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sistawoman
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I am starting to suspect that one of my male friends actually has a crush on me. It seems that he always finds fault in who i date and now who i married. He is always trying to put doubt in my head about my hubby and used to do it with everyone i dated.
How can i know if he really is looking out for my best interest or if he has alternative motive?
Do men really do this sort of thing?
Have any of you women experienced this?
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onyinye2 (f)
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It goes to show that your marriage aint as strong as you think it is. If it was, then you wouldn't be fazed about what other folk who aint even in the marriage are saying. As long as yal got each other, everyone else can go screw themselves on a mountain.
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Hannibal
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I am starting to suspect that one of my male friends actually has a crush on me. It seems that he always finds fault in who i date and now who i married. He is always trying to put doubt in my head about my hubby and used to do it with everyone i dated.
How can i know if he really is looking out for my best interest or if he has alternative motive?
Do men really do this sort of thing?
Have any of you women experienced this?
Yes!!!! Some men with vaginas do!!! I don't have female friends. . . . . . .What kinda friendship exists between a LION and an antelope?? If u are not careful, your so called male friend is actually scheming to get into your french knickers. I think it's about time u tell the cock-sucker to go mess himself. |
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sistawoman
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Sista dont get it twisted  I love my man and I aint going no where. Just wondering if this dude is up to something else. I dont want anyone around that could be a wedge in my marriage. Ya feel me. If they look like, smell like or act like a problem i get rid of them. But if he truly is looking out for my best interest then I will keep him around. I dont want to end a friendship because i suspect he may have something up his sleave. He maybe just trying to get me to see things from a different perpective. but because he has done this for many years with every r/s then i am starting to wonder if no man is good enough but him. |
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oziomatv (m)
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Sista, I doubt if actually you do, Becareful before someone enter your holly ground. |
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onyinye2 (f)
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Sistawoman, i have majority male friends oka. In fact, they are my best friends. But never have any of them tried to include themselves in my dating life. They know their boundaries. But your so called "friend" don't. What kind of person dares to even try and nosy themselves into someone's marriage? Do they not have their own lives to worry about? Sounds sort of pathetic to me.
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sistawoman
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I just want one guy, just one guy, just one male to answer honestly.
What are the tell tell signs that this dude is feeling me more than just a friend?
I dont need my marriage to be question. I dont need my love for my husband to be questioned. I dont need my loyality to my union to be questioned.
I just need to know:
How can i tell if this dude is feeling me more than just a friend?
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sistawoman
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Sistawoman, i have majority male friends oka. In fact, they are my best friends. But never have any of them tried to include themselves in my dating life. They know their boundaries. But your so called "friend" don't. What kind of person dares to even try and nosy themselves into someone's marriage? Do they not have their own lives to worry about? Sounds sort of pathetic to me.
Exactly, He is acting so much more differently than any of my other male friends. If i go to my male friends with a male related question, they answer it and leave it there. he on the other hand goes off on some other shit. Sometimes i wonder if he likes me, other times i wonder if he is a down-low brotha, still other x's i dont know what to think of him. |
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rampagain
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I am starting to suspect that one of my male friends actually has a crush on me. It seems that he always finds fault in who i date and now who i married. He is always trying to put doubt in my head about my hubby and used to do it with everyone i dated.
How can i know if he really is looking out for my best interest or if he has alternative motive?
Do men really do this sort of thing?
Have any of you women experienced this?
if im allowed to post here ,then i guess i will  sit him down and talk to him,why havent u done that since?ask him why he always finds fault in whoever u date,infact d next time he comes be be a little bit aggressive,but in a polite way,im sure he will learn to leave u alone and mind his business smone like me i would have told him long time ago dat "hey,enough of u already,just spill it out,u dont want anybody to have me ,cos u cant" but dats if he really has a crush on u |
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janami (f)
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do u really need for a guy to give u the tell tale signs? u ve just mentioned them
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Hannibal
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Exactly, He is acting so much more differently than any of my other male friends. If i go to my male friends with a male related question, they answer it and leave it there.
he on the other hand goes off on some other shit.
Sometimes i wonder if he likes me, other times i wonder if he is a down-low brotha, still other x's i don't know what to think of him.
Do u need a prophet to tell u this guy wants to occupy the space in your heart?  |
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sistawoman
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if im allowed to post here ,then i guess i will sit him down and talk to him,why havent u done that since?ask him why he always finds fault in whoever u date,infact d next time he comes be be a little bit aggressive,but in a polite way,im sure he will learn to leave u alone and mind his business smone like me i would have told him long time ago that " hey,enough of u already,just spill it out,u don't want anybody to have me ,because u can't"but that is if he really has a crush on u I came so really close to saying that to him last night. But i did not want to jump the gun. I think i will wait until Saturday night after a few drinks after we leave the party we are attending and ask him. He tends to be more truthful when he is drinking. |
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rampagain
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I came so really close to saying that to him last night. But i did not want to jump the gun. I think i will wait until Saturday night after a few drinks after we leave the party we are attending and ask him. He tends to be more truthful when he is drinking.
lmao ,most men r known for spilling their life secrets after a few bottles of alcohol like i said thrash it out with him infact u r d one giving him a listening ear,i don't know about u,but i am more on d aggressive part and when such a person comes to me and says shits about my hubby,im walking away,and if he dare stop me,hes getting himself a well prepared slap |
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onyinye2 (f)
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Exactly, He is acting so much more differently than any of my other male friends. If i go to my male friends with a male related question, they answer it and leave it there.
he on the other hand goes off on some other shit.
Sometimes i wonder if he likes me, other times i wonder if he is a down-low brotha, still other x's i don't know what to think of him.
Then nwannem nwanyi, you need to leave brothaman alone. It don't take a mutha loving genius to know babyboy want some of that. And by still associating with him, just gives him ideas and teases his peculiar mind. |
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sistawoman
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lmao ,most men r known for spilling their life secrets after a few bottles of alcohol
like i said thrash it out with him
infact u r d one giving him a listening ear,i don't know about u,but i am more on d aggressive part and when such a person comes to me and says shits about my hubby,im walking away,and if he dare stop me,hes getting himself a well prepared slap
Thanks  |
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sistawoman
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Then nwannem nwanyi, you need to leave brothaman alone. It don't take a mutha loving genius to know babyboy want some of that. And by still associating with him, just gives him ideas and teases his peculiar mind.
Thanks @all Thanks for the replies. |
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rampagain
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Thanks u is welcome  sorry about d last time,was a little bit pissed off  |
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onyinye2 (f)
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Thanks Nnoo. |
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sistawoman
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No worries we all have our off days |
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chamotex (m)
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No worries we all have our sex days yep!!!  |
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A-40 (m)
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@sistawoman Hmm you know what Chris Rock said about Men and Women? Men dont have female friends they just have girls they have not fcuked yet but seriously you gotta kick that dude thats whining over female orifice that doesn't belong to him to the Kerb |
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Ruby_Pearl
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@sistawoman Hmm you know what Chris Rock said about Men and Women? Men don't have female friends they just have girls they have not fcuked yet but seriously you gotta kick that dude thats whining over female orifice that doesn't belong to him to the Kerb You mean Chris Rock the comedian? Sistah woman, this is more reason why you shouldn't take this post serious. fcuk ko phock ni. @post Maybe he's just being protective jor. |
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lekeleke (m)
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Sis., i am a man and i know the way we think. Your friend wants to become an FWB(friends with benefits), the earlier you call him to order the better or except you want to oblige him when he eventually makes his move. THE CHOICE IS YOURS, IT'S A FREE WORLD
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A-40 (m)
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@Ruby_Pearl Chris Brown  you must have gotten confuzzled!! Chris Brown sings Chris Rock cracks jokes Being protective? yeah protecting his interests thats what he is doing! he wants in on that ass |
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Ruby_Pearl
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@Ruby_Pearl Chris Brown you must have gotten confuzzled!! Chris Brown sings Chris Rock cracks jokes Being protective? yeah protecting his interests thats what he is doing! he wants in on that ass LOL! Yea, I corrected myself. Somehow I was thinking of Chris Brown. Ugh, you men think alike. So a woman is now a sex figure? A man and a female cannot share a sexless relationship? I tire for una |
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dyabman (m)
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maybe he wants your sexy high ass.
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iice (f)
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Yes some men do that.
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A-40 (m)
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LOL! Yea, I corrected myself. Somehow I was thinking of Chris Brown.
Ugh, you men think alike. So a woman is now a sex figure?
A man and a female cannot share a sexless relationship?
I tire for una
Naah not a sex figure but i am telling you 9 out of 10 friendships between male and females are either relationships,failed or potential relationships if you look closely most female friends guys have are girls they where trying to date or fcuk took a wrong turn and ended up in the friendship zone |
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sistawoman
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i really hope this is not the case with him and that our differences can be worked out. He is a good friend and my neighbor so we see each other every single day.
He babysits our children when hubby and i go out or when i go to work.
He is a good friend. But all that aside, what God has join let NO MAN put us under. I will not allow him or anyone else to come in between my marriage.
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oziomatv (m)
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i really hope this is not the case with him and that our differences can be worked out. He is a good friend and 1 my neighbor so we see each other every single day.
He babysits our children when hubby and i go out or when i go to work.He is a good friend2. But all that aside, what God has join let NO MAN put us under. I will not allow him or anyone else to come in between my marriage.
He must be a nice man, but to babysits your children, he don't have job of his own? Nwanna mu checkiekwa na aka nwokea adighi na ofu nwa ya, oyibo ana akwaka n'iko. |
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A-40 (m)
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@oziomatv
That is the million dollar question he sounds pretty queer to me
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Ruby_Pearl
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Naah not a sex figure but i am telling you 9 out of 10 friendships between male and females are either relationships,failed or potential relationships if you look closely most female friends guys have are girls they where trying to date or fcuk took a wrong turn and ended up in the friendship zone
As much as I'd like to disagree with you, you made a valuable point |
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