Why Do Black Girls Do This To Us

hmmmn, that is debatable.  but she now sees me as a dangerous play boy. it's like ahaaa, thats him, another nigerian trickster. i get really mad when i hear such stuff.

she aint from naija but she's west african. a sister.

i'm pissed

Toshmann,

I'm not into white women so I know all about the attitude of black women you so perfectly described,a lot of black women live in a bubble where they want to make all the rules.UK black women tell you from the first hello that they are independent strong women yet they are on welfare and want you to pay for all her bills later on.

Many black men have given up on black women because of some ghetto attitude copied from hiphop videos,its all about its my way the only way.I don't know of figures but a black womans attitude to wards a black man is determined by the kind of urban wear,his wheels and the size of his wallet.If you had some rented car and a fist full of stirling am sure their attitude would be different.

see? i hate pretending. if anyone likes me b/c of a ride that person does not deserve one second of my time.
i just hope not all sister have such attitude.

Are you talking about African American women or Nigerian women?  
I don't know why but everyone nowadays presume that all black women have ghetto attitude because of the way they're portrayed by the media.
saying black men give up on black women because of their attitude is just a stupid excuse because many black guys go out with the worst white women.

In my opinion as someone mentioned earlier, a lot of white ladies are up for anything. black women on the other hand  (at least some) have a lot of respect for themselves which many assume to be pride or "feeling too big."

I don't even know why black men complain about black girls so much. It's ridiculous and in the end, there are stats to back up the fact that black women are more successful and advanced academically, morally and religiously than black men.

The way I know it, a lot of black guys are dating for SEX , SEX and SEX!! it's all about boobs and butts (at least that's what the Hiphop videos tell us).

source please


there are decent black men too.
toshmann is one of them. there are millions of decent black men. believe me.

I don't even need to post websites for you but i'll do if you request it.
If you're a college student, look around, calculate the ratio of black girls to boys and give me the feedback. It gets smaller as you move up. i.e graduate schools.
In my school, most of the blacks in honors and advanced courses are females. And the few male ones are barely passing except for maybe 2 of them.

I' be back w/  stat sources.

Dear,

may we stop all these "white girls are up for anything"  and "black girls are independent, strong and wont take anything" theory. The black girls i've seen here don't even inspire me to talk to them not to talk of date. On the other hand, i've met white girls who are strong, independent, know what they want from men and are open about it. The reason we think they will accept anything is they are more willing to express themselves, most don't play hard to get, they go out of their way to tell u they like you and wont hesitate to take you out.
On the other hand, the black girls want you to assume financial responsibility for them soon as you start dating them.

i am presently involved with a white christian chic and i am very satisfied with a girl that loves me for who i am and is eager to be a part of my family. A woman who does not make demands on me, a woman who does not judge me by my wallet size. A woman who knows what she wants in a man and has a goal for the future not just wanting a casual fling.

I have never dated a black girl in the 1 yr i've been here despite pressure from family, i have had no regrets!

http://www.tuck.dartmouth.edu/news/releases/pr20030306_bell.html

At many campuses, two-thirds of black students are female, and the lack of black men raises all sort of troubling questions.
http://insidehighered.com/news/2006/04/21/cuyjet

The question is how do these black girls go with black guys without settling for less?

@ toshman

nna i understand you. Since ive been here, i can count on my fingers the number of black girls ive seen in graduate and medical programs here. the vast majority (over 95%) are in the ghettoos. I feel ashamed watching the news at night and 9 out of 10 murders, robberies, teenage pregnancies are in the black areas.
There is nothing wrong with NOT dating a black girl, you see black girls here dressed like they just came down from a hiphop video, their english language requires another few months of learning to understand. most claim to be independent, since when did single motherhood, staying on welfare, struggling through school at 25 with two fatherless children become symbols for strength and independence?

@ wesley,

sometimes when u get to a place, say the hall reception in a students hall of residence and all my white friends just rush off to their white girl friends just for some talk and i spot a sister, the look on her face just seems to say "hey stay where you are, don't come here" don't know how to eplain it for you to understand but the wear a very unfriendly face . not all the time, but most times. especially african ones. the ones from the carribeans are a little bit more friendly.

anyway, that's life. i have always wanted to date a sister, but if destiny has decided to put me in the hands of a white girl, so be it. at least it shows i'm not racist.

@ toshmann.   hey lets hook up!!!!!!!!

Here we go again. Are you trying to push the blame of the black condition on the females.
where is it in your post that there are more black men in jail than there are in colleges http://www.globalblacknews.com/Jail.html
that these robberies, murders and rape are mainly commited by black men?
how about the black men you see on hip hop videos and the men in ghettos?
DO YOU SEE BLACK WOMEN COMPLAIN ABOUT ALL THESE?



"Or, consider a chat I had earlier this month with a group of academics and healthcare professionals about the fact that black women have among the lowest suicide rates in the country -- one-third that of white women, according to a 2003 University of North Carolina study. Asked why, I began to wax rhapsodic about the grounding that spirituality gives, the grace that hardship brings and that serene majesty that often settles in on black women of a certain age.

Point being, black women are the strength and succor of their community. They are the last line of defense."


and then they go about and hate on Bill Cosby when his words are actually right on target and on point.
Black women are symbol of strenght and independence because they are!

As quoted by The Atlanta Journal-Constitution, he said: ``Men as young boys are dropping out of high school, but they can memorize lyrics of very difficult rap songs and know how to braid each other's hair.''

As quoted by The Palm Beach Post, he said, ``You young women have to know it is time for you to take charge.''

As quoted by EURweb, an African-American website, he said, ``It is time for you to pick up the pace and lead, because the men are not there.''

The stark figures on incarceration and education that support Cosby are, of course, so well known as to defy repetition. And a 2003 Newsweek report tells us that, increasingly, black women of education and achievement are having a hard time finding similarly situated black men.



http://www.miami.com/mld/miamiherald/living/columnists/leonard_pitts/14670931.htm

because the media tells you they do?
you probably been watching too much BET and mtv where white women are portrayed as the gentle angels and black women the aggresive witches. :rolls eyes:

@ soulpatrol,

the guys definitely like you but are afraid of what daddy, mummy and friends will say. The girls on the other hand are more liberal which is why you find more white girl-black boy relationships.
Black girls are not all as bad as we project them to be, infact many are of excellent character but where do you find such? i am not of the many who believe i must marry black because i'm black. I am very open minded and willing to meet new people. From experience dating white girls, they will at least to a large extent take almost anything you throw at them, they are easier to live with because you don't have to ensure you have money, the latest shoes and clothes or the latest rap video. White girls wont mind a night watching a movie on the couch with you and just talk. Most don't mind cooking or cleaning for you, they are eager to be a part of your family, when you hurt them they let you know and are quick to forgive. Life with them dear, is generally easier than with black women.

I once lived in an apt opposite this really loud family from liberia. Being black they all expected me to suddenly become friends with them. Needless to say, their attitude was a huge turn off.

Me watch MTV and bet hell no!!!.

I'm advocate for a strong black relationship,I distance myself from black men you parade their trophy blondes around.I think that hard working black women would only give me a chance in a church environment,unfortunately am not a church person.
I'm not a black woman basher,I don't think they are bitches either but as a man,which you wouldn't understand If you meet a black woman in a public forum they are usually defensive like please don't talk me especially if they are in a group.

i see no one's replying to the article so i guess you all agree with the lady.

here's a deep response from one of the many black guys.

I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myse lf to be among the ranks of successful black men. I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why black men date white women.

Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy. The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls. Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. Alot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight.

I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black men date white women. Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson,and Chris Rock all married strong black women. And, to flip the scrip, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few. I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed. Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess.

Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history! It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery. It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born with two strikes against them: being black and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise! It is because of the black women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my black Queen.

It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with black women. I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darkenyour skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fu ller and more voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.

BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill. No offense taken, none given.
Signed, Black Royalty

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