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sweetchi
He is hurting badly
« on: September 10, 2008, 11:24 AM »

hello house,i have a friend who is so much inlove with his girlfriend but suspects that she is cheating on him.he is so un happy at the moment because things are not the way they use to be.the going was so good and sweet when they were staying close to each other,but  fortunately for the girl,and ufortunately for him,things began to fall apart when she got a job and moved to lagos.now she is too busy to pick his calls or send him mails like she use to,even when she sees his missed calls ,she does not return them.i need your candid opinion so that i will know how to advise him.
shegirl71 (f)
Re: He is hurting badly
« #1 on: September 10, 2008, 02:01 PM »

I think he should first of all ask her what the hell is going on,For me i don't if u really love someone u will be so busy to even answer his call is she that busy ah,but anyway he should 1st talk to her to knw what is happening then if d reason is justifiable then they can continue but if otherwise he should move on and he should get a job too
spikedcylinder (f)
Re: He is hurting badly
« #2 on: September 10, 2008, 03:52 PM »

Quote from: sweetchi on September 10, 2008, 11:24 AM
hello house,i have a friend who is so much inlove with his girlfriend but suspects that she is cheating on him.he is so un happy at the moment because things are not the way they use to be.the going was so good and sweet when they were staying close to each other,but  fortunately for the girl,and ufortunately for him,things began to fall apart when she got a job and moved to lagos.now she is too busy to pick his calls or send him mails like she use to,even when she sees his missed calls ,she does not return them.i need your candid opinion so that i will know how to advise him.

All this is based on suspicion?  Huh Huh Undecided
omega25red (m)
Re: He is hurting badly
« #3 on: September 10, 2008, 03:57 PM »

The truth is you haven't told us if your friend has been accusing his girl of cheating which might be the reason why she is not picking up the phone  due to her being tired of trying to prove to him that she still cares about him. Another thing you didn't mention is the distance between them. if your friend is so heart broken, can he move to join her? and what type of arrangement did they have as in were they planning on getting married or they were just dating and he happens to like her more than she likes him.

Too many questions
MrCrackles (m)
Re: He is hurting badly
« #4 on: September 10, 2008, 03:58 PM »

Quote from: spikedcylinder on September 10, 2008, 03:52 PM
All this is based on suspicion? Huh Huh Undecided

i was going to say the same too!
smooooooth
Re: He is hurting badly
« #5 on: September 10, 2008, 03:59 PM »

who u be for the story naa, the concerned girl that wants to mend the broken heart. okay the tory don complete, just tell him to stop crying over the bicth and notice the love you are offering him, as a monkey wey him be i doubt he will refuse. good luck.
iice (f)
Re: He is hurting badly
« #6 on: September 10, 2008, 06:07 PM »

Get concrete proof first.  Wasting time suspecting.
k1banty (m)
Re: He is hurting badly
« #7 on: September 10, 2008, 06:53 PM »

@post

i don't understand why she won't return his missed calls.


all these are based on suspicion.

tell him to come to Lagos and look for a job. That will solve all his doubts

Akinagirl (f)
Re: He is hurting badly
« #8 on: September 10, 2008, 07:24 PM »

Maybe she thinks hes a freeloader. Tell him to go get a job. But I don't think you have enough evidence to say that she is cheating. Stop wasting time assuming, and get concrete details. Plus, if he cares so much, can't he go and visit her?
sweetchi
Re: He is hurting badly
« #9 on: September 11, 2008, 11:19 AM »

actually,he is working.he has been before she got a job. according to him,he said he didnt want to be selfish by discouraging her from taking the job.he asked her if she could handle a long distance relationship before she moved down and she said yes.despite the fact that she is working,he still takes care of her needs.he actually comes to lagos to visit her often. the last time he came,it was to ask her to marry him.but she asked him if he was sure about it or was he trying to hook her with a ring so that no man will  look her way.what kind of response is that?it was also durin this visit that he started observing the way she responds to some calls on her phone and how withdrawn she was towards him.this was very much unlike her and when he tried to find out what the problem was,she said nothing.he knows her behaviour is very unusual and it hurts him because he is so much in love with  her.
sweetchi
Re: He is hurting badly
« #10 on: September 11, 2008, 11:23 AM »

smooooooot, thanks for your advice but am married ok.am just trying to give advise to a friend who is in pains.i don't need an ulterior motive to do that.
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