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solo2 (m)
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We were born of six boys and two girls and I am the second boy in the family. Something happened when we were kids:
My father and mother were divorced in the traditional way. As a result, he also rejected us and refused to take care of us, while he was living with another woman in a different location. We were taken to welfare office of those days, where we were taken care of until we finally asked the welfare officers to take us back to our mother, whom we stayed with untill we finally became grown up boys and girls.
Later my father came and asked us for forgiveness. We forgave him and moved to our family house in the village. Some (4) years after we had forgiven him, he was poisoned by the woman he was living with, and died.
If it were to be you, what would be your reaction?
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mamba (m)
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Poor Solo, you must have gone through a lot because it's such a sad story.
My Mom and Dad are separated and my Dad has a new wife, I and my younger ones live with him, except our last born that lives with our Mom though we are all free to choose whom we want to live with sha.
As for your story Solo, if I were in your shoes and my dad came back asking for forgiveness, I'll have done the same.
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dominobaby (f)
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I haven't experienced it and i don't pray for such because it is absolutely terrible. I have got a second hand experience. A friend of mine was and hers was a worse case because both parents re-married and she being the only fruit of the marriage was left on her own. So bad.  The children of such breakups/seperation are always vulnerable to so many evils. For me(as per your story) at first, it would be hard to forgive, but i will give in in the end. |
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Ra (f)
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It always saddens my heart to read or learn of situations such as these. Having had the privilege to grow up in a close knitted family and experience the perfect love of a dotting father, of blessed memory, I can not very well say I have ever experienced it.
I however, as my custom is, prefer to look on the brighter side of life. In that regard, I sincerely pray and hope that for those who have ever been abandoned by their parent(s) at one time or the other, God will grant them the wherewithal to transform their horrible experiences into a blessing. That they will constantly be aware of where and how their parents went wrong, completely avoid such circumstances and subsequently give their best to their families and children. Solo2, you are indeed a great man for ever finding it in you to forgive your dad. I can't very well say I would know what to do in a similar situation.
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Greatpeter (m)
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This issue is clear, even God says who ever forsakes Him in this world He will forsake even in the world to come.
If i had died during my days of rejection as a result of inadequate care would he have claimed my corpse?
I will forgive him but I won't return back with him to the house. I didn't do anything when he rejected me. I will clinch with my mum and life goes on.
But if I have anything to give him I will do, that's the sign that I have forgiven him. I will not return back to the house with him and paradventure my mum had changed my surname to may her father's name I won't change it either.
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ajuma
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It a sad for too me, there is one of my sister that has a daugther for eleven year now her will only come once in a four year with mouth saying this & that. up to this hour he did buy a single or common sacert water for his daugther so my brother just take heart & live every things for God Almigty to figth for you.
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Seun (m)
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How do you know it was the woman he was living with that poisoned him? Would she be stupid enough to poison him while she was the only one living in the house with him? Are you sure that an innocent person has not been accussed in this case?
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ThoniaSlim (f)
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NO and don't pray to ever be  |
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tEsLim (m)
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Damn! Story too touching me. Men I don't want to be said today. I was rejected by my father at an older stage. About my baby mama. He dislikes her like tha hell. So we had an arguement, then we concluded not to see again.
I don't want to be sad today. I gotta go off to some happier topic
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sammyjl (f)
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 You aern't the first and surely aint going to be the last.
I'm a 25 year old who has lived all my life with my mom, never with my dad. I have no regrets, I managed to finish my school with my mom's help and went straight to university afterwards and right now, I'm working, supporting myself and helping my mom at home.
Yes I'm still living with my mom. You just gotta be strong and believe that someday something good will come your way.
It sure worked out good for me.
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Busta (f)
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nope and I love ma dad, both my parents to death they're the best thing that happened to me  @sammy, sorry to hear ur story but i have always admired women who brought up real men takes a lot of hardwork and dedication. |
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tEsLim (m)
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Go get this song "Womans Hand" by Trey Song. let me type first few lyrics of verse Verse1 Tell me why when u put a cam on a thug First thing out of if he's mouth Is I want to thank my mama, [Year] Some say that causes drama , Chr. Why is it hard for dudes to always be around Tell me how can a boy be a man Only getting words from a woman hand Tell me what you think will happen if you don't come around its going to be hard for boy to be a man Only getting facts from a woman hand , Bride When your missin' is first game don't even know your boys nickname Its a damn shame, When you need to be is father, he's role model  |
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