Is Anything Wrong With Dating Online Or Via Phone?

some times its fun but some times it turns to hurt u bad

my Uncle once met  a lady who brought vegetable with luv from Kaduna she was nice on fone to him wen she came she was wowo we begged him but bros don chop the soup thank God for prayers he is married to a correct woman blessed with kids too. My advice be careful plenty women around for guys ladies might a little difficult but omo meet the person face 2 face.
shikenah

Nothing is wrong with that,I personally love it,but some ladies are still living in the past,they still want you to come begging them as if their river of joy is a guarrantee to paradise

Humm, well the world will say there is nothing wrong, but I feel there is something wrong. I believe guyz that date online are not bold enough to face girls on street. Coz when I stand at my balcony I know the number of girls I see every second so I don't need wasting my time dating someone online, someone I don't know. You see pictures, read profiles and the next thing you say is that you're inlove how possible is that? Its just a game, though I've done it but it was a waste of TIME & CREDIT, when you call always to keep in contact.lol. I don't call it love, I see it as infatuation, because infatuation strikes up but love grows when you really know who you're dealing with and you can never know someone very well online or on phone, because people hide behind their Computer Monitor and type HOT words but its not their real self. Dating someone on phone or online is no SENSE. Because you don't know who is who? The guy may sound caring and down to heart, he might be a ritualist coz I once heard a story like that, the girl life was useless after ejecting her private with a KNIFE (I'm not saying a guy you meet on the street can't do that okay?). Lots of crazy things happening, I believe if you want to have a boyfriend or girlfriend, why not look outside, there are lotta places you can meet your perfect match, if you're the type that loves reading, go and register yourself with a Library and you will meet people you have the same thing in common with, If you like swimming, go for swimming once in a while, so that when you eventually meet him or her you guyz won't have a boring relationship,you will always have something to talk about. There are also lotta guys out there seeking so serious and there are girls out there too ready to get picked or laid whichever you want. Thats why in USA today you see most of them they are divorced why? Coz they fall in love blindly, most of them meet their spouse on the internet and end up marrying themselves thats not love. You may meet someone online and date for years you might end up getting married but it doesn't mean they are the right person for you.

There is nofin wrng wit online datin coz i bliv u cn meet your hrtrob anyware and cn lead 2 marriage oh

What the hell are you on about? I mean i can't even begin to comprehend what you're trying to say.

lol,  Why is that most people talk of marriage as if the person you're married is your perfect match. You may end up marrying each other but it doesn't mean they are the right person for you. Sure you can meet your heart rob any were on earth but not like internet, what attracts you to the other person is actually the profile and picture and you end concluding you're inlove and the lady says too " I love you too", lol,  So funny. Just becareful.



You being in such sweet online relationship is very good for you, normally its always sweet because if its not you won't get yourself involve in it but not all sweet things are good. He may seem very nice and down to heart it doesn't mean he his that kind of person. Wait and see what your relationship ending will look like,  and then you will remember me.

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no shuking

Online dating is a good introduction point.  I would not use it if there is no definite time table for meeting in real life.  One should always take the utmost caution and should weigh every statement carefully made by your online friend.   You can meet some great folks but there are also some real losers.

lol

online dating is real and it works
thou,i was in it ones but i am out 4 now

since the number of people that says its ok are much.

that means it good rigt?

Its wrong,if both of u didn't know urself, well some boy&girl are not suppose to live where human being are living,infact they suppose to be amony,dog,cow,goat,he goat,cock,monkey,sheep,etc,so dat means if mad man,thug,etc date such  human dog online they will accept,when their no love,well its 50%good for boy,girlz its 0% for, hey guyz flee for girl,she visa to hell,dont think bcoz of her filling station is fine, u want to offload your petrol,if u marry such girl, even your driver will her viju milk     

@poster like u menioned b4 d shits. . . . now thts wats wrong with online dating

INTERNET dating continues to grow in popularity worldwide. As the preceding article in this series discussed, Internet romances may blossom quickly, but they often wither when reality sets in.# Still, there is a greater cause for concern than mere disappointment. Dating in this fashion may put you in serious danger—whether physical, emotional, or spiritual.

How can something that looks so innocent and safe—a computer terminal right in your own home—actually present a danger to you? Some of the dangers are related to an important Bible principle. The apostle Paul wrote: “We wish to conduct ourselves honestly in all things.” (Hebrews 13:18) Now, this is not to suggest that it is dishonest to use the Internet or even that using the Internet will make you dishonest. However, we must recognize that other people often are not honest and that as the quotations at the outset of this article illustrate, the Internet seems to make certain kinds of dishonesty easier to practice and harder to detect. And when it comes to romantic attachments, dishonesty presents terrible dangers.

For example, note the kind of dishonesty described in this Bible verse: “I have not sat with men of untruth; and with those who hide what they are I do not come in.” (Psalm 26:4) What is meant by “those who hide what they are”? Some Bible translations here read “hypocrites.” As one reference work notes, this expression can be applied to “those who hide their purposes or designs from others, or who conceal their real character and intentions.” How is such dishonesty practiced on the Internet? And what dangers does this present to those who are looking for romance?
Wolves in Sheep’s Clothing

A father named Michael was alarmed to learn at a seminar that a large proportion of children disobey parental rules against visiting dangerous Web sites. “What troubled me even more,” he says, “was the shocking realization that pedophiles can use the Internet to lure minors into debased sexual activities.” When youths use the Internet to meet new people, they can be in far more danger than they realize.

Indeed, there have been news reports of adult sexual predators who pretend to be youths as they prowl the Internet seeking to prey on young ones. According to one study, “one-in-five kids who uses the Internet has been solicited for sex.” One newspaper also stated that 1 child in 33 between ages 10 and 17 were “aggressively stalked” through computer conversations.

Some young people have found, to their surprise, that the “youth” with whom they shared a budding romance over the Internet was actually an adult prison inmate. Other young ones have unwittingly become involved with sexual predators. These vile people first “groom” a prospective victim, building trust through friendly on-line chat. In time, though, they seek to meet in person in order to carry out their perverted desires. Tragically, young people have been beaten, raped, and even murdered as a result.

Wicked people do, indeed, “hide what they are” in order to find victims on the Internet. Such predators might remind you of Jesus’ illustration about false prophets who “come to you in sheep’s covering” but in truth are like “ravenous wolves.” (Matthew 7:15) Anonymous communication through the Internet can make it almost impossible to see through such deception. “When you talk with someone in person,” says George, quoted earlier, “you may learn something from his facial expressions and the tone of his voice. But on the Internet you don’t get any of that. It’s easy to be fooled.”

Wise, indeed, is the Bible’s advice: “Shrewd is the one that has seen the calamity and proceeds to conceal himself, but the inexperienced have passed along and must suffer the penalty.” (Proverbs 22:3) Granted, not everyone you meet over the Internet is a dangerous predator. However, there are additional ways in which people “hide what they are.”
The Dangers of Deception and Secrecy

Not surprisingly, a common practice among those seeking romance on the Internet is to exaggerate or invent good traits and to minimize or conceal serious faults. Further, The Washington Post quoted an author as saying: “Internet dating can be bad because people get deceived.” It adds: “People often switch sexes. . . . Income levels, . . . race, criminal records, mental health histories and marital status often remain secret long into relationships.” To warn others, many people have reported painful experiences of being misled by Internet dates.

Will people lie about something as important as their own spiritual side? Sadly, yes—some claim to be true Christians when they are not. Why all the deception? Again, one factor is that the Internet makes it easy. A young man from Ireland named Sean admits: “It’s very easy to pretend to be something you’re not when you’re typing onto a computer screen.”

Many people take all this deception lightly, rationalizing that it is only natural to lie a little bit when embarking on a romance. Remember, though, that God hates lying. (Proverbs 6:16-19) And for good reason. Much of the pain and misery in this world stems from lying. (John 8:44) Dishonesty is the worst possible basis for any relationship, especially one that is intended to lead to a lifelong union. Worse, dishonesty is a spiritual danger; it damages the liar’s relationship with Jehovah God.

Sadly, some young people have fallen into another sort of dishonesty. They have pursued relationships using the Internet and have hidden the fact from their parents. For example, the parents of a teenage son were startled one day when a young woman who did not share the family’s Christian beliefs arrived unexpectedly at their home after traveling over 1,000 miles [1,500 km]. Their son had been dating her on-line for six months, but they knew nothing about her existence until that moment!

“How could this happen?” the parents asked. They thought, ‘Our son could not possibly have fallen for someone whom he had never met in person.’ In fact, their son had been deceiving them—in effect, hiding what he really was. Would you not agree that such deceptions are a poor foundation for a courtship?
Choosing the Real Over the Virtual

Internet dating may present other dangers. In some cases, an on-line friend can become more real than the people whom you see each day. Family, friends, and responsibilities become secondary. A young woman named Monika, in Austria, says: “I started to neglect important relationships because I spent much time on the computer with people I met on-line.” Troubled by this insight, she decided to quit using the Internet that way.
A young couple meeting face-to-face

When it comes to courtship, there is no substitute for meeting face-to-face

Of course, many are able to make balanced use of the Internet. Communication by E-mail can be a very helpful way to stay in touch with friends and loved ones. Surely you would agree, though, that nothing is quite the same as face-to-face contact. If you are “past the bloom of youth”—the time when sexual desires are at their peak—and are interested in marriage, you are facing one of the most important choices you will make in your life. (1 Corinthians 7:36) By all means, make a responsible decision.

The Bible advises: “Anyone inexperienced puts faith in every word, but the shrewd one considers his steps.” (Proverbs 14:15) Rather than believing all that is written to you by someone you have never met, consider your steps carefully. It is far wiser to initiate meeting and making friends in person. Find out if you are truly compatible, especially when it comes to your spiritual goals and values. Such a courtship can lead to a truly happy marriage.

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