Unreciprocated Love

@ ami89, girl,,,it's like u just read my mind 

What about someone like me whose so-called gurl calls only when she kinda needs some stash?  We're like 7hrs away from each other and since we started, I'm the one who strives to visit her, at least, once every two months.  Even when I visit her, I get some kinda cold shoulder that I keep wondering if she's really still interested.  I would hardly have quality private time with her as I'm often only opportuned to see her at her house.  I've tried to invite her over to my own city, but that has always proved abortive for whatever reasons.

Well, I use to call her every other day, but now, I've reduced that to at most twice a week.  I think I should just take her as she comes and not get myself all worked up for someone I can't really decipher how much she cares about me.  I might soon stop the sending of credit/stash, as I don't even have enough to take care of my poor village ass.

What really surpises me is that she was the one who asked for the relationship after she broke up with the guy she was dating when I previously wanted her.

Any gurls got any clue?  I really do love her and wish she could be more sensitive to what I feel.  Anywayz, guys don't cry, do they?

Lauryn i also feel the same you feel even went further to post a rejoinder on this particular issue in Punch newspaper, cos i felt love does not really exist, and if it does we  have not learnt how to express it fully. On the general let me just say when you are searching for the real Love let your senses be at work. Dont let anything go for an excuse or try to create an excuse him/her.

Interesting but what happen when guys are dealt the same kind of treatment, we are called stalker, Burger boo, and all kind of names, love self is crazy.

burger boo. lmao

Girl go listen to a song by Kem, Love calls the cd is Kemistry. that will set you free

welcome

Whats your own?. _{seems like somebody woke up on da wrong side of their bed dis morning}

lauryn, have you asked this man what he values in a friend since you want him to be your friend?

Lauryn,
I just want you to be happy and have your peace of mind.

I have already given you my own words earlier on how to find your true love.

God bless.

Chances are that either:
- He hasn't seriously considered the possibility of friendship with women.  He just wants love (i.e. sex).
- Your views about what makes a friend special are not compatible.
- You're ok by him but he he's already with someone else that's also ok.

Now for some unsolicited advice: manage your emotions, don't let your emotions manage you!

Interesting topic. Methinks it goes both ways and I know women that,,

Douzy, no be by force o! it is really terrible when a woman feels nothing for you , haven't you realized that yet ? i will advice you get over her for your own good cos, this kind of woman even if u eventually  marry her she will make your life a living hell.

Yea, it's def not by force, and I'm the last guy to force any gurl into a relationship and ish, cos I believe that what is mine is mine, and I wouldn't really need to fight for it.  It's always been so with me, cos I'm kinda a semi-pacifist.  If you understand what I said on my previous post you would find out that I'm already slowing my tempo down in the relationship cos i don't wanna look so needy and ish.  I'm just a few steps from walking away like Craig David.

Anywayz, thanx a bunch for your advice and the supporting scriptural quotes.

BTW, where do u stay in Abuja?

lauryn i feel u, it's one of those things. we all surfer it one way or the other just that some hit so bad.

i have suffered similar thing until i found out she was only making me love her more, though mine was different.

b4 i forget our new member "FEMININE" you are welcome 2 this wonderful forum.

yes ma. advice taken