Why Do Black Girls Do This To Us

interesting

history has it that black people (man and woman) have to cope with a lot of pressure under which the average white man will commit suicide

true talk. true talk. its really 2 strikes against us. being black and being a female. we've suffered so much but the good lord has given us the strength to forge ahead amidst all the obstacles. even with our daily struggles, you don't find the black people running to psychiatrists/councellors, its the other way round. isnt that just funny?

true talk

". . . . with a group of academics and healthcare professionals about the fact that black women have among the lowest suicide rates in the country -- one-third that of white women, according to a 2003 University of North Carolina study. Asked why, I began to wax rhapsodic about the grounding that spirituality gives, the grace that hardship brings and that serene majesty that often settles in on black women of a certain age.

Point being, black women are the strength and succor of their community. They are the last line of defense."
http://www.miami.com/mld/miamiherald/living/columnists/leonard_pitts/14670931.htm

methinks there's no point making color sensitive statements here. the issue is that our sisters have good qualities(just as some white women too. my girl friend is so nice)but our sisters make it hard for us to have them while the whiteys "snatch" all the brothars away.

imagine a reply i got from a sister when i asked her why she does this hard to get stuff, she said, any man that does not have guts should not come near me. imagine. yet when this guttless man goes to a whitey she gets annoyed and suddenly realises that the guttless man is very valuable

Toshman has said it all.
I would gladly have dated many a black women but most of them are so hard to break down its almost like you have to beg before they even agree to talk to you. White women are no gods that black men want to kill themselves over, if i had my way i'D rather be back home where i wont even remember my skin color and happily married to fellow nigerians. But it would be wrong to assume that everyone who dates white women only does it because they feel inferior (inferior to what?) or because there are no good blak women out there. White women as much as black men also love too and sometimes love goes beyond the simple color of your skin to the color of your heart!

between having dated both white and black, i can conclude that deep down away from all the prying eyes of the society, there is no distinct difference between the 2, at heart they are all just female.

point


i disagree here. no disrespect, but the whites are very liberal with guys.  i may be wrong, i've only dated my whitey for 1 month

@ toshmann so ure already dating a "whitey" yet you want to hook up with beyonce knowles. na sooooooo???

@ soul
i only met her last month and i have not had sex with her. we like each other and we are being too careful. if anything goes wrong now she can't accuse me of using her because i have never seen the color of her thong. niether am i interested.

i just like her, for liking me

if u say yes to me, she'll understand and same if she says she's gotta go. we are dating, always together, in pubs clubs etc but we are just being cautious as if still studying each other

@Davidylan, whatever you say because most of your words about black females are generalizations too (generalizations to the core actually) It just makes me assume that you dislike black females. sorry to say.

In your words : Is being a best friend and being understanding the sole preserve of the black woman? I think not. Is being a virtous woman the same as dropping out of school, dressing like a tramp, loud and aggressive behavior, inability to submit to authority and playing hard to get?

"inability to submit to authority" makes me laugh. Women aren't mens slaves whether you want to know that or not. If black women you've met don't submit to your authority, i applaud them!! because I wouldn't be a slave to no man.
my relationship's going to be 50/50. respect'll be give and take.

 
Of course there's no relationship without stress. Black or white, stress dey plenty! You wait until you forget her birthday! You will see thunder that day, or the day she has to remind you to buy her those flowers she's been indirectly pointing your attention to all the while,

The only difference is that they are more liberal that black women and are more trusting and understandiing. They'D take most things a black woman would rake you ove the coals for.

But by and large, not much of a difference, the most important thing is you love her not just because she loved you or smiled at you!

to be honest i don't trust them at all. when it comes to fidelity they leave much to be desired. a friend of mine, married is busy telling me that she wont mind having it with me. she's damn older than me. married. haba!!!!

many of them are so reckless with sex that i get pissed. yeah, some are well mannered but on the average, the whiteys are reckless and shameless when it comes to sex and more importantly they are almost Godless

no one's saying that. all i'm saying is that this thread and many others that resemble this are "let's bash black women adn call them loud, uncouth and bad"

You never see white men doing this to their females.

It's sad!

 

This is another honest reply to the "Disgusted white girl"

Name: Mulumba Kazigo
Comment:
Hello everyone. If I could just offer my opinion. Iam a black male college student. I went to high school in a upper-middle class predominantly white town. In regards to the subject of discussion, ideally race shouldn't serve as the main criteria in selecting a mate. Unfortunately, some black individuals due to a sense of self-hatred engendered in a society that's taught you how to hate yourself come to place a higher value on white women. To them, I advise you if you can to go and live in Africa for some time. It might help erase this internalized hatred you have for your race. In his racially homogenous society you might develop a greater sense of love and self-acceptance for yourself. Over there you get to see Africans represented and thriving in all roles of society. More importantly what you might consider to be a black person of status i.e educated, wealthy, hardworking will not seem like an unusual phenomenon in an environment whose racial makeup is compatible to yours. You'll realize more importanly that the black race is just like the white race. There are its good and bad elements. I know this having lived in Uganda for six years. I interacted with smart, beautiful, successful people who were well educated and hardworking. In addition I also met or heard about the kind of black person you see on television in this country for the most part. The difference is, you witness this dichotomy of personalities outside of this society. You don't attribute those shortcomings to race, just flawed personalities. Also, a black person of status may be an aberration, but he's seen in the same light Bill Gates is. My experience in a predominanly white neighborhood taught me the same thing. Although that sense of self-loathing for who I was began to affect me, it didn't fully overcome me. I witnessed whites from both sides of the personality spectrum. Industrious, hardworking and kind. Plus selfish, lazy and unpleasant. White people and white women certainly aren't better than women of our race. The same problems you cite in black women and men can also be found in white women. On a personal note, I've met and fallen in love with women from both sides. Never dated though.
However, if I were to choose a mate, out of a sense of racial pride I would set aside my sense of color blindedness and go with a woman from my own race

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lets hear your opinion.

I don't know why this is so. I stay in upstate NY where contact with black females is few and far between. More than 90% of females in my school and immediate vicinity are white. I have been opportuned to meet really decent black females here at the medical school and grad school but the vast majority are just nothing to write home about.
I think its high time we began to make a distinction, i don't think the problem is ALL BLACK WOMEN, i think NIGERIAN black women or those straight from Africa are much better than African American women! As for those who used to live opposite myy street, no appologies, they were a disgrace to AFricans!

that was so uncool of them. and here are some of us black sistas just looking for some acknowledgement from a brotha or whoever. funny indeed