H2O2:

where's your proof?
what makes you think you're not yarning in vain?

ikeyman00:

@ post

u talk absolutely nonesense!

bawomolo:

what culture favors women?

savanaha:

I think the western cultures, specifically the American culture favors women. THey can have as much sex say "promisc. girl" and no one looks down on the. The white men here tend to be so emotional. Black men on the other hand want an angel and then the opportunity to go out and find the devil to lay with.

bawomolo:

do not believe what you watch on desperate housewives. a promiscuous girl is considered a hoe and not what you want to take home to mama. white chicks may be more sexually liberal but they don't put it in the open.

gabrywyl:

Michelin, I think u are right cause right now I'm actually putting myself in the men's shoes,. Lets not talk about the African culture just to prove your point right. lets take an example of my culture. Where I come from, the women is the superior towards the men. During my grandmothers time, she goes gambling and she sleeps with other men and she beats her husband up. Now, some of my aunts are still doing as such but those whom are not doing it is still the head of the family. Whatever the mother says, everyone has to respect her decision whether they like it or not.

Recently, one of ,my aunt got married to a white man and there were rules being given to him by my grandmother. He did not really want to accept it and he told my aunt that he would like to change the rules because this is the 21st century.

My grandmother told us that we as females must stand firm to our status and not let the men take over.Its obvious that she wanted to maintain the culture just ofr her own benefit.

So same goes for the African men sha.

After all, who no want good things in life?

Seun:

This is a discussion forum. It's a place for people to "bitch" about things.

n-guage:

Every time I open a thread on nairaland, it's always a new thread bitching about how Nigerian men do this and how Nigerian men do that. How about you stop having Nigerian men altogether? Get yourself a white man or have lesbian orgies, who cares?

My point is, the good Nigerian girls always know where to find the good Nigerian guys, if you're stuck with the bad ones who mistreat you in the name of culture, re-examine yourself. Holla!

debosky:

Yeah right.

What about the confused women? One second they are all 'independent women' - I want to do my thing, don't 'control' me, I can't 'submit' to any man, blah blah blah.

The next minute, a man takes them on a date and doesn't want to pay - what do you hear? 'These yeye men sef! They want to copy oyibo culture. In naija I NEVER paid for a drink in my whole life.'

server34:

Just another poster generalizing an issue from only one perspective! From the situation in which they presently find themselves.

n-guage:

Every time I open a thread on nairaland, it's always a new thread bitching about how Nigerian men do this and how Nigerian men do that. How about you stop having Nigerian men altogether? Get yourself a white man or have lesbian orgies, who cares?

My point is, the good Nigerian girls always know where to find the good Nigerian guys, if you're stuck with the bad ones who mistreat you in the name of culture, re-examine yourself. Holla!

debosky:

Yeah right.

What about the confused women? One second they are all 'independent women' - I want to do my thing, don't 'control' me, I can't 'submit' to any man, blah blah blah.

The next minute, a man takes them on a date and doesn't want to pay - what do you hear? 'These yeye men sef! They want to copy oyibo culture. In naija I NEVER paid for a drink in my whole life.'

I'm not sure what this nebulous 'African culture' is, but it means different things to different people. People will always 'defend' their culture - Arabs say don't copy western ways. The French say wearing hijabs is polluting or affecting French values and culture. Americans say Obama bringing a welfare system is polluting their capitalist culture with European nonsense. Nigerians complain makossa music is polluting their own musical heritage, Ghanaians say naija movies are making their people patronize more herbalists. . . . the list is endless.

People will always seek to 'defend' something they identify with - it is an instinctive response above anything else, often not based on some rational measurement of the benefits or demerits of the cultural aspect in question, simply because 'that's the way I've always known it to be'.

That is why WOMEN are often the greatest proponents and practitioners of genital mutilation, despite the fact that it hurts them the most.

debosky:

I didn't change the subject Ify

You women defend the so called 'culture' when it suits you as well, so this IS about the topic at hand.

Many comparisons go on with the so called 'liberal' societies where women aren't 'pampered' as well. But women inevitably forget these and focus to the ones that they think is detrimental to them. That is not a male trait, but a human trait in the end.

I honestly don't think anyone should question God's word "OKO NI OLORI AYA"