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Baba_Dibia
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wh'os actualy right?
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omogenaija (f)
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the poster who posted bout immgration on the look out
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finemocha (f)
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it's the easiest way to go sometimes, just make sure the person knows about it, u know a simple business transaction. don't try to lie or have an elaborate white wedding, i know some naija bros who made the mistake of doing that, now they are back home and can never come back to the US not even on a visiting visa.
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spoilt (f)
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i believe marriage is sacred. but i realize im in the minority.  |
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temmyabby (f)
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guess i'm lucky i don't ve to go through that,
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kattrina (f)
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  >:(A lot you people are the reason why people who really do love each other like me and my fiance are having such a hard time getting the damn paperwork done!!!!! I am an American citizen and my fiance is from Nigeria and we have to put up with tons and tons of governemnt shit that would not be there if it were not for dishonest people like you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and even if you do get through all the political loops (like meeting in person and providing pictures to prove it and how you feel for each other) and make it to the US you have to be married for 2 years and that is only a temporary green card. You have to wait to get the "permanant" one which is only good for 10 years. There are a number of time constraints that if you do not make your paperwork is shut down.
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ceasyc (f)
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is there any other POSITIVE option for people wit visit visas or illegal immigrants
(people without any legal status in d uk or u.s)???
u gats to do wot u gats 2 do to avoid d shame of being deported someday
or your heart skipping weneva u hear d word immigration or police/
hiding in another man's land like your a fugitive
although this arrangie makes it difficult for d genuine marriages now because d govt suspects everyone now
just b careful who u wan give your moni to for that kind tin sha,419s dey out there both
whites n blacks (e no mata where them com from), if some people no that your desperate or needy
dey take d mickie. advantage or take d piss (use u anyhow and u might still not get wot u want at d end of d day)
alot of people pretend to love someone and marry them for d paper without d other person
knowing d real reason
d day wey them get their final stay,them go flee without notice even if kids are already
involved (VERY BAD!)
in d uk,getting your stay is not straight4ward or that easy: it takes time, moni n proceedures
to get married,then u gats to file for your paper wit or without solicitors(best wit). u have to
wait to get a reply of yes or no. if yes, u get a temp stay first e.g. 2 years or 5 years. u have to
keep d person sweet for alll them days/weeks/months/years (not easy,some people can be v.demanding
and diff to please)
when that one don complete then u fit apply for permanent stay.this one get more proceedures:
u gats to prove with payslips, lots of bills that 2 show that u have been living 2geda all those years
witout recourse to public funds, etc. if u no get d real n correct proof,forget it,kiss your paper/stay
goodbye(bak to square 1). if u get proof n them give u permanent stay then u gats to wait at least 1 year
to apply for nationalisation (to be british or apply for uk passport).oh don't forget d life in d uk test, u must pass am 1st
i don't no about d u.s but in d uk if u b illegal immi or u get visit visa, your not allowed to marry in d country anymore
u gats to go to your home country to do that n file your papers from there. d immi law changes a lot
this is all i can remember,there may b more
o boi e no easyyyyyyyyyyyy
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Mulatto
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Hi, I have a big, big decision and I need your help.
I met this beautiful Nigerian women. We went out on a date a couple weeks ago and things seemed ok but I had no true indication of whether or not we were making a connection. I personally thought that she was gorgeous and very sweet and lovable. She actually made us dinner that night before the date. Having talked a few times in b/w on the phone everything was going slow, suddenly today she asks me to meet her because she has something very important to ask me. It turns out she filed twice for a visa, cancelled the first, and went through with the second. Unfortunately immigration is looking at the first as a violation and they are threatening deportation. The only reason she came to the USA was to go to FAA school, which she is currently attending and she showed me paperwork to prove it as well as lawyer's documentation being used to fight immigration. Long-story short she asked me if I would help her by marrying her. I told her that I view the institution of marriage as a sacred one and I only planned to have one marriage. She agreed and was sympathetic with my reasoning. My solution was to do a speed-dating session, where we go out everyday until she had no alternative but to get married, that's a week or two of dating/decision-making. Am I crazy? Am I doing the right thing? do you think she will drop me as soon as possible?
I personally think she is a sweet, honest, caring person and absolutely gorgeous in my eyes. I have always believed in the Indian tradition of quick marriages and learn/enjoy on the go, so that is not a problem. I just want to make sure that I am not setting myself up for heartbreak. I am an American.
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femigirl (f)
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All I can say is get married because you love the person and no other reason. I believe in Karma.
keep loving
x
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sista-jay (f)
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Yeah, I agree with you Femigirl, it's best to marry for a reason and that reason should be love.
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Vicjustice (m)
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Hi, I have a big, big decision and I need your help.
I met this beautiful Nigerian women. We went out on a date a couple weeks ago and things seemed ok but I had no true indication of whether or not we were making a connection. I personally thought that she was gorgeous and very sweet and lovable. She actually made us dinner that night before the date. Having talked a few times in b/w on the phone everything was going slow, suddenly today she asks me to meet her because she has something very important to ask me. It turns out she filed twice for a visa, cancelled the first, and went through with the second. Unfortunately immigration is looking at the first as a violation and they are threatening deportation. The only reason she came to the USA was to go to FAA school, which she is currently attending and she showed me paperwork to prove it as well as lawyer's documentation being used to fight immigration. Long-story short she asked me if I would help her by marrying her. I told her that I view the institution of marriage as a sacred one and I only planned to have one marriage. She agreed and was sympathetic with my reasoning. My solution was to do a speed-dating session, where we go out everyday until she had no alternative but to get married, that's a week or two of dating/decision-making. Am I crazy? Am I doing the right thing? do you think she will drop me as soon as possible?
I personally think she is a sweet, honest, caring person and absolutely gorgeous in my eyes. I have always believed in the Indian tradition of quick marriages and learn/enjoy on the go, so that is not a problem. I just want to make sure that I am not setting myself up for heartbreak. I am an American.
Hi If you believe you're in love with her, and you consider her deserving a help of this magnitude, then go ahead and marry her. As for the fear that she might drop you; trust me, it's not Nigerian women tradition to drop their husbands especially for selfish reasons: Believe me, Nigerian women do stay with their husbands even persevering hard times except given the extreme cause to quite a marriage. Take this, she won't drop you after she got her documents; in fact, she'd want to stay with you because you're her pride and hero. |
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Nwaka77 (f)
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Hi
If you believe you're in love with her, and you consider her deserving a help of this magnitude, then go ahead and marry her. As for the fear that she might drop you; trust me, it's not Nigerian women tradition to drop their husbands especially for selfish reasons: Believe me, Nigerian women do stay with their husbands even persevering hard times except given the extreme cause to quite a marriage.
Take this, she won't drop you after she got her documents; in fact, she'd want to stay with you because you're her pride and hero.
Very true |
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Da Junta (m)
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Hi, I have a big, big decision and I need your help.
I met this beautiful Nigerian women. We went out on a date a couple weeks ago and things seemed ok but I had no true indication of whether or not we were making a connection. I personally thought that she was gorgeous and very sweet and lovable. She actually made us dinner that night before the date. Having talked a few times in b/w on the phone everything was going slow, suddenly today she asks me to meet her because she has something very important to ask me. It turns out she filed twice for a visa, cancelled the first, and went through with the second. Unfortunately immigration is looking at the first as a violation and they are threatening deportation. The only reason she came to the USA was to go to FAA school, which she is currently attending and she showed me paperwork to prove it as well as lawyer's documentation being used to fight immigration. Long-story short she asked me if I would help her by marrying her. I told her that I view the institution of marriage as a sacred one and I only planned to have one marriage. She agreed and was sympathetic with my reasoning. My solution was to do a speed-dating session, where we go out everyday until she had no alternative but to get married, that's a week or two of dating/decision-making. Am I crazy? Am I doing the right thing? do you think she will drop me as soon as possible?
I personally think she is a sweet, honest, caring person and absolutely gorgeous in my eyes. I have always believed in the Indian tradition of quick marriages and learn/enjoy on the go, so that is not a problem. I just want to make sure that I am not setting myself up for heartbreak. I am an American.
Pally, u can go ahead and marry her but remember that most white babes that date a black man can never date a white guy again. Why??? Because they believe that black guys are so caring, loving, understanding, loyal, sweet etc but u should know a typical african man can love but will always be in charge. The black guys pretend to be so nice and loving but once they get their paper, they head 4 divorce. How sure are u that the babe no dey act  You are in a better position 2 decide because i remember u wouldnt want to get married twice. If u rush in there is every tendency that u will rush out |
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Tegese
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i believe no one can give you better advice than you yourself because, you r the person who knows the full story. anyway, goodluck
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salsera (f)
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You know too little about this lady to decide to take her story hook line and sinker(did i get that right)
Right now she see's you as her ticket to staying in the US, so what u see as loving and caring may just be an end to a means.
Its not impossible that she has a longstanding relationship which can only be formalised when her status is legal
you are risking a lot for someone you really don't know her TRUE history
My advice? PROMISE HER NOTHING, if you guys were meant to be let it happen naturally
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