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hot chic (f)
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That one na bad thing oooooooo.
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tega78 (f)
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Dealing with a break-up is like dealing with bereavement. You will go through all sorts of emotions---------shock, disbelief, anger, pain and finally acceptance.
Don't suppress the emotions as they come----as you will only be storing up problems for later
After the shock and disbelief stage, you will feel angry----allow yourself to get angry byall menas, but try not to vent it at him. When you are tempted------simply get an inanimate object and imagine it is him/her. tell it everything you want to say to him/her; shout, yell scream----go crazy, if you will; punch it, slap it, whatever. Pour out all those emotions into it----and not on to your ex.
When the pain comes, allow yourself to cry----it is healthy and it releases pent-up feelings. When you drained, try to get some sleep
Go out, get busy---even if you don't feel like going out-----try exercise------dance till you're exhausted (evn if it is only in your living room); do some housework; get busy.
Don't rush into dating again just yet-----trust me, you'd only feel empty and will miss him/her.
Come onto a forum like this and read the threads-----have a laugh; watch, read or listen to something that makes you smile.
Repeat above steps as required-------in time, you will find you are over him.
Oh yeah----onemore thing----delete and remove everything that reminds you of him/her from your life; including pictures, letters, emails; remove his name from your address book and phone book. I tend to return all gifts given to me----it's my way of severing links.
If you don't, you will not be able to move on and will foever keep thinking "What if, What if we made a mistake, wahta if we get back together?" trust me, you will find yourself 20 years down the line, alone and without love, because while other people may have wanted to get closer to you, you were still busy thinking "What if?" and hanging on to the ghost of the past relationship
((((()))))))
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NymphoQin (f)
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if you are a girl? screw all his mates
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kike001 (f)
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lol You R FUNNY if you are a girl? screw all his mates
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kike001 (f)
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think of him as a LOSER n u derserve sum2 better than a LOSSER in it n try 2 love yourself: go 2 good night club: ve fun wit your mates: make him jelosy but never take him bak
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goldieloc (m)
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i'd hang out with friends, catch trips and hav fun, spend more time with your family and don't get idle so u don't think 2 much of what has happened. all these wont let the heartbreak weigh u down.
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jenny2007 (f)
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i broke up with m boyfriend of 5 years. he's only called me once to beg since then (2 and a half weeks now). its been very hard trying to get over him. i am so depressed and at the moment, all my reliable friends are in london (i'm in dubai) so i am so lonely. i just want to get out of this miserable depression. i tell myself that i'm only 21 and would get over him but its seems so hard now. nairaland is like my only close companion now though i don't know a lot of people in the forums!
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sammyjl (f)
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Dear girl, I know am late with some months but try going out with other people, girlfriends i mean, chat aboutall srts of things.
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justblaze (m)
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ota pia pia. otherwise known as rat poison.
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M.Vuchy (m)
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thanks y' all for the comments but i want to add that 1. focusing all your emotional energy on another area of your life that you are passionate about music, work,sport,reading will help. 2. surround yourself with friends 3. move away from his/her sphere of friends 4. try and think about,& analyze what went wrong, and resolve not to repeat the same mistake next time 5. be yourself,listen to music and do whatever will uplift your spirit 6. and you must not hate him/her that will increase your negative emotion and keep you trapped. i wish you success. one love 
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jockybabe (f)
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- ITS NOT EASY ESPECIALLY WHEN You WERE FULLY COMITED 2 D RELATIONSHIP,IF You WERE IN IT 4 FUN THEN You WILL 4GET You WERE IN A RELATIONSHIP A SECOND AFTER D BREAK UP,CRYING HELPS ,IT EASES D MIND, GOOD FRIENDS ARE NECESSARY IF YOU HAVE ONE, THE BEST TIN TO DO IS TO ASK GOD TO GIVE You D GRACE TO MOVE ON WITHOUT THE OTHER, DONT B WEIGHED DOWN BY THE BREAK UP,4 LADIES ITS A TIME 4 You TO LOOK PRETTIER THAN EVA,MAKE D BEST OUT OF URSELF,DONT JUST JUMP INTO ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP COS You NEED COMPANY,MAKE SURE You ARE CAREFUL ABOUT THE NEXT DUDE ONLINE.
REMEMBER A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP IS BETA THAN A DIVORCED OR SHATTERED MARRIAGE AT TIMES ITS REALLY WORTH THE BREAK UP.I WISH I COULD GIVE MY SELF THIS ADVUCE. [li][/li]
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whitelexi (m)
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@Topic: Drink to stupor, then go to the top of the building and shout at the top of your voice: I'M ALIVE!!!! Trust me, it works 
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Trendiest (f)
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Ok,so mi andmy Boyfriend just broke up, we were def madly in love and evryone around us though that was it, we were the best of the best couple around, but one thing lead to another and we're over, Even though i don't want to talk or see him,but This stuff wont go away, Real love last a while i guess how do i get over it?  it hurts
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ashe2 (f)
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white lexi u correct oh! but top of the buildin at a runk state after u shout that I AM ALIVE u would be silently sayin IAM DEAD. Wrong advice, i advise go to bed.
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sistawoman (f)
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Ok,so mi andmy Boyfriend just broke up, we were def madly in love and evryone around us though that was it, we were the best of the best couple around, but one thing lead to another and we're over, Even though i don't want to talk or see him,but This stuff wont go away, Real love last a while i guess how do i get over it?  it hurts You have to let the pain work its way out. It took me a year before i was really ready to move on to a serious relationship after my breakup. There were other guys during that year but they were just fillers and the min. they asked me about my ex they knew that i still loved him. About the time my hubby came along was about the time that i had cleaned my ex out my system and i am so glad because I would have missed out on a great man. I love him so much and am so glad that he came into my life. He became my husband on June 20th and know that i will be by his side forever. Just give it time. Cry, cry and cry somemore.
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