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anniebear (f)
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Talking about an ideal man, i dont think there's anything like that, be it ideal man or woman,
lets take for eample a lady saying she want a tall man, handsome, huge, well built with 6pack etc, i believe thats just living in a fantasy world.
What do u guys think?
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manakins
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@lauryn I think what you feel is more of lust not love If u still feel bad make a move at him then develop friendship If possible win him over then count on your luck LUST 2 LUV iF IT WORKS  @anniebear Simple no ideal man because you can't get an ideal state Everyone has fantasies about luv,lust,sex,marriage & mostly life It most times doesn't just happens our way.  |
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soulpatrol (f)
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the question then is, if we dont find the ideal man, should we settle for less and damn the consequences? inquiring minds wanna know!
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lauryn (f)
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@ Manakins
Thanx, really appreciate that. But I doubt what I feel for this man is LUST, 'Cos what we shared/had was much more than words could describe
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soulpatrol (f)
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@ lauryn. girl, first of all i checked out your pic, im no lesbo, but guuurl ,ure so fiiiine and all them guys are blind.  lol. second, i was, or should i say im in the same situation as you. ive been trippin over this one guy for years and years. im still hanging on to fate all under the cover of friendship. ive known him forever and he knows everything about me. but my patience is slowly thinning. i dont know what im going to do anymore. all i can do is hope and hope, but for how long? i know exactly what youre going through, but i cant give you any concrete advice because im a mess myself. just wanted to let you know that you're not alone!  help us people!  |
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lauryn (f)
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Thanx Sister I'm really a mess now, cant even eat, my pillows are all soaked with tears. This is such a strange feeling. This man is the best thing that happened to me this summer, U wouldnt understand how i felt when I was with him, though it was just a couple of dayz i spent with him, but girl, those were the BEST dayz of my yr. It was nothing sexual, but emm, words cant explain.  |
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manakins
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@lauryn Its getting more complex but i feel u should view life as u can win them all so LET GO and move ON. @soulpatrol Settling for less is like saying you have no options Which means a defeatist attitude. Baby doll u got to be strong in any situation I would advise toast the guy or F  K once only to get him after you IF he can't read your body language after all. NO EMOTIONS INVOVLED DURING ACT iTS LIKE TURNING THE TABLE.  |
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lauryn (f)
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If love was a thing that money could buy, the rich would live and the poor would die, here I am, living |
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soulpatrol (f)
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@ manakins, i dont intend to settle for less thats for sure. id just be miserable if i did. but what if i dont find that ideal (not perfect) man. whats a girl to do? remain single?
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lauryn (f)
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He wasnt a summer fling, . It's just the distance. , I cant help but shed tears |
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debosky (m)
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lauryn girl, sorry oh! what this guy did to you?
since you only spent a few days with this guy, i think it could be infatuation. that happens sometimes and you begin to idealize everything that happened and it all looks better/greater than it actually was. hang in there girl, you'll recover and be made stronger by it.
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lauryn (f)
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Thanx. I hope so too
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saintchux (m)
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Thanx Sister I'm really a mess now, can't even eat, my pillows are all soaked with tears. This is such a strange feeling. This man is the best thing that happened to me this summer, U wouldnt understand how i felt when I was with him, though it was just a couple of dayz i spent with him, but girl, those were the BEST dayz of my yr. It was nothing sexual, but emm, words can't explain. It is so unfortunate that you are feeling like this. That is how loved ones feel when their partner seems not to behave the way they like. But the question is this. This guy you are talking about. Did he really tell you how he loved you? Did you people agree to enter into a relationship? or did it just happened that two of you find yourselves together and enjoyed the summer together for some day. The guy may just be thinking in a different angle from you. You have to find out what the guy really want from you. This will help you to handle your situation better. |
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lauryn (f)
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@ Saintchux U are absolutely right, but thats what hurts more, the fact that he does not like me as much as I do. Though the truth hurts, but this truth is just unbearable |
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otokx (m)
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I had to take a look at the picture and its ok. I think you should just console yourself and then move on. It happens to everyone even guys.
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lauryn (f)
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I know + my picture has nothing to do with this
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otokx (m)
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i did not say that your picture had anything to do with it.
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lauryn (f)
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Ok, no probs, ma bad  |
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Scorpio (f)
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Girl, u already kno my take on this,,,,,let it be |
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lauryn (f)
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ok. I heard ya |
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thupsie (m)
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i want u all to know something about relationships, especially when it comes to human feelings,
"Its is observed that ladies are to emotional when it comes to the issue of love thats when doubt comes in, But men they use their head that is; thinkings skills to get what they want at any point in time.
So lauryn its a normal phenomenom its has been for ages just pray to God for right path!! hmmm.
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abudee (m)
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So Brief & Simpl A question sounds but its very pregnant with many complications.
As far as iv known,unreciprocated luv mostly turns out 2b frendship.and i feel u shud jst get hold of ursef n mov on 2find who d right prsn might b.But it doesnt necessarily mean u shud 4get d previous,cos if u2 r able 2attain what quality frendship requires of 2parties,then things can take a new turn.
Bt if prior 2situations like this,u find a what your heart has been longing4 then u can fly like an EAGLE.
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lauryn (f)
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Thanx Thupsie Thanx Abudee Much appreciation |
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Odeku (m)
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Lauryn babe one thing in life is you cant control who you fall in love with, but you can protect yourself by keeping your guards up, things happen in life that makes us strong and prepare us for the next endeavor, hold your head up high and the best way to get over someone is the next one. Go out boo have fun, do things that makes you smile and enjoy life. Holla at your boy.
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lauryn (f)
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Thanx D , tis kinda hard, but I will move on |
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CuteAngel (f)
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Can someone ever find 50/50 LOVE? |
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babaragold (f)
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my dear lauryn, sweetheart i'll just want u to pull yrself together and wait untill yr mr right arrives. don't be discouraged i'm equally a girl like u. and wish to let u know that all men a the same everywhere in the world. infact they are so complex and complecated beings. so in any situation that u happen to fine yrself in, just take it as u see. in other words, any relationship that u fall into, just do yr best to see that u secure yr place in yr guy's heart. but on the contrary, if u see that it's not reciprocal, baby girl, it hurts but i'll give ya a word. keep praying to God ,move on and u'll certainly find yr perfect match who will be able to reciprocate yr love 4 him. it's an experience i've had. so keep up and be strong Girl . [img][/img] NE SOIT PAS DECOURAGER MA CHERI. CET LA VIE |
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Odeku (m)
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Hell nah all men are not the same, there are different kind of men, you have emotional men, you have players, you have husband types, and you have fags, you have P*** eaters, and you have people who just like to beat some shyt up no emaotions, so how can you classify us all as one.
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lauryn (f)
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Thanx Pipulz |
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ami89 (f)
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girl i've seen ppl go thru d same situations like u r right now u should always remember its about wat u want 4rm a relationship u say u want friendship dat can lead 2 marriage den u need 2 work on d friendship first of all, as a friend he can't luv u d way u're wanting him 2 u need 2 go slowly u can't rush into things establish d friendship first dats d base of every relationship so i'll suggest u work on d friendship first.
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