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layi (m)
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Love Tangle: You need a long term relationship which could probably lead to marriage but you are faced with two choices:
* You love girl/guy A so much but she/he doesn't have same feelings for you.
* Girl/guy B loves u dearly but u don't have the same feelings for him/her.
Which will u go all out for, the one you love or the one who loves u ?
Why?
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fabian (f)
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Tricky Question, this.
Well, I'D say that everyone, my self included, generally love to be loved by someone. But the feeling of losing the one you love will definitely be too much to bear for me.
I'D generally stick to the one I love and hope that in time, he'D love me back. After all, as they say, it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all!
That's my take on this one!
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angela k (f)
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I think i will stick to the one who loves me. Hopefully i will get to love him with time.
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IAH (f)
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I agree with Angela. I'll go with the one who loves me. I believe I'll learn to love him with time. I can easily forget about somebody I love if he doesn't reciprocate. Not hard at all.
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kenflavor (m)
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I will also go for the one who loves me depending on the fact that she has the good qualities I want from a woman. If not I will continue to search for.
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kemmy (f)
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Me too o, the one who loves me. But it would also depend on my take on the person.......I have to at least see my self learning to love that person back with time......if not.............it's not worth it.
I could easily say the one I love, but I can only speak for myself......and no one wants to be used........
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vexxy (f)
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I would have to go with option C, neither. When it comes to marriage, the one I'm to be with through sickness or health, richer or poorer, for better or worse, till death do us part, I want to make sure that I love him and he loves me. If there is a lack of love on either end it could result in adultery, disrespect, unhappiness, etc. I would not tie my life down to a person whom I love but he does not love me. Heartache. I would not tie my life down to a person who loves me but I can't return it. It's unfair to him. He would deserve someone to love him as much as he loves the other. Scenario: What if you marry the one who loves you, but you do not love in return. You are walking down the street, bump into someone, a friendship ensues, and you end up knowing, just knowing that he/she is the one you are truly supposed to be with. You then become bitter toward yourself for the lackluster marriage and bitter toward the one with whom you are married. No thanks.  |
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layi (m)
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Ha! Vexxy, No option C. What will do if all the people u meet in life fall into A or B (this happens 90% of the time). Remember "Tick says the clock tick,tick.".
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vexxy (f)
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Then I would stay happily single till the right one comes along. Better that then to get into something that may have the potential to stress me out for the rest of my life. That clock can tick tock all it wants, non stop. There is an Evangalist in DC that didn't get married until she was 41. Wait on God.  *I chose C because it was an option on your poll, sorry!* |
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layi (m)
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*I chose C because it was an option on your poll, sorry!*
Seun just did that. 'twasnt there before |
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vexxy (f)
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You never said what you'D do. I'm curious to know. . . .
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Seun (m)
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I'll simply fall in love with the one who loves me. Love is an emotion that can be built up under the right conditions. I will also try to find out why it's difficult for me to fall in love with the one that loves me. It might be that my "love" for the unavailable one is what is making it difficult for me to love the other one!
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vexxy (f)
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Do you think that getting rid of the one you love will free up your love to then give to the one who loves you?
Did that sentence make sense? L.O.L.!
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layi (m)
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Scripture says we love GOD because he first loved us. This is a principle i found to be true in relationships. Love begats love.
A or B would go but to be on a safer side, I'll go for Girl B, the one who loves me "deeply", perhaps I'ld love her with time.
I can't vouch that Girl A would love me with time.
Of course Its got to be mutual for me to tie that knot.
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vexxy (f)
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Well, following that same principle, Layi, then the girl you deeply love, over time would love you. So it could work both ways, right? |
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layi (m)
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The girl is likely not going to accept me in the first place.
But i could accept girl B because she loves me and i know love begets love. I could grow to love her with time.
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vexxy (f)
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It must work, Layi. According to Scripture we love God because he first loved us. If that's the principle we are using then Girl A would end up loving you because you love her and you would love Girl B because she first loved you. I say stay way from this whole mess, because that's who it will likely end up. Go to the one who loves you as you love her. I want to see you happy |
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layi (m)
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Note that this is just d last resort. We all want a situation where the love is mutual. but its just like asking which would u take incase it doesnt.
The fact is that that principle can't work with Girl A because she doesnt have the same feelings so she'll probably not allow me in her life not to talk of love begettin love after a while.
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vexxy (f)
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Do you feel that with Girl B you are more susceptible to straying if initially you are not in love with her?
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layi (m)
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Straying as in  i don't want to assume d meaning |
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vexxy (f)
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Straying = infidelity.
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Seun (m)
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You have to understand that the girl who loves the boy does not know that he doesn't love her. Though he may not love her, he will pretend to be absolutely in love with her, so she will be give him lots of sex and food. |
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vexxy (f)
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Pretending to love someone is just wrong. And it takes to much work. Why go through the trouble of pretending to love someone when you can genuinely love someone. At least then you wouldn't have to worry about cheating, having the girl find out, then having your food "tampered" with. A woman scorned is no woman to cross  . . . and then some wonder why women think men love them so much. They seem to be great actors!  |
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mycutiepie (f)
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I will surely go with the one that loves me and as time goes on, he will love me because i had this guy who really loved me and the parents, let me use the word family are the sweetest family i had ever know but the unfortunate part is: I DON'T LOVE HIM. I just want him as a friend and nothing more. BUT the other side of the coin is..OOPS! I just mentioned the name of my upcoming movie . Well, the beans has been spilled. The one I love though he loves me as he claims and feels that maybe because am madly in love is a cheat and was keeping a girl under his roof hile i was stuggling in campus to make something out of life. So , I will say" Ki olorun ma je ka gbe egun elegun, oko/aya tiwa ni ki olrun fi dawa lola" LOVE is crazy and LOVE is pain. |
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Adetola (m)
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Na wao! This is quite a dificult and tight corner
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twinkledew (f)
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i will go for option C. i would want me partner to love me and would want to love him back as well. what is the point of going out with someone that does not love u. (Desperados) sry but am not. will rather wait for the right person at the right time.
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twinkledew (f)
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i will go with ve.. opinion(s). go for someone that loves u, u might end up loving them.if its the other way round it is not safe.
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Seun (m)
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The general consensus seems to be that most of us - men and women, boys and girls - would rather go for someone who loves us dearly. This implies that one way to get someone to agree to relationship with you is to pretend to be head over heels in love with the person! Is it any wonder, then, that men (and some women) do exactly this?
Personally, if someone likes me, I automatically like the person back. I don't know about "love" though.
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layi (m)
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.......This implies that one way to get someone to agree to relationship with you is to pretend to be head over heels in love with the person! ..... I Disagree! Love is synonymous with sacrifice. U can't pretend to love. Pretenders can't make sacrifices. If they do, they are probably in love. U either love or u don't. Pretenders only succeed if d victim aint looking for the right clues. |
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WesleyanA (f)
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neither. why would anyone get married to someone they don't love or someone who doesn't love him/her ? |
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