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Sista (f)
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Read the bottom :o :o
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Sista (f)
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I am a black African female living in America, Oh, by the way I was born here as well.
People, white people and a White ran government would categorize me as an African American. The purpose for categorization was to divide me and separate me from my brothers and sisters in Africa, to say that I am different from them and they are different from me, that is a lie.
To call my self an African American, would mean that I am allowing someone to separate me from my brothers and sisters who are black and it would mean that I am allowing someone else to tell me who I am.
I am Black! And, I am proud to a Descend from my ancestors who are from Africa.
Okay now that I got that out of the way, moving right along,
I just wanted to say that black people all over the world need to stick together, we are all we have. I saw the post a Nigerian Sista posted in here about not being able to find a Good Nigerian Brother, that when she does find one the first thing he wants is sex. The discussion board she started was locked so I could not leave her a message. I just wanted to tell that sister and all sisters that you are not alone. It is becoming an epidemic black women are not able to find good black men. I saw a response that some woman left the Nigerian sister, giving her the advice that she should start dating Asian, Hispanic and White men. I just wanted to tell her that dating outside of the black race is not the answer. If she did date outside of the black race she would only be doing it because she is giving up on the black man, if she gives up on him, she will be giving up on herself. You can't truly love a man from another race if the only reason why you are with him or sought him out is because he is another race. All men are the same when it comes to sex, they are going to try and get sex from us women but it is up to us to stand our ground. We have to stop spoiling our men and we have to have patients, we also have to be accountable.
If she did take that womans advice and date outside of the black race, the problem would still exist black women will still have a problem finding a good black man and the sista will probably fall into believing the stereotype that all black men are bad therefore any man that is not black is good. To my Nigerian sister, give your black brothers born in America a chance, give a brother from Brasilia a chance a brother from Cuba etc. We have so many black people from all over the world, give them a chance. You have a variety of black men to choose from. We cannot give up on each other and say I am going to go over to the other side, the other side is an illusion, especially when you go over with high expectations. [/b]
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Idekeson (m)
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It warms my heart that sisters like you still abound in the US. I used to be amazed at the rate some African Americans and Caribbeans attempt to distance themselves from Africa. Regardless of your nationality, every blackman is of African descent. Lets strive to keep African history alive for future generations around the world, because the problem remains ignorance of the truth.
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Sista (f)
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Idekeson is a sweet brotha 
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Sista (f)
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To: IdekesonThank you my brother, thank you so much, I would like to say that it is always good to recieve such a compliment from the brothers in the jungle  I hope you are being good to the sisters, we sure do need you, we really do. Thanks again.
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davidylan (m)
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Hey sorry to bump in here but i was wondering if someone could help me understand the meaning of this "brotha - sista" thingie black people use in addressing themselves even when the person is in no way related to them? It seems to be used often most especially by african americans!
I find it soooooooooo hard to use that epithet to describe a fellow black person, i'D rather refer to you by name.
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Sista (f)
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In America, when black people first meet each other they don't know each others names. What they do know is by looking at each other they are both black and what that more than likely means is they share ancestors somewhere down the blood line (Roots) and that means that we are all a family.
If the black person is a woman she would be a sister and if the other black person is a man he would be a brother. After learning the names of each other the "brother and sister" thing slowly but surely is alleviated, now we call each other by our first name name. If you don't know someone before you just met them, for blacks in America the respectful thing is to call them a sister or a brother, this lets them know that you are welcoming them and embracing, like famlies do.
Do you now understand?
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NINETOFIVE (m)
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Hey sorry to bump in here but i was wondering if someone could help me understand the meaning of this "brotha - sista" thingie black people use in addressing themselves even when the person is in no way related to them? It seems to be used often most especially by african americans!
I find it soooooooooo hard to use that epithet to describe a fellow black person, i'D rather refer to you by name.
I wonder where you are from, even Africans in African Uses this same term in different form like; My brother or My sister.
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davidylan (m)
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I wonder where you are from, even Africans in African Uses this same term in different form like; My brother or My sister.
Which Africans? I'm Nigerian and i can assure you i never heard anyone call the other "brotha" or "sista" neither did i use such a term. It seems to be very prevalent here that was why i asked, you did not have to answer if you had nothing to say! @ sista thanks for the explanation.
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Sista (f)
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I think black people using the brother and sister thing is universal. Blacks all over the world call each other brother or sister. It was the Davidylan guy who claimed he did not understand and he wanted an explanation, so I gave him one. I don't know if he was pretending he didn't understand or if he is just someone who is offended by being addressed as a brother by someone who he say's has no relation to him. You would have to ask him, Daviddylan that is.
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NINETOFIVE (m)
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@ Sista,
thanks you for your thread, may God bless you my Sister, and to every every African American's that deceive themselves that they are mixed with many bloods, that they are not really 100% African, they should all eat this, every African American I 've ever seen has an inprint of which African country they are from and even the tribe they are from on there face, believe me is visible.
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davidylan (m)
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I think black people using the brother and sister thing is universal. Blacks all over the world call each other brother or sister. It was the Davidylan guy who claimed he did not understand and he wanted an explanation, so I gave him one. I don't know if he was pretending he didn't understand or if he is just someone who is offended by being addressed as a brother by someone who he say's has no relation to him. You would have to ask him, Daviddylan that is.
That is absolutely untrue!!!! I lived in Nigeria for donkey years, i never used the expression neither did any one (friends, family, acquaintances) that i knew of! Your oppinions are not to be taken as gospel truth!
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Remmzy (m)
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Word sista word! But i know some guys around my place that doesn't even want to have anything doing with their root . The last time we did chat together, i told them that they are totally lost imagine that!
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Sista (f)
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Yes Ninetofive, you are absolutely correct. everytime I see someone from Ghana, they tell me that is where my ancestors are from. I saw this catalog with woman and men from Ghana modeling clothes, it was a sista in there that looked just like me, I am not kidding you. A lady brought the magazine to me and showed me I was mesmerized.
Just to let you know, it was not black people who deceived themselves about their blood line, it was the whites that stole them from Africa who deceived them. Now it is up to black people to reeducate our children to ensure that their roots are not lost forever.
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NINETOFIVE (m)
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That is absolutely untrue!!!! I lived in Nigeria for donkey years, i never used the expression neither did any one (friends, family, acquaintances) that i knew of! Your oppinions are not to be taken as gospel truth!
Infact you are rude and ignorant, and you are not worth to be answered, if you claim that you live in Nigeria and you 've never hard anybody calling each other brother or sister, then the Nigeria you live in, is in the outer space, save us some space please I 've seen many of your posts, and I don't remember you as an intelligent dude.
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davidylan (m)
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Infact you are rude and ignorant, and you are not worth to be answered, if you claim that you live in Nigeria and you 've never hard anybody calling each other brother or sister, then the Nigeria you live in, is in the outer space, save us some space please I 've seen many of your posts, and I don't remember you as an intelligent dude.
Phew! so much hot air, i wonder why you are the one losing your temper over a comment made to someone else. At least youve read a few of my posts, i can't remember seeing any of urs. And by "intelligence" do you mean to refer to your confused and insultive remarks? As for my having lived in nigeria or hearing the brotha sista scenario, sorry maybe it was you who lived in outer space, that's if you ever lived there at all. please do me a favor, i hate to take on anyone this late in the day, except for once i don't remember refering to you directly in any of my posts so please stay out of my existence!
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NINETOFIVE (m)
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Phew! so much hot air, i wonder why you are the one losing your temper over a comment made to someone else. At least youve read a few of my posts, i can't remember seeing any of urs. And by "intelligence" do you mean to refer to your confused and insultive remarks?
As for my having lived in nigeria or hearing the brotha sista scenario, sorry maybe it was you who lived in outer space, that's if you ever lived there at all.
Please do me a favor, i hate to take on anyone this late in the day, except for once i don't remember refering to you directly in any of my posts so please stay out of my existence!
Take a hike, you surely need some pair of glasses, I just hate fools.
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davidylan (m)
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Its stupid souls like 9to5 that ruin albeit decent posts, first with their hopeless grammer and their bellicose attitude. What was wrong in my first question? Did i address the second question to you or sista? Why are you the one responding to the statement i made to sista? Now with all these, can you honestly look me in the eye and say you are not a fool?
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NINETOFIVE (m)
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Yes Ninetofive, you are absolutely correct. everytime I see someone from Ghana, they tell me that is where my ancestors are from. I saw this catalog with woman and men from Ghana modeling clothes, it was a sista in there that looked just like me, I am not kidding you. A lady brought the magazine to me and showed me I was mesmerized.
Just to let you know, it was not black people who deceived themselves about their blood line, it was the whites that stole them from Africa who deceived them. Now it is up to black people to reeducate our children to ensure that their roots are not lost forever.
We will do all we can, the time is now.
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Sista (f)
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Word sista word! But i know some guys around my place that doesn't even want to have anything doing with their root . The last time we did chat together, i told them that they are totally lost imagine that! Yes my brotha some of them are lost but we can not tell them they are lost and then have nothing else to do with them. We have to show them they are lost and then we have to show them they do not have to stay lost. Now, the white man put a huge amount of fear into us and some of us had the strength to have no fear but the ones who do fear, We have to show them the way. I am not saying we have to donate our lives to helping them because if someone does not want help, they can not receive help. What we have to do at least is plant the seed, give them something to think about because even if they don't absorb what you share with them today, someday they will and we have to believe that, have faith in it. Our Ancestors did not bring us all this way, to let us fail our self.
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damygurl (f)
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umm, don't really know what to say here cept for i'm proud to be black!
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NINETOFIVE (m)
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Its stupid souls like 9to5 that ruin albeit decent posts, first with their hopeless grammer and their bellicose attitude. What was wrong in my first question? Did i address the second question to you or sista? Why are you the one responding to the statement i made to sista? Now with all these, can you honestly look me in the eye and say you are not a fool?
Yeah very Usuall of davidylan, you will never contribute anything positive, you will always come up with some baseless argument moron.
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Sista (f)
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Daviddylan
Ninetofive is doing what a real African man does and that is protect the women and children first. You probably would not understand.
Daviddylan you are the one who started the riot, you came looking for a verbal fight and you got one. We are suppose to talk to one another like adults and Daviddylan you are behaving like a child throwing tantrums. After you get spanked, you pout. I am sure that we can move on and forget about this if we all show some respect for each others opinions. Are you willing to do that because I am sure that Ninetofive is and so am I.
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davidylan (m)
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Yeah very Usuall of davidylan, you will never contribute anything positive, you will always come up with some baseless argument moron.
If i remember clearly, you threw the first salvo for which i was prepared to defend myself. It's no point detailing the foul words you alone have used on this thread. No point, it goes to show the character and type of people who hide behind the anonymity that the internet provides to bandy words they know nothing about. Am i to take your tepid and uninformative posts as "positive contribution"? At 190 posts to date, you sure have made a whole lot of positive contribution, just so funny i have never come across any of them! Unlike you, i will not descend to the level of name calling until,
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davidylan (m)
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Daviddylan
Ninetofive is doing what a real African man does and that is protect the women and children first. You probably would not understand.
Daviddylan you are the one who started the riot, you came looking for a verbal fight and you got one. We are suppose to talk to one another like adults and Daviddylan you are behaving like a child throwing tantrums. After you get spanked, you pout. I am sure that we can move on and forget about this if we all show some respect for each others opinions. Are you willing to do that because I am sure that Ninetofive is and so am I.
Sista, a, i am wondering how not calling my mom, friends, cousins or brothers "brotha or sista" is automatically equivalent to NOT behaving like a "real African man"? b. I would like to know how asking a simple question translates to "looking for a verbal fight". Methinks a verbal fight simply means not agreeing to your post which is very unfortunate! I'm sure you would not have taken it lightly if i had come here calling you rude and ignorant for voicing your oppinions.
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damygurl (f)
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not everybody refers to other black peeps that way. i don't and that don't mean i ain't blk
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davidylan (m)
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not everybody refers to other black peeps that way. i don't and that don't mean i ain't blk
Abeg help me tell them o! That was what i just said and 9to5 and sista decided to sink their fangs into me, that was enough for sista to assume that i do not behave as a "real african man" (whatever that nonsense is) and that i am not protecting the women and children and for 9to5 to refer to me as rude, ignorant and having come from outer space nigeria because the nigeria he is refering to must be in his own head only. Take off your rose tinted glasses sista, not every black person refers to their fellow blacks as brotha or sista, if anything i regard it as a throwback to the slave era , the fact that i don't use it does not make me any less proud of my colour and heritage. I remain proudly nigerian, it does not matter if i refer to my friends by name or as brotha!
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Sista (f)
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Daviddylan you wrote:
Sista,
a, i am wondering how not calling my mom, friends, cousins or brothers "brotha or sista" is automatically equivalent to NOT behaving like a "real African man"?
b. I would like to know how asking a simple question translates to "looking for a verbal fight". Methinks a verbal fight simply means not agreeing to your post which is very unfortunate! I'm sure you would not have taken it lightly if i had come here calling you rude and ignorant for voicing your oppinions.
Sistas response to that:
You know your direct family members, of course you would not address them as such. You chose to overlook my specifically saying that when black people first meet, they use the brother and sister term, you overlooked that point. One can construde that as, you did that because you wanted to make trouble. Your response to my explanation clearly shows that.
I was being peaceful minding my own business when you, like you said (bumped in) For some reason I can't get the page the quote was on but you asked the question as to why do particularly American blacks use the terms brother and sister? After I gave you an explanation you debated my explanation when it was not debatable. You asked a rhetorical question which shows you really didn't want an answer, you just wanted to be able to say that my response was bogus.
You showed no respect when you did that. Ninetofive took notice to that quickly and he called you on it. I saw what you were doing but I am a female so I let it go. I am not loaded with testosterone like you two men are and that is why you and him are going at it. You don't have to agree with anything I have posted. I don't care for your agreeance. But, you don't have to disrespect to show that you don't agree, that is what a child does.
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davidylan (m)
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@sista,
stop twisting the obvious, please go over the earlier posts, you made a post, i asked a question, 9to5 made it a point of answering the question by first asking me "i wonder where you are from, " not a post from someone who respects the oppinions of others. I remember leaving a "thank you sista" at the end of my response to 9to5's testy response. The post of yours i refuted was the one you made a blanket "all balck people refer to the other as brotha or sista," (remembering that i purposely ignored your insulting inference that i must have been pretending not to understand what brotha and sista meant!) thingie forgetting that some of us who have never used these words lived in that same africa for more than 20 years!
I am not throwing tantrums as your mindset is making you belief, i am only responding the same way 9to5 did, unfortunately since he seems to buy your idea, he automatically is right and since i am on the other side of the divide i must be the one acting as a child. In case you have forgotten, every one here has a right to voice his/her oppinions whether in support or against, the likes of you and him just have to live with that!
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Sista (f)
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DavidDylan and Damy
No one said that if you did not use "brother" and "sister" to other blacks you just met that you are not black. If you are black you will always be black, you don't have to say certain things in order to stay that way.
This whole thing has gotten out of hand. Both of you should go back and reread the thread, you overlooked a lot or you didn't look at all. That is all I have to say.
What I meant by a Real African was Traditionally African man, black man takes care of the women and the children first. Whenever a black man diplays disrespect to woman and children he is not adhering to the ways of our ancestors, the traditions of our ancestors. I hope you don't misconstrued what I just said.
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davidylan (m)
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JUST MY OPPINION!
I find it annoying that many black people feel the need to always reiterate their "pride" in their race or colour. Everyone seems to be carrying the "i'm a strong black woman or man and proud of my colour" badge everywhere. I find it disturbing that we are echoing the very same things we accuse other races of, i wonder what our reactions would be if every white person we met made it a point of duty to remind us every minute they were white and proud of their colour.
I am proud of my race, i love our women and children as much as i have the ability to show it. I don't love them simply because they are black like me, i love them because of their souls just as well as i would show love to my asian, indian and american workmates. Some are quick to loosely use the "real african man/woman" gambit, that is as meaningless as saying a cat is behaving like a "Real siamese cat", no where do you here a white or asian telling you there are accepted behaviors that mark you out as behaving as a "real white man"! It is the same attitudes that has seen many refering to blacks who do well in school as "Acting white"!
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