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Caliente (m)
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I've got this beautifully designed friend of mine whose dad gave an ultimatum to get married in the next one year. She's currently in NYSC camp somewhere in the north. According to her the first two suitors were just too full of themselves, annoyingly arrogant, disrespectful and think that their money is everything a woman needs. One of them is an Omata guy. The other one saw her like today and started talking marriage the next day. She doesn't think they are capable of treating a woman right. What advice can you guys give her? This is the first of the twelve month ultimatum.
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spikedcylinder
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I've got this beautifully designed friend of mine whose dad gave an ultimatum to get married in the next one year. She's currently in NYSC camp somewhere in the north. According to her the first two suitors were just too full of themselves, annoyingly arrogant, disrespectful and think that their money is everything a woman needs. One of them is an Omata guy. The other one saw her like today and started talking marriage the next day. She doesn't think they are capable of treating a woman right. What advice can you guys give her? This is the first of the twelve month ultimatum.
Err, I have problems understanding that part.  |
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HR.hotness (f)
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na today?
my mother has been giving me ultimatum since i turned 21. . . she go soon tire
your friend shd relax jare
let her not go and jump into a pointless relationship to please someone else
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MrCrackles (m)
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how old is she?
shez 43!  |
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lexicon (m)
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na today?
my mother has been giving me ultimatum since i turned 21. . . she go soon tire
your friend should relax jare
let her not go and jump into a pointless relationship to please someone else
Yes. she should take her time.u can only false a horse to the river,u cannot false to drink water |
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Tgirl4real (f)
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She shouldn't choose anyone for now cos of the pressure. If she does she will end up with the wrong guy in all probability. Pls tell her to take her tym jare.
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MrCrackles (m)
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clock is ticking and time is money! |
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kingdong (m)
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how old is she?
shez 43!
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Caliente (m)
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Err, I have problems understanding that part. |
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HR.hotness (f)
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what or who is an omata guy? 
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Caliente (m)
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what or who is an omata guy? It's a term for (often derogatory) somebody who is trading without any proper education. |
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agaba123 (m)
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OMATA = Onitsha Market traders Association.
Most of them in that association are only interested in money and believe money can buy them women. And with money they could do anything and get away with it. They do anything to get money. They are the kinda people who will not like their babes to get into the limelight. They treat women as property. An Omata guy's meaning of romance is N100k for Christmas shopping. He believes potbelly is a sign of wealth.
Most are uncultured.
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beauteous (f)
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He believes potbelly is a sign of wealth.
Most are uncultured.
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Adonica (f)
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24yrs? . . . .whats the rush?
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madamkoko
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I don't know why Nigerian parents like to pressure thier children into marriage.
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ayomifull (f)
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I don't know why Nigerian parents like to pressure their children into marriage.
Imagine! at 24 and if she eventually gets married they expect her to get pregnant the same night. African mothers with wahala. |
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Ben-10
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And this rush is always 4rm the mothers, why?  |
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Caliente (m)
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And this rush is always from the mothers, why? |
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madamkoko
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Its quite sad and I've heard on several occassion many older Nigerian women say "No matter how successful a woman may be (educational attainment/wealth) a woman is nothing without a man" "A woman without a man is nothing (esp socially, amongst her friends, family, and within the Nigerian society)" Meaning the success of a woman is unfortunately largely dependent on whether or not she has a man. I think this kind of pressure is what leads women to crazy men, and makes women stay with crazy men or cheating men.  |
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madamkoko
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@ Caliente : although her dad gave her the ultimatum, i'm quite certain her mother is behind this.  |
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yong babe (f)
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if she doesnt comply weytyn go happen?
she iz a freakyn adult
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iceland (m)
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I don't blame the parents o jare!It's the fault of our so called "nowadays" ladies.They enjoy jumping from one d*ick to another.Listen to them all!You can hear all of them them saying she is still young.At 24?When her mother got married at 19.I support the ultimatum she should learn how to cope with one d*ick and one d*ick ONLY.Enough of exuberance. I don't know why Nigerian parents like to pressure their children into marriage.
It's not called pressure it is called "call to Order", Parents have the right to call their children to order!This is not UK |
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nana (f)
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My mama no fit rush me to marry o.Lai Lai. If I choose to remain single or marry later,na my business not my parents'
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madamkoko
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They enjoy jumping from one d*ick to another.Listen to them all!You can hear all of them them saying she is still young.At 24?When her mother got married at 19. This is some funny s#$@t L O L |
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madamkoko
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I support the ultimatum she should learn how to cope with one d*ick and one d*ick ONLY Mr ice and does the same apply to men ? |
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iceland (m)
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Mr ice and does the same apply to men ?
Men?hmmmm well |
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Caliente (m)
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I don't blame the parents o jare!It's the fault of our so called "nowadays" ladies.They enjoy jumping from one d*ick to another.Listen to them all!You can hear all of them them saying she is still young.At 24?When her mother got married at 19.I support the ultimatum she should learn how to cope with one d*ick and one d*ick ONLY.Enough of exuberance.
It's not called pressure it is called "call to Order", Parents have the right to call their children to order!This is not UK
You don't even know her. I'm not trying to defend her but to the best of my knowledge she's not the d1ck jumping type, her parents can attest to that too cuz she spends enough time with her mum. |
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Ujujoan (f)
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eeeyah!! Too bad. Why do our parents push us this far  She should get herself a job, leave home, start her life and pray for the right man. No need to get rushed into making a mistake. |
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