Em. . . let me ask it this way:
What is an acceptable approach with which one may convince me about their perspective on a matter?
I don't know if there's a 'best approach' in trying to convince me about how true one's religion is, or if is THE true one; but perhaps, I'D be more willing to listen as long as the following helpful features are not lacking:
# Don't Misquote or Misrepresent Issues
As long as my fellow discussant does not misquote a verse, text, historical antecedent; or twist whatever they are quoting out of context
to make their point (which would really be pointless)
# Don't Perplex, Rather Persuade Me
As long as my fellow discussant is not trying to complicate matters by wearing me out with long-winding arguments that lead nowhere and
they are willing to stick to the main points under discussion
# Don't Pretend, Rather Be Principled
It does not matter to me if my fellow discussant must win a point, as long as he's not pretentious and is willing to be principled in whatever
he's stating; even if I'D have to admit that my scholarship is limited on certain matters
# Choose Insight Rather Than Insult
If I can't persuade you to see my point, as long as we don't leave the Forum or a discussion with insults and ill-feelings, there's a chance to
come back for more seasoned, informed and insightful discourses
# Be Creative Rather Than Capricious
I've learnt to sympathise with the difficulties people experience in seeing things my way with the understanding that I ofetn experience the
same difficulties in seeing things their way
# Maintain A Winsome, Rather Than a Whimsical Attitude
In all things, I'll keep trying to foster understanding and tolerance across board, even where I make bold to state why and how I disagree
with my discussants.
Okay, I'm not laying down any rules for anyone; but these traits help me greatly when I engaged in sensitive and publicly affecting issues with people on this and other fora. At the end of the day, I aim to make
friends and not
fiends!
