Love Or Infatuation? How Do We Differentiate?

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Hannibal
Re: Love Or Infatuation? How Do We Differentiate?
« #64 on: September 07, 2008, 03:13 AM »

Quote from: tope2000 on September 07, 2008, 03:09 AM
All you men seem to be having that bullshit disorder
what is it called again . . . . . . . . . . . commitment phobic is it Huh

All MEN can't be wrong.
It means something is actually wrong with y'all women that makes MEN want to back off. . .  Tongue
tope2000 (f)
Re: Love Or Infatuation? How Do We Differentiate?
« #65 on: September 07, 2008, 03:16 AM »

Quote from: Hannibal on September 07, 2008, 03:13 AM
All MEN can't be wrong.
It means something is actually wrong with y'all women that makes MEN want to back off. . . Tongue

oh get over urselves whores Grin Tongue
it just a pathetic excuse for, i can't have just one woman in my life
i still want to fu.ck around
Hannibal
Re: Love Or Infatuation? How Do We Differentiate?
« #66 on: September 07, 2008, 03:22 AM »

Quote from: tope2000 on September 07, 2008, 03:16 AM
oh get over urselves whores Grin Tongue
it just a pathetic excuse for, i can't have just one woman in my life
i still want to fu.ck around

Men love their freedom.
For men, the very thunk of making a commitment to one woman for the rest of their lives is enough to send them sprinting for the hills.
The dreaded "C-word" implies compromise, loss of independence, the sacrifice of sexual variety, and the looming specter of financial devastation.
onyinye2 (f)
Re: Love Or Infatuation? How Do We Differentiate?
« #67 on: September 07, 2008, 03:26 AM »

Quote from: Hannibal on September 07, 2008, 03:09 AM
Rulers that bend??
Onyinye thinks a ruler is a willy. Tongue Grin
Get ya mind out of the gutter, negress!!!
LMAO!!! Do you still live in the stonge ages? Of course they have rulers that bend.
Anyways you are either scared, frontin, or gay.
Hannibal
Re: Love Or Infatuation? How Do We Differentiate?
« #68 on: September 07, 2008, 03:30 AM »

Quote from: onyinye2 on September 07, 2008, 03:26 AM
LMAO!!! Do you still live in the stonge ages? Of course they have rulers that bend.
Anyways you are either scared, frontin, or gay.

Pumbaa, slow your roll.
I ain't scared and i ain't GAY.
Fear of commitment and homosexuality don't correlate. Cheesy
Have u been drinking small guinness @ Finger Licking??
onyinye2 (f)
Re: Love Or Infatuation? How Do We Differentiate?
« #69 on: September 07, 2008, 03:32 AM »

Quote from: Hannibal on September 07, 2008, 03:30 AM
Pumbaa, slow your roll.
I ain't scared and i ain't GAY.
Fear of commitment and homosexuality don't correlate. Cheesy
You are contradicting yourself. You just stated you aint scared but then go around and say that you have a fear of commitment.
Hannibal
Re: Love Or Infatuation? How Do We Differentiate?
« #70 on: September 07, 2008, 03:35 AM »

Quote from: onyinye2 on September 07, 2008, 03:32 AM
You are contradicting yourself. You just stated you aint scared but then go around and say that you have a fear of commitment.

There are no contradictions here.
I was speaking generally. . . . .Because some men in general fear commitment doesn't mean they are homosexuals.
Jeeeeez. . . . . .Where did that come from??
The main reason why men won't commit is because they don't want to sacrifice their sexual variety.
They want to keep playing. How is that gay??
Surely, Isi ewu is making u hallucinate.
onyinye2 (f)
Re: Love Or Infatuation? How Do We Differentiate?
« #71 on: September 07, 2008, 03:40 AM »

Quote from: Hannibal on September 07, 2008, 03:35 AM
There are no contradictions here.
I was speaking generally. . . . .Because some men in general fear commitment doesn't mean they are homosexuals.
Jeeeeez. . . . . .Where did that come from??
The main reason why men won't commit is because they don't want to sacrifice their sexual variety.
They want to keep playing. How is that gay??
Surely, Isi ewu is making u hallucinate.
For your reference, ordered from "Suya Hut" tonight, not "Finger Licking" Tongue
Anyways, what I'm saying is fear of commitment is so played out. I mean come on. Just stick with one woman. Don't see why a guy needs multiple women to feel satisfied. sounds rather high schoolish and selfish to me.
Hannibal
Re: Love Or Infatuation? How Do We Differentiate?
« #72 on: September 07, 2008, 03:48 AM »

Quote from: onyinye2 on September 07, 2008, 03:40 AM
For your reference, ordered from "Suya Hut" tonight, not "Finger Licking" Tongue

Don't make me hungry,abeg!!!

Quote
Anyways, what I'm saying is fear of commitment is so played out. I mean come on. Just stick with one woman. Don't see why a guy needs multiple women to feel satisfied. sounds rather high schoolish and selfish to me.

Fear of commitment is because of a billion reasons.

--No more freedom
--One sex partner, forever
--Men can't trust women
--The emotional baggage
onyinye2 (f)
Re: Love Or Infatuation? How Do We Differentiate?
« #73 on: September 07, 2008, 03:52 AM »

Quote from: Hannibal on September 07, 2008, 03:48 AM
Don't make me hungry,abeg!!!

Fear of commitment is because of a billion reasons.

--No more freedom
--One sex partner, forever
--Men can't trust women
--The emotional baggage
This is just rubbish through my ears. It sounds like dude don't want to grow up. But live like he in college all the days of his life. Well ya can't. Eventually dude going to get lonely and is going to want a lady he can call his. Women can't trust men either.
Agielove
Re: Love Or Infatuation? How Do We Differentiate?
« #74 on: September 07, 2008, 03:54 AM »

Love  is: I really like him, i want to know him better, perhaps we shall become good friends
Infatutation is: Wow! This guy is so hot, i want to have him, i think i am falling inlove!

Love is: I wonder how he is doing today? He doesnt look so happy, I am worried, how can i help him?
Infuation is: How can I make him mine? how do i send my rivals packing,? i  hope his mood will not spoil our day!

Love is: This T ~shirt looks nice, i will buy it for him, i think he will like it.
Infatuation is: I will make him the man of my dreams, i will improve his dress sense, turn him to the hottest guy in town, my friends will be green with envy

Love is: I pray for him every day
Infatuation is: I dream of him everyday

Love is: There is something about him, i just like being around him.
Infatuation is: I love his touch, he makes me feel like a woman.

Love is: I have accepted him the way he is, the things i cannot change i have accepted.
Infatuation is: I will change him, i will make him the perfect guy for me.

Love is, Its inexhaustable!   Grin





*Morenike (f)
Re: Love Or Infatuation? How Do We Differentiate?
« #75 on: September 07, 2008, 03:56 AM »

Love is now material goods?
Abuseay (m)
Re: Love Or Infatuation? How Do We Differentiate?
« #76 on: September 07, 2008, 08:16 PM »

Material goods bawo? me i no understand this love thing ooo, just simple question these people are making it complicated, shoooooooooooo
*Morenike (f)
Re: Love Or Infatuation? How Do We Differentiate?
« #77 on: September 07, 2008, 08:20 PM »

Quote from: Abuseay on September 07, 2008, 08:16 PM
Material goods bawo? me i no understand this love thing ooo, just simple question these people are making it complicated, shoooooooooooo
That was suppose to be the question for the poster above me
NoblePat (m)
Re: Love Or Infatuation? How Do We Differentiate?
« #78 on: September 07, 2008, 09:57 PM »

The different between the two is a matter of time.The truth is if u infactuate someone all u like is the physical thing, the body, the shape n everything physical or in short u want to do the koko below thing after that nothing, but when u love, I tell u,u will know.Nobody need tell u that u are in love. It is just a matter of time,
Abuseay (m)
Re: Love Or Infatuation? How Do We Differentiate?
« #79 on: September 07, 2008, 10:11 PM »

ok oo, Mr Noble pat , looks like ur an author and experienced professional,
adeboo (f)
Re: Love Or Infatuation? How Do We Differentiate?
« #80 on: September 07, 2008, 10:18 PM »

I think in order to differentiate, u have to have experienced different dilemas or issues with the person u claim u love.
You must have had a few squibbles, had lots of experiences that will draw you closer to each other or certain things must have happened in ur relationsip and u pull through it, then u know that this partner is worth considering.
LEOSAM
Re: Love Or Infatuation? How Do We Differentiate?
« #81 on: September 09, 2008, 03:35 AM »

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*Morenike (f)
Re: Love Or Infatuation? How Do We Differentiate?
« #82 on: September 09, 2008, 03:36 AM »

Long hiss
flora_pete
Re: Love Or Infatuation? How Do We Differentiate?
« #83 on: September 14, 2008, 06:51 PM »

love doesn't exist.
Abuseay (m)
Re: Love Or Infatuation? How Do We Differentiate?
« #84 on: September 14, 2008, 07:03 PM »

who is thei television guy on my thread???
xpyamax (f)
Re: Love Or Infatuation? How Do We Differentiate?
« #85 on: September 14, 2008, 09:13 PM »

To Hannibal, I don't know you but I think that you need to grow up. A real man isn't one that can sleep with the most women or pull the most beautiful girls, any dog could do that. A real man is one that can find a woman he loves (the right one for him which requires wisdom) and can love her for as long as she lives, and take good care of her for a lifetime.
Man whores like you are so common, they lack self control, commitment and I would argue self respect- and that isn't something to brag about.

My take on marriage is that the bible says a woman should respect and serve her husband. That is the wife's role. The man's role is to love his wife as Christ loved the church. Which means enough to die for her.
If a man doesn't love his wife as Christ loved the Church then how can they expect his wife to have dinner waiting and ready for him when he comes home? The bible also states that we love Christ because he first loved the us. Therefore, the wife serves her husband because he first loved her.

When you love and respect someone it is easy to do things for them, you find yourself trying to please them.

To answer the poster's question, another difference with infatuation is that unlike love, it doesn't usually come with respect. For example, if you love your girlfriend and she isn't ready for sex, you will respect her till she's ready. However, if you're just infatuated with her, once you realise that you aren't getting any, the attraction will eventually dissapear (like stillwater mentioned earlier).
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