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deevuu
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his he a nija boy?well i'll tell u to just wait for him to make his move.because if u move first it takes the fun out of the whole game
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Double N (m)
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I think the guy really likes you and would want to be more than friends only that he is being a little careful so that you would not hurt his feelings when he finally drops the question. On the other hand your not returning his calls is also a sign that he sees that you may not be that interested in him.So my advise to you since you like the guy also is to drop your guard a little so that he will actually know that you care also.
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Rubbermaid (f)
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Hey, I had no idea this thread was still generating responses after all this time. While the situation is dated, I think it could be relevant to any girl who finds herself wondering since it could give her opinions to consider. Having said that, I think I owe an update to all who responded with advice etc. So here's the bottom line to common questions: 1. What's the status today? - Well, we are good friends. Nothing more nothing less. As a matter of fact, I ended up moving to a different city for mostly unrelated reasons. In true fashion, he offered to help drive my car (over 12 hrs) to the new city but I did not think it appropriate and shipped the car instead. Anyway, our 'non-relationship' is now fully relegated to long phone calls on the weekends filled with good laughs, sharing ideas, plans, talking about family but nothing more. I should however mention that his work brought him out to my new city about 2 months ago (so he claims) and I must admit that we had a very wonderful time. We met for dinner a couple times, and caught a movie once. He also came over to my sister and her husbands house for dinner and they have kept in touch too. The difference is that I was so glad to see him as a friend and had no questions nor expectations that I was able to enjoy the outings and end them without losing a single wink of sleep. Net of all this is that I think he just truly admires and likes me as a friend. I believe that IF he has any other feelings he has kept them to himself well  2. When/Why did I decide he was not into me? - About two months after that post, my birthday came (we had discussed birthdays) yet he did NOTHING for my birthday - no phone call, no card, nothing. I freaked out initially but then confirmed in my mind that he just was not into me. I felt that if he was interested, my birthday would have been the perfect opportunity to kick things up a notch. We have since talked about my non-birthday since then and he says that he just completely forgot and felt very horrible about it. However, my opinion remains the same - the ladies in the house know what I'm talking about  3. Is he Nigerian? (some asked) - Yes. He is a Nigerian. He was born in the US, but raised in Nigeria, and came back here. 4. Am I Fine with it? A resounding YES. I now enjoy our friendship and breathe better without having to debate whether its just a friendship or anything more. All I know is that he enjoys our conversations (he places over 90% of the calls), and that he admires me and respects me. Anything more must be his own kaya so I don't think about all that. As a matter of fact, he should be in Nigeria for Christmas. He is single and I know that he talks a lot about all his friends getting married and having babies and that has been coming up more and more in the conversations. I think he is itching to be married and that this newly found desire for Christmas in Nigeria has to do with that or some girl, I'm no fool. So, if interested in meeting him (if don't believe in shyness) do let me know and I will grudgingly introduce you two
He is 31, and in my opinion, quite good looking (dark). He is also quite outgoing but sweet natured and surprisingly down-to-earth underneath the facade of 'fine boy'. I know that he is put-off by loud girls but I should mention that he seems to get a lot of attention from girls so you that will be your Achilles heel should you decide that you are interested in a friendly introduction to see if he is into you.
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seun001 (m)
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@Rubbermaid,
a wonderful recap i'll say.
so which one be helping him find a chic na,did he ask for help ehn!
u know,am thinking he probably waiting on you to say something and he's still into you dearie.u just seem not to see it,thats according to the current scheme of things as described.
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ademiife (m)
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rubbermaid,
i must say you're such a lady who just doesn't allow emotion to overrule her reasoning,
i salute your clear-headedness; and your summary of the whole tale is interesting,
i can relate with you, in the case of my girl-friend [now my fiancee], i got to know her
in 2001 and i didn't ask her out till in the fall of 2005, all the while her folks were like
we've been going out before then; they've been teasing her at home that she's going
to end up as my wife, but in truth i haven't made my intention known then, and she
never bothered to ask on her own part what i was up to, as she revealed to me later
on in our relationship she said that if i didn't ask her out she wasn't going to help me
do that, ! quite interesting.
i am so fortunate to have her at the end of the day, same with her,
it's always a slippery situation, and you can't know exactly what's on the other person's
mind, folks can only make conjectures, they aren't the same as realities,
imagine that you posted to tell us that you're now dating the guy, some folks will start
saying all kinds of things, from didn't i say the guy would come out? et cetera,
none the less, it's still someway too close to call, will the young man come back to
ask you out eventuall? will you still be available then? are you sure you will want him then?
keep us posted, many will learn from it, it may not have to be a parameter with which to
measure every such situation, it serves as a guideline somewhat,
dear girl, i wish you the very best in life!
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Rubbermaid (f)
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Not really. I think a good friendship trumps a mere romance - sometimes. @Rubbermaid,
a wonderful recap i'll say.
so which one be helping him find a chic na,did he ask for help ehn!
u know,am thinking he probably waiting on you to say something and he's still into you dearie.u just seem not to see it,thats according to the current scheme of things as described.
This is me being a good friend but he didn't 'send' me sha @Ademlife - Thanks for the compliments. I guess we'll see how it all ends but I must warn you that from where I sit there are no indications of a fairy tale ending |
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fuzek
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 4 now i'l say interestin,nice beginning of d end  Rubbermaid 10x 4 respondin back to the threadAdemiife believed so much in it and stayed devoted to ur thread tho its oldI even thot he was d 'culprit'. Joy@last ade. . .
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vdh (m)
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i think thts a very smooth guy. Knows his onions well.
I am sure he prefers to be ur friend first , , who knows. At least, u people mostly marry their friends.
And i actually thinks he s hinting that ,, u know.
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ademiife (m)
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rubbermaid,
you're such a sweet mind; sui generis kind of,
i really do appreciate your character in this episode.
please keep it real, you're so much in control of your
self: emotion and reason, i presume you'll be cool-headed too.
it's quite interesting that you said you ain't seeing any fairy tale
end in this drama, who knows tomorrow? but can't we peek into
it? maybe that's what you've done, but then, how foolproof is your
prognosis? for me, i'll say only time will tell [aside: i put it to you that
you're very likely to go out with this guy if he asks you out, huh?]
whatever happens dear, keep your head up, you've got a strength
of character, may the sun of your life never set.
fuzek, by now dear, i assume the suspicion theory will die naturally,
huh? you know, discussing issues of the heart can be so slippery and
enthralling, and for me, this kind of situation can trying and confounding;
you know it's easy to be critical than to be correct,
fuzek, you know it's interesting to note that you yourself have kept faith
with this thread, some digression: have you ever got hold of an old mag
or paper and you found it unputdownable? and do you know how many folks
are mostly to find this seeming old thread invaluable? you know to me love
is the best emotion any man can have, like the most beautiful rose, though,
it has its thorns.
what else? it's not over till it's over, you either take it or you drop!
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seun001 (m)
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@Ademife, na wa for ur toasting tactics oooo!ehn,i was almost smitten, but for the fact that i checked ur gender. |
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ademiife (m)
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seun001,
well, everyone seems to be normal until you get to know them!
that's your philosophy, innit?
toasting tactics? you checked my profile because you were
almost smitten? interesting! what almost got you smitten:
the alleged toasting tactics? or the profile?
come on, there's more to life than being selfish! the beauty
of the mind is when it is expressed in love and sincerity,
or, is it impossica for a man to be honestly sweet?
i presume folks are who they are until your perception twists them!
, you know, perception is a thing of the mind, and the mind ain't perfect.
seundoubleohone, what else is there to say? i'll say: keep it real and positive!
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seun001 (m)
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@Ademife, didnt even check ur profile because by ur name,there's the m/f identification. so i decided to check abi,theres nothing spectacular about it.just think u are too sweet abeg ehn.  |
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Sequoia (m)
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the tori never end. methinks the chap might spill the beans after coming home for chrismas and seeing nobody (or is it not having enough time to get to know some other sweet ladies) to walk down the aisle.
anyway, the tori just begin and i sincerely think that both of u sound like very sensible peeps, so I'm sure that u'll both make ideal fellows if not for one another but for other lovely people - i fit dey interested oh!
all the best
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Yinkwamo (m)
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I'll advise that u wait until he opens up, because u might just be misunderstanding him. Hey, remember as an African woman, u have ur intergrity to protect.
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T@meD0 (m)
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Not really. I think a good friendship trumps a mere romance - sometimes. This is me being a good friend but he didn't 'send' me sha @Ademlife - Thanks for the compliments. I guess we'll see how it all ends but I must warn you that from where I sit there are no indications of a fairy tale ending |
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Eclairs
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HE DOESNT KNOW HOW TO GO ABOUT IT, I THINK HE LIKE ME
MAYBE You AR NOT MAKING IT EASY FOR HIM WITH UR NONCHALANT BEHAIVIOUR, IF You LIKE AM, MAKE You SEF TRY , NOW, HABA
I agree wit u big time. Before you know it, someone else will catch his attention and he'D be gone. I guess you wldn't care less. It comes down to woman pride.
~swallow ur pride and let him knw what wht u think cz to be honest, you're preventin yourself frm findin someone else.
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Eclairs
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I'll advise that u wait until he opens up, because u might just be misunderstanding him. Hey, remember as an African woman, u have your intergrity to protect.
Integrety to protect? ntin wrong in knowin your stand? At the end of the day, you love him. Protect ur integrity and let oppurtunities pass you by? He can only say yes or no but then it bcms a problem when he tells you neither but then, you've spoken ur mind. Fine its not ur style but you never knw, I hate to say he may begin to see you more like a sister and then oneday, introduce his girlfriend to you.
Pray it doesnt happen cz I don't think you would want that unless you cldnt be bovad. I can sense you've got a strong personality.
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sperocloud
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in life if one does not try he would not succeed. i always love to air my mind when things aint going my way. so i would say even if u are the shy type as in would not like to be the one to make a move at him, just swellow ur pride and do it if he is urs he would let u know his mind if he isnt ur then u can rest ur mind. because i really hate it when am in love with somone and showing so much love but aint geting non back not even regular calls come on its pisses any one off. tell him ur mind so u would knw whats in his.
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sammyjl (f)
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They say good things come to those who are patient. don't stress dear, try talking with him when the time is right, communication in any relationship is the key.
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Cori_corde (f)
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Maybe he is that into you, you just don't realise it.  |
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welli (f)
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why not play his game wit him.act like u dnt notice anytin nd wait for him to voice out what d feels.*u might be misinterpretin d guy *
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isokoh (m)
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Are you writing waec or neco essay on English language. cause i can hardly understand all these cok n bull stroy. are you blind to see, if your blind though can't you feel him. the point is that your infactuated
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frank 3.16 (m)
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@poster
i think you should go back and read all @ademiife's post
his posts really intrigued me and i think you should carfully read it and make a reasonable decision from all he said cheers.
@ademiife keep it up
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