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dearzi (f)
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Remind me again, "tell them what?"
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salsera (f)
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hi,
i'm relatively new here so to speak
but i guess what you are asking is whether being engaged(meaning committing to marriage) makes it ok to explore sexually right.
maybe its the way we push this premarital sex thing, we mention marriage so much that people feel that justified when they are on the road to getting married. its almost as if you are holding (forgiving me the image here) pee then you finally get to release it.
you see God judges our motives, if our abstaining from sex is simply to follow rules we are no better than old testament church.
Delay is not denial, if we are really focussed on compatibililty in our relationships when sex happens is not the issue.
we all know by the time you keep arousing yourself till you have sex, real communication goes out the window
i choose to believe God had his good and perfect reasons for saying flee fornication as much as i would rather do the opposite.
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kiki (f)
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ain't nothing wrong with it atleast yall must av known each other pretty well before gettin engaged what if she's not a virgin
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babymine (f)
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No they can't. Kissing and hugging could lead to sex you know and premarital sex is sin.
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TaniCarr (f)
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I know in the african community a guy can say he wants to engage you and then have sex with you and change his mind.On the other hand if he has went to your family and asked for your hand in married then I think it's o.k to have sex. The question we sould ask ourselves is what does engagement really mean?To me it's making a vow to this person and to God that you are going to be with this person forever.It's like you have already wri itten up a contract but you have not signed it yet. I think if the families on both sides are not very much involved then you should not do it and if the two families are involved then it's o.k. All of these women on here who are saying no it's not good are just deceiving themselves most especially if you are over the age of 25.They probaly looking for a man on this site so they are careful of what they want to say.
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John3:5
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DIGNITY you make alot of since I was wondering my self if kissing was wrong, I had a feeling that passoniate kissing was wrong simply becuase it can cause a person to becuase sexually arrosed and I was like umm ok that can't be right, so what you said about if you can't do it in front of my family ( Brother and sisters in Christ ) made alot of since thanks for your post  |
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John3:5
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DIGNITY you make a lot of since I was wondering my self if kissing was wrong, I had a feeling that passionate kissing was wrong simply because it can cause a person to because sexually aroused and I was like umm OK that can't be right, so what you said about if you can't do it in front of my family ( Brother and sisters in Christ ) made a lot of since thanks for your post |
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John3:5
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I personally agree that you should watch your self, you shouldn't prolong in huging, kissing or any other thing that will arose you in a sexual way , remember God said you have to love him above all or your not worthy of him
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MP007 (m)
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most people believe in "testing the waters" before marriage. i wouldnt say its bad or good but it depends,
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nyabinghi (m)
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Guys,
Stop this hypocrisy, most of you self-acclaimed christians mess like hell, even within the church premises, because most of them sisters walk about naked since God cares more of the spiritual than the physical. "they call me lord but on that day i will deny them evil doers"
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nossycheek (f)
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Guys,
Stop this hypocrisy, most of you self-acclaimed christians mess like hell, even within the church premises, because most of them sisters walk about naked since God cares more of the spiritual than the physical. "they call me lord but on that day i will deny them evil doers"
It is not a matter of who does it and who doesn't do it but whether it is proper or not is the issue at stake. |
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donnie (m)
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Flee every appearance of evil.
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bari_kade
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@nyabinghi, Stop this hypocrisy, most of you self-acclaimed christians mess like hell, even within the church premises, because most of them sisters walk about naked since God cares more of the spiritual than the physical. "they call me lord but on that day i will deny them evil doers" Where is it that any Christian woman walks naked in Church? How did you come to know this? Did your eyes not sin as well if you saw them? If you did not see them, how did you come to ascertain this by yourself? |
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bari_kade
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Flee every appearance of evil. Are kissing and hugging what may be described as appearance of evil? |
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edbenbas (m)
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well,.i'D say kissing is  Hugging is  But sex is not allowed for professed "engaged christian couples" less of course.the reverse is the case  . |
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salsera (f)
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hugging get levels o
when i was a teen i avoided hugs because it was just another way of tapping current
now i'm much older and I like hugs, for me its just a way of transferring warm feeling towards either sex
Cant get aroused by hugging unless na rubbing them dey do
so i'D say if u want to wait then whatever arouses you should not be done
that u are engaged isn't some license
if u wan do, do
no use engagement as permit
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MP007 (m)
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ask your pastor, pastor plz explain this, they stil show it?
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omogenaija (f)
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everyone understands how they serve God
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Drusilla (f)
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No.
Just get married already.
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babyosisi (f)
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No.
Just get married already.
true my sister. anyone that can't wait should get to the registry fast than sin against God. |
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tall broda (m)
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it's vry easy 2 say NO when we all no dnt its not as easy as d word no bt looking at from d holy bible yes it's wrong bt what l'll say is 4 peps 2 get married in times because its nt easy.may d grace of God b wth as AALL.lekan skills www.ubl.com/lekanskills 08028462810 |
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tall broda (m)
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it's vry easy 2 say NO when we all no dnt its not as easy as d word no bt looking at it from d holy bible yes it's wrong bt what l'll say is 4 peps in christian relationship 2 get married in time because its nt easy.may d grace of God b wth as AALL.lekan skills www.ubl.com/lekanskills 08028462810 |
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Gold (m)
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A lot of damages had been done in the past through this little act of testing here and there,
Yesterday in Ibadan church you had a wonderful sister sitting on you laps, today in Lagos you are having another highly spiritual sister hugging her hands round you, and tomorrow in Abuja church, you will be kissing and romancing another beautiful sister, my brother let us stop trading our glory.
Devil is wise in his kingdom, while Men joke with every costly things.
be wise,
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iyeyemi
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@ dignity whats with the if you can't do it in public thingy?
Not sure if even married couples in nigeria can kiss passionately in public, talkless of , so i don't think its about the public thing. Its all a matter of what you believe in. Wasnt it the same bible that told us someone got God angry for not wasting his seed instead of pouring it into a relative? Pardon the language
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analyt82 (f)
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Hugging yes.  Kissing maybe, :-*but defiantly NO SEX!! :-XI say that b/c now a days people don't even stay engaged and sometimes they're engaged for years at a time. No, don't DO IT!! |
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Jezzy (f)
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Engaged Christians cannot have sex because engagement is simply a promise of marriage and not marriage itself.
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babysexy
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As a christian,u areexpected to knw what is rite,if u knw kissing is a sin then y are u asking just to tempt people.please do what pleases u
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www_pastor
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Beloved people of God,
If the Spirit of God bears witness with your spirit that you are a child of God, then this same Spirit of God will definitely bare witness with your spirit whenever you are intending to defile His Temple which happens to be your body. We are not in the Old Testament where worship was only by dos and donts. We have the Spirit of Christ to guide and to teach, but if any does not have the Spirit of Crist, he is non of His.
Yet, let me ask, to what intent is the question? Is it to make sure that the Lord is obeyed or is to look for an excuse to disobey Him? Are the scriptures not clear that sex of any form outside marriage is evil in His sight?
Marriage is honourable and the bed undefiled but whore mongers, adultrers and fornicators will face the wrath of God. Repent and believe this gospel. Jesus have power both to save and deliver from sin.
Shalom!
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pilgrim.1 (f)
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Sometimes I just wonder if people are asking questions to make excuses for not wanting to obey God's WORD. It is like asking if there's a possible way God can approve of illicit sex, and the words 'fornication' and 'adultery' have lost their meaning.
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martin007 (m)
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There has never been the right way of doing the wrong thing, what is wrong is wrong and what is right is right!!! If you know you are a christian and you Believe in the Bible entirely and not just the Abraham's Blessings are mine thing, then you would obey it in full. I know what my bible says and i am sure you know what it says too about sex in yours. The thing with man is that, we always want to disobey God and we try to give excuses, i aint saying we are holy, everyone of us has sin and fallen short of the Glory of God, but by his mercies we are not consumed, We may have fallen into the temptation of Sex, but we should not legalize it. What is wrong is Wrong.
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m_nwankwo (m)
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Any sexual relationship that is not a consequence of genuine love is a sin. Thus if genuine love and harmony does not exit between couples, then sexual relationship between them is immoral. Therefore, only marriages that fufilled the laws of God are true marriages and it is only in such genuine marriage is sexual relationship protected by the blessing of God. Therefore a marriage in which the couple do not live according to the laws of God, sexual relationship between them is immoral even even if they are wedded by a pope or an apostle.
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