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Ruby_Pearl
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rotflmao! DNA go help?  what if them pay the guy to say the woman na whity? You fit send one pics to my box for confirmation
I no fit at all at all |
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Sam Milla (m)
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@ruby_pearl I see no positive advice or contribution you made to this topic starting from your first post. You started from quoting another person down to your final Rubbish. This is not the jokes section/you are welcome there. Thats where you can post whatever you want. go read this : CONTRIBUTING TO SENSITIVE TOPICSI wonder what this man who posted this topic will think after reading this rubbishes you put down here. |
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spikedcylinder
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Places like Abuja and Lagos, Calabar or even Enugu are very quiet to live.
Not true.  |
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shilling (f)
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I think you should set up your own firm preferably in Lagos. You need loads of patience cos it'll probably take you some time to get used to Naija and the mentality.
But, you really have nothing to worry about. Nigerians are very welcoming and warm, like you've noticed.
Plan properly. Setting up your business is your best bet. If you don't want to set up a business immediately, you could start working in Naija first, then set up your business when you're comfortable enough.
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chaircover (f)
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Hi Chris,
I used to work with English guy married to a Nigerian lady. Sorry we have lost touch now or I would have linked you up with him. He genuinely loved his wife's roots & knew a great deal about Nigeria from his frequent visits to his In-Laws in Naija and he used to practise his pidgin English on me. He had a great sense of humour and used to call himself oyinbo. He even used to recommend restaurants to me in Naija!
It is all about mindset and if you make up your mind that you are going to go out there and make the best for your family, then things should fall in place in the long run. It wont be easy, as we do things differently in Nigeria but with prayer,determination and the love you and your wife share, it will be well.
There are a lot of expatriates out in Nigeria so you won't be on your own. You are also giving your children the chance to experience both cultures which must be a good thing.
Nigerians are generally a friendly, accommodating & happy lot.
There are IT jobs out there and a colleague of mine has just gone over to MTN on a wage of 14 million per annum.
I will say definitely give it a try.
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shilling (f)
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@ chaircover
Spot on
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chriscox
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Wow, thank you so much guys your post have given me more hope than you know. Richo, Area_boy, Fustina, Sam Milla, Shilling, Chaircover, Davidif, everyone, your detailed advise is highly appreciated.
Ruby_pearl and cipriani, LOL I've tried to read inbetween some of the pigding and cant stop cracking up at your gist!
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Ruby_Pearl
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Ruby_pearl and cipriani, LOL I've tried to read inbetween some of the pigding and can't stop cracking up at your gist!
Thank you jare. but sorry for derailing your topic. Moving to Nigeria? Well, Nigeria too love Foreigners too much, so you'll enjoy. but also be careful of arm robbers. Personally, I wouldn't want to move to Nigeria. and oh yea, SAM MILLA, thanks for your contribution. That's what you wanted to hear? or is a cookie not enough? w/e it is, na your problem as long as the OP is not bawling like you were doing. shior |
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Sam Milla (m)
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Thank you jare. but sorry for derailing your topic. Moving to Nigeria? Well, Nigeria too love Foreigners too much, so you'll enjoy. but also be careful of arm robbers. Personally, I wouldn't want to move to Nigeria. and oh yea, SAM MILLA, thanks for your contribution. That's what you wanted to hear? or is a cookie not enough? w/e it is, na your problem as long as the OP is not bawling like you were doing. shior Great, you finally returned here to tell him to beware of armed robbers. atleast its beta than all those things u posted initially. i don't have any problem with you and i am not gonna start one. but like i said earlier, people seek for genuine advice here. I know how some of you ramble here whenever your pots are removed or deleted. |
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davidif (m)
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oga chriscox, i forgot something also, i think it would be better to move to Abuja where it is more developed so you can start your own consulting company or work for any IT company.
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adconline (m)
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Good to know that someone wants to move beyond his comfort zone. Moving to Nigeria is a heck of a task, but its what you would have to do in order to happily consummate your marriage.
Few steps;
Take a few months vacation to Nigeria in order to explore the everyday living culture of Nigerians. This will afford you the opportunity of seeing and traveling Nigeria through your own mirror. I bet you are going to get a discount on some of the events you have been seeing on TV. It can also be overwhelming.
Network with some Nigerian professionals in the UK or some Nigerians who visit UK for studies can really open your eyes to the opportunities that are abound. You will need to work with some organizations like Oxfam, DFID, Foreign office and some Common Wealth Business groups to expand your horizon on working and living in Nigeria. Please do not set up company for now because you may get burned. There is a high bureaucracy in Nigeria that may work against you. Become a "Nigerian" first before setting up a company.
Its also very important that your wife unleash her Nigerian connection so as to help you integrate easily with the working class. I believe that if UK ambassador can manage Nigeria, you can enjoy Nigeria as well.
Visit some of the cities you would like to live in if you move to Nigeria, this will enable to get accustomed to Nigerian ways of doing things.
There is a recruiting company called phillipsconsulting.net to submit your resume. I bet you can get lucky with some of the companies. Its better to work for a publicly traded company than a private company. I believe that you should also expand your tentacles by reaching out to other Eurozone companies doing business in Nigeria.
Check out Shell, Chevron,BAT,Infosys,Ericsson,ABB,Costain,Citi Bank,Standard Bank,BA, Virgin Atlantic etc.
Good luck and keep us updated.
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iceblue (f)
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@ poster please let us know when you're coming so that we can throw a welcome party for you. em i mean attend your welcome party (naija people looove parties, so make sure it's a big, flamboyant one ) i'd say abuja too. but lagos is better for making money. only politicians live in abuja. if you want the kind of career thrill u get in new york (plus a few extra robbers), lagos is the place. i agree with adconline. visit nigeria first before you make the final decision. do a 2 wk or 1 month test run. visit all the potential places - abuja and calabar are indeed the best cities to live in, but aren't as active as lagos. i beg you in your own interest to forget completely about port harcourt, and ignore anyone who mentions it. find out from your friends if they know anyone who lives in nigeria so you can ask them how they cope (not all the answers you get may be encouraging tho). you can also use it as an opportunity to job-hunt or get them to put out word for you. you'll be surprised how many interviews you'll attend b4 u return. however, in naija, the mixed marriage doesn't bother us. yes there are still some ignorant people who'll make snide remarks (as there are in every country on the planet). just ignore them. luckily for you, you'll actually get preferential treatment when job hunting. if you just take normal precautions until you get the hang of the new place, you'll be fine. oh and bargain a whole lot. never believe the first price they tell you. i suggest a reading text for you while u mull over it. It's called 'How To Be A Nigerian' by Peter Enahoro. |
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chriscox
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Adconline and Iceblue. Those are some very useful hints there! thank you guys  I am already creating a database of organisations mentioned by everybody on this thread. I will definately crack on with my research. You guys are the best. |
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oga adimma
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Chris,
i wish you luck.
Nigeria is a good place for you, you will prosper because of your mindset.
Of cause you will get a good job, just ask around in the UK circles and also Nigerians.
As you mentioned your wife is from an aflluent background, the family will sort you out with enough contacts.
Dont worry and welcome to the Nigeria extended family system.
BTW, Im a Nigerian born UK citizen.
Im married to a non Nigerian African who is now a citizen as a result of our marriage.
Its tough married to a person from dif culture, her family are difficult and I have to keep proving myself till one day, I got fed up, now, we are splitting up.
You dont have that problem, all you need to do is make money and dont ever talk of divorce and dont accept anything you dont really have to.
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finemocha (f)
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just pray and go, but avoid, imo state or portharcourt. screw what people say about both of u, trust me the 9jas in Uk have already started to judge u two anyway.
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OgaMadam (f)
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ChrisCox
Listen well well.
To stay in naija you must be sharp sharp enh?
these people are a separate animal - and am telling you your innocence and humble love
is not gonna get you no where.
you must be shrewd and sleep with your eyes wide open.
dont feel sorry, and "brotherly love" and yadi yadi yadi yada, they couldnt care less.
do whats in your best interest for you and your nucleus family - as the man.
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Timsilver
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ChrisCox@i believe u getting d best advice u can get.All i want to add is dat, you will not hav any problem settlin in nigeria cuz i hav met a few white guys living in nigeria.Just continue your research.
Goodluck.
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lindabon (f)
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relocating to Nigeria? who does that these days. thats a big no no. berra visit, than base i tell you!
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