Should/can You Deflower A Girl With A Condom?

If you're SMART, you'll use a condom.

Light travels faster than sound, reason why some people appear smart until you hear them speak (in this case type) 

Yes you should deflower with a condom except you're clean (after taking a test and you trying for a baby). Do people still think like this??

IGNORANCE IS AFRICA"S GREatesT KILLER, That Why HIV is rampaging us here



from the answers i've seen most people give here it now makes sense why africa has largest number of HIv cases

Some people dont seem to understand the meaning of the word forum

the poster is asking a simple question trying to get advice insted some of you are criticizing him saying the post is ridiculous

@Akinagirl

@cooldud62*

Obviously This topic is a very vital one because we have a bunch of ignorant, morons here who dont know they are playing with fire
@mrover
@djcrucifix
 
And especially this Orchard lady (_{abi wetin she call herself}) and her ridiculous post

@Orchlady
WHAT THE HELL? where you given sex education by monkeys??

I WORK IN A MEDICAL LAB IN A VERY PRESTIGOUS HOSPITAL in LAGOS AND I CAN SAY I ONE THING,  AIDS IS REAL!!!!!
                                          GET IT INTO YOUR SKULLS NOW PEOPLE!!

i have real life stories for you, examples of cases we have had:-

1) a 23 yr old lady came with her mum to our hospital to dispute a pre-employment medical test for one of our leading nigerian banks, the girl tested positve for HIV,

Her argument was that her daughter confided in her that she only had sex once and she never had another partner.
we repeated the test, took her blood sample to another diagnostic lab, the same thing ,positive.
we adviced them to bring the boyfriend in for a test to confirm, we never saw them again.

3) A girl tested positive for pregnancy, result positive, she only had sex once, how it happened?? a poor calculation of her ovulation/ menstrual cycle by her boyfried,  _{did you know sperm may survive in the Fallopian tubes up to 7 days, with the average amount of time being 3 to 4 days. tough luck for those bad at math} eh
 
2) a couple came to run compatibilty tests as they were planing to marry, tests like Bood grouping, Genotype and serological test like hepatitis B and C, and other std's.

every other test was fine

but the lady was positive for hepatitis B!! and guess what she was still a virgin!!!! Our gynaeclgst confirmerd it, the guy was negative for everything and apparently they were a highly religous couple and were saving each other for marriage!! , the last i heard from them the guy married some one else and months after the wedding my colleague at work said they spotted  the girl with her new Boyfriend at Sweet sensations.

oh and hepatis B _chronic has no cure the individual becomes a carrier for life

now Guys,  HIV aint the only bad boy virus out there, Hepatitis B is a Badder Bad guy   why???
 not only does it Have no cure like HIV, But the virus lives Way much longer outside the human body,  it can live outside the body on a dry surface for up to 10 days. !!!

while HIV is an Otondo and very fragile, Once outside the body in a dry form, it dies immediately. Even in a wet state, it does not live long when exposed to heat, detergents, or disinfectants.

Once a person gets the virus, it may take from one to six months for the infection and symptoms to develop. One of three things can then happen -- most patients develop acute Hepatitis B and recover completely; a small percentage become HBV carriers; and some develop chronic hepatitis B.

visit
_{http://www.hepb.org/hepb/transmission.htm}    for more info

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okay now let me be honest i once asked myself this question at a point,  i've had my fair share of girls for some reason i kept encountering non-virgins but hey i wasnt complaining cuz i wore my rain coat every time. till i came across this girl who was a virgin i was like how am i gonna tackle this? i asked my self the question ''TO USE, Or NOT TO USE''

i heard the same stuff, hey she's a virgin she'll be clean

condom wil cuz friction , it will pain her,  she will bleed all over

the condom wont enter  Blah Blah Blah, 
i still wore my raincoat, used lubricaton and although it was scary, cuz the brief pain she felt made me concerned, but in the end it wasnt  that bad.
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so to answer your question poster
Yes  use a condom  to protect your self from a series of sexually transmitted diseases out there, there are hundreds not just HIv

and its not just about you ,  you need to protect her from infection/ pregnancy as well, as unknown to you, you may be positive for  STD or the other,  you would want to make the first sexual experience to be the worst one she would regret till she dies? and sperm my friend can last for about 3-4 or even seven days,  be honest with your self when last you go check your HIV status?<sub>[/sub]

use lubrication,  Buy a lubricant like KY jelly, astroglide, most condom brands like durex have lubricants also,  they sell it in any correct pharmacy in the area not all those local supermarket/chemist, go to a correct one, its not expensive and quite affordable.

or if you a wanna be an ijebu man, use your salivia,  lots of it mate,  if u have problems with cunninglus,  well get creative.


but if at this point your asking yourself ridiculous questions like:-

"Hmm, this seems like good information but what is ky jelly?? is it a weapon??? or is it a fashion accessory???or perhaps it's some form of detergent??? ,  How do i use Ky jelly sef?? do i throw it at her ?,  does she eat it??? do i use it to brush my teeth??. what is a lubricant, why use a lubricant and will there really be uninterrupted power supply in nigeria by the year 2009??? " [sub]hey i said ridiculous didnt i?

what is ky jelly:- ky jelly is a water based lubricant, K-Y Jelly's original purpose was as a surgical lubricant, and it was often chosen by doctors because of its natural base.The product is now more widely used as a sexual lubricant.

A note on lubrication
When a woman gets really turned on, her vagina starts to produce a lubricating fluid. This slippery liquid cuts down on friction during sex, and smoothes out the ride as it protects delicate tissues. Inexperienced or selfish lovers often rush into having penetrative sex too quickly, causing problems with vaginal dryness. The answer to this is letting foreplay go on much longer, until she is truly ready.

but in the case of disvirgining
The body's natural lubrication can be reduced by many things, including certain parts of the menstrual cycle, breastfeeding and alcohol intake. At times like this, it doesn't matter how excited the woman gets, she just won't make enough of her own 'love lotion'. It might be the right time to get a bit of extra help. Some people use a dab of saliva, but others prefer to buy lubricating products. Whatever you decide upon, don't be tempted to resort to using oil-based products such as moisturiser, massage oil, baby oil, or Vaseline. They can rot a condom in seconds, and are hard to wash out of the body afterwards. For safer sex, choose a water-based lubricant.

and woe betide you if you use Abonki balm, or Robb as lubricant!!!
na trouble you dey find o!

so how you use kyjelly/lubricants/salaiva.

*well erm, imagine its like a cream u genlty rob on your body hands face, but erm in this case u gently rub generous amounts on her privates and when your condom is on you put a little on your magic stick,  then go for it.

*in the case of salaiva i woulda said u lubricate with your tounge thats if you have a problem with giving girls head but not the key point here is preventing STD's we had a paitient diagnosed with Gonorrhea in the mouth before, other wise it woulda been a great choice to do the job [sub](plus although some ladies hate to admit it,they love it when guys go down on them!)</sub> not everyone any way!?


points to remember
*its her first time, she may not look it but she'll be scared
you gotta be reassuring, let her know its gonna be okay and make her know you know what your doing
some say the first penetration has to be quick so she'll get over the pain quickly while others say go in slow so it will lessen the pain, which one works,  i dunno only the girls can answer that one.  BUt imagine having sticky cellotape on your chest hair, yould you prefer pulling it of slowly or quickly???

*afterwards she gonna be going through a whole lotta jumbled up emotions, this is a perfect time to tell her and remind her how you feel about her how much you love her, ask her if she's okay u know,

*when she gets home u make sure u call her ask her if she's okay again!!!,  basically she's gonna be worrying a whole lot about what just happened but if she see's your equally worried for her , She'll begin to relax and get herself back again, call her at night, before she sleeps, call in the morning.

*when round two , and other future round come up sex can only get better for the two of y'all, and alwAYS USE A CONDOM until ur honeymoon!!

so i hope that answrs ur question.

End of class Sex Education 101, Disvirgining to use or not to use?   4 unit course

people Aids is real,  most of the folk here have no sex education and walk around ignorant, it will suprise you!

Last last na God, the thruth is the only sweetest sex their is is sinless sex between husband and wife skin to skin.

Get tested and know your status today Hiv is real.

for ignorant folks who suggested this

@orchy lady


and countless others who spread HIV,  outta foolishness,

a girl my friend dated when we were in secondary school , said they should have without condom,  that even if they get pregnant she heard if you take schweppes or any thing with lemon and lime there wont be problem, 

aint that some mind blowing hunk of Bull sht or what!!???

No be say i be wan form lecturer, _{yes i know it was quite a long post,} abeg No Vex!!!

but when u tell someone their HIV status it aint a funny matter,

people faint, break down and shed tears,

a patient in our hospital died of Hiv related complications, had multiple transfusions from relatives, in the end he was mentaly broken, with no will to srvive  his body just gave up.

it may seem like a small topic/question from the poster but it may turn out to be a BIG thing later,

AIDS IS REAL KNOW YOUR STATUS!!!!!

ma guy, virgin or no virgin abeg make u dey use ur condom o!

Please where can i get astroglide or k-y jelly in lagos.I need it badly.Thanks

thank u very much annekix. someone once told me u should not disvirgin a girl with a condom and although it sounded stupid cos of the risk of pregnancy and std, i did believe him at that time. hearing all this has cleared alot of the nonsense and this is not a stupid question people.Alot of folks are ignorant out there and believe this kind of crap too. it will amaze u

Please somebody should answer my sos call.I need to know places i can get astroglide in lagos especially around ikeja

Berra go and find red palm oil and use it instead. I think there is a sex shop somewhere around that awolowo glass-house @ under-bridge. I cant remember clearly or is it at allen now. Just ask the bike people. I know between awolowo road and allen, you should find astroglide.
Or you can ask for julie pharmacy, opposite triangles around Ikeja shopping plaza - u can get KY jelly there.