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jazmelbaf (m)
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I guess this is a very interesting topic pp might want to shy away from but the truth is that lots of guys and babes get themselves involved in this without noin and before u no its like a fire in them and they find it very very very hard to quench. U can enjoy the pleasure in it, but it really eats deep into u that u find it hard to get out from it. Age does not count in this. Statistics shows that even guys before ages of 13 - 45 get (more) engaged in this. I guess its a good thing we need to talk about and how this can be controlled. Its opened to all in the house.
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luvly (f)
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i guess men get involved in this than women don't u agree with me?  |
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jazmelbaf (m)
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Not disputing that, but that anyway, but d more we talk about stuffs like this, it gets into deir subconsious mind. And 1 can put his/herself in check but basically what usually leads to this?
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iice (f)
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Fantasies, vivid imaginations, puberty, wondering what that thingie down there is for, sexual urges, so on and so forth
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nferyn (m)
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The first thing to realise is that masturbation is natural and normal. As long as you don't - as a matter of speaking - spend every waking hour masturbating, nothing is wrong
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btkj (f)
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i know someone who masturbated for good six years but just got out of it recently.i wont call masturbating as a normal process in puberty. it is a sickness, a disease, a problem that needs determination from the person to get out of it.masturbation doesnt just happen. it starts from a process.let me tell y'all about this person,
when she was 10, so, she says, she was alone with a guy and this guy kissed her right in her friend's living room.like every naive person,though she would never have sex with a guy, she decided to give herself sexual pleasures. it took 4 years before she realised what she was doin.and the question came'how will i get out of this?but i aint doin anything wrong?'.she wanted to let go but everytime she m,akes such a decision, the sexual pleasure bcomes stronger. she later felt ashamed of herself and fought against this.
am sure anyone who sees her will find it hard to blive that her type will go through such an ordeal.
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Seun (m)
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I also believe it's 100% normal.
There are two types of people in this world: those who masturbate and pretenders.
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iice (f)
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Exactly, its natural, guess the whole biology class ddnt really happen 4 some
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jazmelbaf (m)
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yeap just like iice said "Fantasies, vivid imaginations, , and so on". Have a friend like that like 10 years bk in secondary school who got initiated into this through a room mate through his friends just helpng him oout in masaging his organ and beefore u no it he started feeling d sensation. He graduated into watchng porn magz and xrated movies. This made him much stronger in the act. Hes still struggling to get out of it at d moment. 1 just have to be careful kind of friends u have
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diddy4 (m)
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fight it. you gott@ fight it. it aint easy but u have to fight the damn bloody beast.
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jazmelbaf (m)
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For victims of this please no 1 is trying to condemn u, but i strongly believe 1 of the best ways u can easy get through with this is to talk about it publicly. The more u this the more u'll try to stop it anytime u fell like going into it because u no u've said sometings against it. But as long as u keep mute to yourself and don't want to share in the discussion wenever u hear about it, then it means u still want to continue in it. please feel free to talk about the damn ugly thing. Its really that bad. Ladies are not xempted from this.
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Bisanke (f)
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i guess men get involved in this than women don't u agree with me? yup i agree o. At the same time i think people can't stop cause they get addicted to it both male and female and the age don't matter too. But i think sum people do it cause there lonely without no spouse or cause they fill like doing it |
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jazmelbaf (m)
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Bisanke i agree with u, but stoping is a mindset thing. 1nce u get addicted to it and can't even control yourself anymore, this cld even continue till after marriage. and that is terrible
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LiquidMind (m)
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Somebody help me,,
Is spilling you future generation normal ??
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borngreat (m)
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@luvly i don't agree with u that men involve in masturbation more than ladies. do u have proofs.
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nferyn (m)
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Somebody help me,,
Is spilling you future generation normal ??
So your semen is now your future generation? Do you have any idea how much sperm gets lost during intercourse? What about all those innocent spermatozoia? |
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Bisanke (f)
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lol  |
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jazmelbaf (m)
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Its a fact of life that everyone needs to be loved to be fulfilled and u need to love somebody to feel fulfilled. So for someone not to be there for you at the moment shouldn’t be a yard stick for abusing your body by masturbating. In fact it sucks.
Your toughts, imaginations and memories are to be put in check. One of the greatest thing that human beings should work on is the toughts of the heart. I dnt no if u feel me, its like putting a protection around it, because thought it comes issues of life. Your most important sex organ is not your pennies, vagina or breast, but its your MIND. That’s why u need to take charge of what comes out of your mind. There is power in imaginations.
Folks please dnt tell me u can't stop it!!! that is a big lie. U can. Its just a matter of self determination and discipline. But for those who feel its part of life, or no human being can do without it, u can keep wallowing in it and enjoy yourself to the fullest, but am sure u’ll soon get to a crossroad to no u need to stop and turn back.
Think about this….lust is the longing or craving to do something that is forbidden through immoral toughts and imagination. The nude pictures u create in ur mind, or act of undressing someone in ur mind, or act of romancing someone in ur heart wont help.
It only spurs you towards these huge demon called masturbation. Some go as far as binding when it gets so spiritual, but mostly we dnt really need that. It because u have giving this act some sort of resident permit in ur heart, u have d welled so much on various things…, and they've become a citizen in ur life. In the process of disguising to be out, once u get to see or imagine any nude clips that can connect to ur heart masturbation bursts out laughing at u again. Masturbation doesn’t give a damn, no matter d position u hold – be it President, Senator, Governor, Pastor, Bishop, POP, Chairmain, CEO, etc. It gets that bad. Just because u can't control… ur… mind.
Ur memories, memories are living organisms. U can either starve den to death or give them life.
Tips on how to stop masturbating
1 Talk against it openly: by doing so, u talk against yourself and what u do in secret. Hence if u are about going into it again, ur conscience pricks u.
2 Stay away from pornographic pictures, magazines …, , sites
3 Stay away from x-rated films/movies which could turn u on into it. If u no u are not strong enough to control your mind them don’t bother watching movies with sex scenes
4 U can read more books that talks against masturbating
5 Above all God is the only one that can c u through so try and connect yourself to him.
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nferyn (m)
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Its a fact of life that everyone needs to be loved to be fulfilled and u need to love somebody to feel fulfilled. So for someone not to be there for you at the moment shouldn’t be a yard stick for abusing your body by masturbating. In fact it sucks.
Masturbation is not an abuse of your body. Your toughts, imaginations and memories are to be put in check. One of the greatest thing that human beings should work on is the toughts of the heart. I dnt no if u feel me, its like putting a protection around it, because thought it comes issues of life. Your most important sex organ is not your pennies, vagina or breast, but its your MIND.
Which is steered as much by your conscious thought as it is by unconscious brain processes and hormones. That’s why u need to take charge of what comes out of your mind. There is power in imaginations.
You are out of your mind if you think you can fully control your mind Folks please dnt tell me u can't stop it!!! that is a big lie.
It's not a matter of not being able to stop it, but rather of not seeing the need to stop somethig that is generally harmless. U can. Its just a matter of self determination and discipline.
Yes and that will lead to all kind of other things that you don't have any control over. Sexually frustrated people can be very dangerous. But for those who feel its part of life, or no human being can do without it, u can keep wallowing in it and enjoy yourself to the fullest, but am sure u’ll soon get to a crossroad to no u need to stop and turn back.
You haven't given any solid reason. Think about this….lust is the longing or craving to do something that is forbidden through immoral toughts and imagination.
It's immoral only in your imagination. The nude pictures u create in your mind, or act of undressing someone in your mind, or act of romancing someone in your heart wont help.
For men masturbation usually doesn't involve ellaborate phantasising. Direct visual stimulation will do the trick. It only spurs you towards these huge demon called masturbation.
Huge what exactly? It seems your lack of masturbation gave your brain a few other imaginary beings to toy with; I could be wrong of course Some go as far as binding when it gets so spiritual, but mostly we dnt really need that. It because u have giving this act some sort of resident permit in your heart, u have d welled so much on various things…, and they've become a citizen in your life.
What's that vague talk for? In the process of disguising to be out, once u get to see or imagine any nude clips that can connect to your heart masturbation bursts out laughing at u again.
You do have a vivid imagination. I wonder what causes it. Masturbation doesn’t give a damn, no matter d position u hold – be it President, Senator, Governor, Pastor, Bishop, POP, Chairmain, CEO, etc. It gets that bad. Just because u can't control… your… mind.
Of course it doesn't give a damn, its an act, not a being your memories, memories are living organisms. U can either starve den to death or give them life.
New age bull. Give me the evidence of memories being living organisms Tips on how to stop masturbating
1 Talk against it openly: by doing so, u talk against yourself and what u do in secret. Hence if u are about going into it again, your conscience pricks u.
2 Stay away from pornographic pictures, magazines …, , sites
3 Stay away from x-rated films/movies which could turn u on into it. If u no u are not strong enough to control your mind them don’t bother watching movies with sex scenes
4 U can read more books that talks against masturbating
5 Above all God is the only one that can c u through so try and connect yourself to him.
The age old trick of evangelising by talking people into a guilt-complex. |
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LiquidMind (m)
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All Masturbators, Repent or distroy your self
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nferyn (m)
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All Masturbators, Repent or distroy your self
You're silly. |
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retro (f)
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Somebody help me,,
Is spilling you future generation normal ??
Future generation? LMFAOOOOOOOOO! Is this boy joking? I hope he is. |
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nferyn (m)
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If you masturbate sincerely speaking you need deliverance.
Of what do I need deliverance if I masturbate occasionally? Actually joint masturbation with your partner can be quite fun, you should try it out, it can spice up your sex life. What demon? Another one of your imaginary beings? By the way, nice choice of username. It is very descriptive of your rhetoric |
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dearie (m)
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What a controversial issue this is!
One thing is clear though, that Masturbation should not be encouraged, be it natural or demonic as some of us call it. Hence, my advice is that you try to avoid idleness and being alone behind closed doors. Above all, talk to ur maker about it.I'm sure if you add up all the efforts to your dogged determination to make it a thing of the past, It will be history.
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emmeno (m)
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@topic, i think its the only reachable way to ease yourself off some tension. Ok take for example when u are about goin' to work or class for leecture, and u'r so horny, would u feel comfortable with every touch from the opposite sex?
Truely men, one can't stop masterbation!
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desiree (f)
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I think it is a good idea for a single guy to masturbate regularly to ease the sexual tension, i don't find it appealing when guys chase after anything in skirts just alleviate themselves of the frustration. If you are in a relationship get your girl to do it for you |
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jazmelbaf (m)
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Just like someone said its a controversial issue and its something one can stop and its all about a mindset. It might not be easy for a start tought but to fully get grip of this, u got to give your life to Christ. If u can do this, its a step towards stopping masturbation. If the spirit of the Living God is now resident in u, then it convicts u of what u've done whenever u go into it and deep in the inside of u, u'll no u've done somethng wrong. But If u've not given ur life to christ, its not going to mean anytin to u, even if u get into it 100 times a day. Its wl look like the norms of life to u.
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