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ufemia (f)
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In many conversations i have with males, some always end up asking me if i am virgin or not, even when it is off topic from what we are discursing  . I always ask them why they want to know but they never answer. Am not the type to go around telling my business to everyone but am curious as to why this question seems important to them. Hey guys can u help me out on this one; is knowing important to u and why. And females does who u tell matter to u or will u readily spill it out to any guy inquring  |
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diddy4 (m)
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you should have put "some" in that your question. well, i think some of them ask cuzz they wann@ know if they gon break a virgin or if they gon stay away cuzz not every guy wants to date a virgin. some wann@ date a virgin while some don wann@ do that. some others might ask cuzz they just wann@ know not like they are doing anything wid it, nope, just for their consumption. a virgin shouldnt be shy to say she is a virgin. it is something someone should be proud to say even if it means going to BBC radio to shout it.
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ufemia (f)
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Diddy4 thanks for the reply. But now, why will some male rather or rather not date a virgin. Errr, is it just becuase of the "experience" thing, or what. Sorry if this redundant? |
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diddy4 (m)
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different strokes for different folks. some men ( doz that want sex) will date a virgin just to be d first to break her (if she agrees that is) while some others will date a virgin bcuzz they are also virgins or they don't wann@ have sex till marriage. some others wont date a virgin cuzz she wont want sex (if she is d "wait till marriage" kindd@ girl) while others wont date a virgin cuzz they don't wann@ break a virgin. some others will also date a virgin becuzz they don't really care if she is a virgin or not.
can someone else help out if i didnt get it right?
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ufemia (f)
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Hmm, interesting. Thanks Diddy4
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iice (f)
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Diddy, u got it right, atleast by my knowledge but am sure other people got other views
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diddy4 (m)
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yeah. still waiting for other views.
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Rhodalyn (f)
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because it matters!! duh!! Unless Of Course U aint Serious with each Other
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mamaput (f)
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Nobody i ever dated asked me.
No one i have everdated has even ask me with how many men i have slept with.
I do not even talk to these type of crap men that may want to know.
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ufemia (f)
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LOL Nosakhare  . Oh, well truth is, if i told a guy i was a virging or not he will never know if am telling the truth or not. So y even ask! And Rhodalyn I don't understand what u mean. So if i refuse to disclose my status to a boy am talking to, what am i not being serious about? |
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ayoeze11 (m)
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Nosakhare take it cool with her, did she say all the guys that have slept with her. But is not all guys that ask that question because they can confirm themself, so is possible nobody ask her |
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mamaput (f)
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Ho yes it is a big crime and it always was. Its not his fucking biz . Any man that wants me , can have my "now" my past is not his biz and my tomorrow is in the stars. But i cannot go out with someone with your kind of attitude. The man i go out with can never find another man i have slept with. I do not go out with kiss and tell men and i never said how many men i have slept with. But i have gone out with so many men i cannot count. If for you going out and sex is the same thing thats your bad . But am not your people and am not carring your name. so do not worry about that. |
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mamaput (f)
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ayoeze11 what i really meant is that i will not even say hello to a man that can ask that question.
I will not even look at them with my @ss .
I hope that makes it more clear to nosakhare
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ayoeze11 (m)
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yea feel you, Mamaput, but trust Nosa he would still come with a defence
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mamaput (f)
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Only a sick mind can think up sick things.
Not everybody going out is having sex.
not every man i say hello to wants sex from me. And i do not want sex from everyone i talk to.
But if some one can think that far then he/she is guilty of that crime,
My kids have male friends and female friends and i trust them because i had them to.
I even had more male friends than female friends. my mind is clean and i can have a clean mind for my kids.
If they take a boy to their room they live the door open because they have a clean mind and are not doing any thing.
But some people with sick minds will still see bad in it.
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ayoeze11 (m)
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Mamaput I understand ur point but let just have it cool with Nosa, and use mild language, two wrong can make a ride u know
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mamaput (f)
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am off now till later. |
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nosakhare (m)
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hELLO MAMA PUT, i am a die hard loose girl prosecutor, that is i hate loose girls and so i am very quick to paint what is black, black! our societal morals are falling rapidly and it is because alot of people are compromising on morals and they tag it current trend or the world has move ahead, wheras the world has moved back morally speaking, i dislike ladies without a sense of moral , and who r trying to contaminate or inflence the good ones, just like the rotten apple infecting the whole basket, thats why i am so mad are ladies who [propagate the sick idiology of the western world(virginity is outdated,white wedding isfor every lady,casual sex is allowed, mukltiple sex parners before marraige is ok and so on and so forth), people misunderstand my harsh remarks as that of a person who hate ladies, but contrary to that i really appreciate the decent ones, more than u can imagine, they are saints in this day and age because it taks gutsds to stand out, what i see outside daily leaves me with no regards for ladies, so please i might take going out as having sex, because most times it is just a prerequsite, the bottom line is u won't say how many guys have used u, because deep down u r not proud of it,, and thats the gospel truth,
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mamaput (f)
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nosakhare There is this place i go out to were Nigerians hang out. The fool:> so what are you doing here i thought you are married with kids. mamaput:> so because of that i cannot go out The fool ; > you are a married woman you not supposed be here mama put > so what are you doing here. The Fool> I will never allow my wife to come out alone. mamaput > so what do you think am doing here , FFucking g? go and produce the man here that can boast of fucking me . Better go and find out if you can see anyone here with my phone nrNR|_ By this time the other guys that know me better have walked him away from my table. I know your type of men . The kind that mess everything with a hole and later pray to god that it was the evil woman at fault. Tell me who the mess are you that i should tell you how many men i have slept with. You how many women have you slept with.? i am so mad are ladies who [propagate the sick idiology of the western world(virginity is outdated,white wedding isfor every lady,casual sex is allowed, mukltiple sex parners before marraige is ok and Do not fool me i grew up in Nigeria . I was there using pill and many girls i know were trying to fool themselves that they are good girls because they do not take pills. Most of them having an avrage of 3 to 5 abortions behind them be 4 they get to 20. How many Ladys pack to a mans house and call themselves Mrs_All these white weddings in fake churches.A woman with five abortions in a white dress , . I even know of cases were they women use Alum schrink the Virgina |
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ayoeze11 (m)
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Haba mamaput you sabi all these stuff
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mamaput (f)
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And more.
Any man i slept with was for the fun of it or love call it what you like.
Am very proud that i never belittled myself to sleep with a man for money or "shoe."
As if Nigerians were not mess*ing before the white man came.
Was it the white man that thought girls to fu*k for money.
All them lieing and pretending people.
We all say the film Esmeralda The hunchback from Notre dam. That priest or what ever that was longing for Esmeralda and now planned to kill her because she was causing him to sin.
But Esmeralda never for once even looked at him.
Thats what some men remind me of .But am not calling names.
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ayoeze11 (m)
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Mamaput let get things straight, before white came to colonies us, we are not bed like these, HABA who taught us all these positions 69, 66, 99, holopot,tell mummy, we got them from the white, we are use to missionary stly that what our parents did, white have a prt to play in our corrupt society
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mamaput (f)
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sex is sex what every way .
Even chimpanzee has style. Are you telling me that the chimp can do it better than the black man before the white man came ?
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ayoeze11 (m)
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@mamaput the chimps do not improve on their habit because their brain is small, we human being learn fast from what we see
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mubowa (f)
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you guys are getting so nasty. i suggest you meet with each other to no the hottest since the argument is to much and since mamaput only do it for the pleasure of it. if the man won he's right and if the lady win that mean all she said was right and i hope you won't mind ayoeze? is just for the pleasure of it
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mamaput (f)
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@mamaput the chimps do not improve on their habit because their brain is small, we human being learn fast from what we see
Good but nobody put a gun at your head to do 55 or 96 or what ever. |
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Nosu (m)
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@nosa - well done, l feel u. there are still a lot of decent girls in Nigeria is just that l lot of them don't come out to say they are still virgin because people will make gist of them. so that doesn't means that there are not people that are till virgin before marriage. please let change our mindset.
This is what l tell people "if u don't believe there are still virgin, that simply means that person is not one"
@mamaput - l want u to get this right anybody that want to go into a serious relationship with u will always ask about ur past. so as to prepare when it start hurting, if there hv been a bad record.
A guys that doesn't ask u about ur past will never want to know or help ur future. he focus on the present and add to ur past making the future horrible.
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mamaput (f)
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Well not even my husband asked me about my past
No boyfriend i every went out with ever ask me . And am not talking of a 2 day boyfriend or so.
So what do you have to say to that.
Some men do not ask they wait till you tell them someday.
Besides there is nothing to tell . I did not kill , steal, or sell my body so what is there to tell.
Ho yes that i pissed in my pant when i was 8 because my dad flogged me without even telling me why.
And i stole mango and Tangerine from someones cumpound when i was ten and went to sell them . And other stupid things like that.
Sometimes you talk about your ex but a man that ask me too much about my ex is sick in the head asking me .
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mubowa (f)
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mamaput, that means nosa is very right because your huband want a serious relationship with you, that why he ask about your past so that he won't be a bomb to him if another guy arras-ed you publicly that he has once fucked you. uncle Nosa, i will have to say you are very intelligent. keep keeping it real
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