish to hear from you. You can send me your m*bil# n@mb so that i could hear your voice.. thanks, BIG Jeffery..
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justdman (m)
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ya all am kind of diverting the topic now.what if a girl is "open" to talk about sex is it right or wrong? and what would you think of the person?
Not bad a all. If you do it, talk it. Shunning sex talks wont make you a virgin or this-virgin when you know you do do the real thing. If you're up to it, discuss it but always with caution. I mean, it shouldn't a life style but when you have to, don't pretend. Ladies, sex talks don't mean you're being immoral. Good to be truthful to oneself. that's it. |
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legs (f)
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abeg almost everything seems to be ending up in sex; no vex oh! but i thot this page was about a girl liking a guy and not being able to tell him when did it enter sex? please there's another topic on sex, lets leave this one for what it was originally meant for; which i believe is 'communication'?
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justdman (m)
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"This is not a matter of being shy, it is a matter of integrity. I mean, it is not not a polite thing in our society. We are not in Europe nither are we in America; we are in Nigeria! It is unheard of; ladies are to reject guys, not to face rejection by a guy.
well I have never tried it and I do not wish to try but my friends have told me a lot about it" Please, do come off it, America, europe or asia. its same world. Lets get real. My dear, don't allow what you fancy to pass you by in the name of intergrity, that one na cowardness or inferiority complex. Meanwhile, na which society you dey talk about, abi no Naija again. Abeg, make una help me ask her where her domot be. Anyway, since she has access to internet, it mustn't be a primitive society at all. Wake up ! |
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mosiate (f)
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Please, do come off it, America, europe or asia. its same world. Lets get real. My dear, don't allow what you fancy to pass you by in the name of intergrity, that one na cowardness or inferiority complex.
Meanwhile, na which society you dey talk about, abi no Naija again. Abeg, make una help me ask her where her domot be. Anyway, since she has access to internet, it mustn't be a primitive society at all. Wake up !
Justdaman, mind the way you respond to other peoples' contributions. In case you don't know, this forum is meant for everybody to drop their own contribution. I say what I think is the right thing: it might not be right in your own eyes, but yet you don't have to respond like that. I'm sure if a lady should propose to you will only answer her because you want to play her.  |
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love4ever (f)
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hey legry a boy can not change the plans i have made for myself more over i only have one more year to finish my education and i will still be young
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debugger (m)
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hi buddy, i think if a girl ask a guy out under a normal condition she might be comflictin issues and putin the guy into a better chance to ridicule her, but if the condition in which the girl said it is understood by both parties then no dirty dust will be on air.
Ladies go for wht u want, but wise up on her to present the issue.
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