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iice (f)
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Not all guys think that girls who sleep on the first date are cheap, people stop generalizing o
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dennylove (m)
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iice,babygirl,can you go out on a first date with a guy you don't even know much about,maybe is a AIDS ,VICTIM and you gave him your self to use, ALL IN THE NAME OF LOVE?does that sound NORMALTO YOU?
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ireke (m)
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The problem is the guy and not the fact that you gave it to him on the first date. I'm not a supporter of sex on first date but I still don't think you are evil if you do it. The guy is as guilty as the babe - both of them are cheap if you must use the word. The truth however is that a playa is always a playa. It could have taken him 6 months of hard work to get to visit your "downtown", but once he gets it, he would still have behaved the same way - Mission accomplished, time to move on. SO pick up our life and move on too. you said you enjoyed the act so,
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iice (f)
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Dennylove, yes that sounds normal to me, i know lots of people who do it, so maybe around you, you havent encountered such people, hence it's not normal to you, but don't think we all live the same lives or whatever, what is normal to me is not to you and what is normal to you may not be normal to me. Thats what i mean by generalizing, do i have to repeat it again? 
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shockreaction (m)
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You know what, it is a crime to talk with a guy on the first date, too. If you do so, you're just a cheapskate.
[/sarcasm]
Well, you should be able to get the point I'm trying to get across from the above. Dickheads.
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nico (m)
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I'm not old enough to have sex yet. The best I ever get is a kiss on the cheeks. So I envy him
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Maryam (f)
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Before going into any relationship, there is something i put in mind that is "Love with ur Heart & not with ur Head". I feel for u girl because d did has been done.
The downfall of a man is not the end of the world. Please girl do not allow ur problem whey u down forget about d guy & continue with ur life.
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Radiant (f)
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I'm not old enough to have sex yet. The best I ever get is a kiss on the cheeks. So I envy him
You should rather be on www.disneychannel.com  u envy him indeed. c'mon go and make ur bed |
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dakmanzero (m)
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The answer to that is:
WHETHER OR NOT HE HIT IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH WHEN OR WHERE SHE CHOOSES TO BED YOUR BLACK NEGRO AR$E
dark man zero to the skirt tugging estrogen filled rescue. Hope you get some soon because apparently you're a young lad who's scared of letting his balls hang and spends all day listening to oprah and reading cosmo!.
It's just simple logic If you see someone robbing a bank, you don't invite him home and expect him to be a care taker of your precious possessions.
Quote from: dakmanzero on Yesterday at 05:57:53 PM
for Gods sake. Since when did we all become professor Xavier, reading peoples minds!!!! If you feel she will bed someone else just because she bedded you quickly then you are insecure, weak, and not prepared for a relationship anyway.
If you feel you will be 'crushed' to find out she slept with someone else you should work on your fortitude. you are a MAN and it is your DUTY to be strong- willed
I always say to my friends who break up with their girlfriends on suspicion of cheating: YOU WANTED TO BREAK UP WITH HER ANYWAY. All you needed was an excuse.
Of course I'm insecure and weak, what does fortitude have to do with that. Which real MAN would not feel crushed if he finds out his girl was sleeping with someone else? I get it only darkmanzero. Keep on decieving yourself.
If you have a sneaking suspicion that your girl is cheating most times its your instinct. Act on it immediately rather than die slowly like darkfemmezero suggests. Fortitude and strong will my a$$ Hmmm. Zeb, it seems a pattern has appeared. I never bother to look at who it is I'm responding to. But it seems that my responses to you have generally been in response to something pointedly anti-female. Are you really such a misogynist or is it just coincidence? Note: The jokes about trying to get some by posting on the side of women in a public forum have gotten old, and are no longer funny. In fact, if it keeps up I will have no choice but to take offence. I can laugh at myself with others but there is a point at which I draw the line. |
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Hugoboi (m)
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I'm not old enough to have sex yet. The best I ever get is a kiss on the cheeks. So I envy him
How old are you hunnie  |
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don jazzie (m)
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na wah oh.some people here are jst murderers.killin someone because she posted sumtin about herself.men this thing is one common sight in Nigeria this days and alot of people agree with mi on this (except u must be in jupiter).well go gurl.u did what u wanted don't ever regret it because u went into it with the whole of your heart.and when u listen to what bad belle peeps say.u'll end being sorry.so put them bad belle peeps to shame
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dakmanzero (m)
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thats the truth. Bad belle is what is worrying them.
they have, over time, convinced themselves that the only reason the hunnies never bang *them* on the first date is because *decent gurls wouldnt of done it lyke that*, and stories like this are just a rude awakening- live with it, the GIRLS DO NOT DIG YOUR SORRY ARSE!
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anabell (f)
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am sorry to say u are really cheap,anyway that is a lesson .as 4 me love on first date is a crime that is y there are so many heart breaks,u have to take time and knowwho u are about to date so u don't get hurt
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don jazzie (m)
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am sorry to say u are really cheap,anyway that is a lesson .as 4 me love on first date is a crime that is y there are so many heart breaks,u have to take time and knowwho u are about to date so u don't get hurt
even those that date for 2 years without sex and get married still get heart breaks.so to me and all the wakies sex on the first date dosen't make much difference.it's jst that u put sumtin ahead of sumtin else, so make u try wake.sharp |
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zebudaya (m)
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Hmmm.
Zeb, it seems a pattern has appeared.
I never bother to look at who it is I'm responding to. But it seems that my responses to you have generally been in response to something pointedly anti-female.
Are you really such a misogynist or is it just coincidence?
Note: The jokes about trying to get some by posting on the side of women in a public forum have gotten old, and are no longer funny. In fact, if it keeps up I will have no choice but to take offence. I can laugh at myself with others but there is a point at which I draw the line.
a little anger darkmanzero, you're getting emotional, when you get emotional you get distracted. you need some fortitude and strong will to ignore my posts  . After all you are a man right?
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sage (m)
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My Girl and i had it b/4 our first date and , and months later, we are still going strong. I later asked her y, even though i knew and she said that the chemistry waz really right and she knew deep within her we will get there finally so there waz no point of pretending. My chick waz married young but after some yearz her man ran after two other ladies and later divorced her so that in her case affected the way she views things. She is not fazed any more by all the little girl imaginations and pretences. The man that took her virginity doz not even give a fuks about her so she very well knowz that happily ever afters exist only in the minds of small girls, so she does not have any of the regrets some girls that have sex b/4 marriage have because she got the marriage and still it crashed on her. When it came to my own case, she said she took a chance, and if at the end of the day i left, it was all good. She just expressed the way she felt. The difference in our own case waz that i waz feeling her like she waz feeling me. However given the fact that there are shallow men all over the place, u should watch ur step next time. MOST CULTURES, INCLUDING THE AFRICAN ONE, OBJECTIFIES WOMEN so it influences the men. In fact itz a two sided coin |
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zebudaya (m)
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what do you mean by "my girl and I had it b/4 our first date"? I don't understand. You are already hanging out with her.
I guess what the owner of this post is saying is that she slept with the dude the first time she ever hung out with him. And I guess it's two different things. your girl has been there done that there's no need to front anymore. How many men would go after a woman who has been divorced or has kids? so like you said these affected the way both of you went about it.
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walaty (m)
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i wont say u cheap gurl. its just d way our people think on this syd of d divide. i met a gurl 1ce, on our 1st meeting n 1st nyt she wanted us t make love, but i resisted. we were on t it like that for a while. hwen we eventually did, d Q was, y delay somfing we were stil gon do. i bliv its not a matter of being cheap, its jst a matter of , who u r with. cheer up gurl n fashi d chap. move on, thr r better lovers than him out there, if u knw wsat i mean.
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jeffolala (f)
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dear Nacie
do not mind all those that refer to u as cheap, u aint cheap at all, all i know is that u both f****ked each other and thats all to it. and it was just fun while it lasted , don't worry when see true love u'll know, mean-while keep f***********king , its goooood 4 ur health.
cheers
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dakmanzero (m)
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Hmmm, @Zeb. You're right. I read my post again. I suppose I was really pissed off already, and it reflected in my posting. Congratulations, you are the second dude on NL to wipe the smug smile off my face. I hope you are proud of yourself! And by the way, its WEAK to get 'crushed' just because ure babe is cheating on you! Take it like a man! ya big sissy! |
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PrinceTolu (m)
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It isn't a crime but still it isn't such a great idea. Maybe you could have waited for some time. But what's already done can't be changed. But I'll say you should look forward to another relationship if all your guy wants is sex.
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zebudaya (m)
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Hmmm, @Zeb. You're right. I read my post again. I suppose I was really pissed off already, and it reflected in my posting. Congratulations, you are the second dude on Nairaland to wipe the smug smile off my face. I hope you are proud of yourself! And by the way, its WEAK to get 'crushed' just because ure babe is cheating on you! Take it like a man! ya big sissy! Target disarmed. You get pissed on a message board and resort to threats but you tell me you would be as peaceful as the dalai lama or a Bhuddist Monk if you find out that you girl has been servicing some other dude. I did not say i would commit suicide, i just said crushed meaning deeply saddened maybe depressed for a little while. thats if i really love her but is she is just a fling well easy come easy go no wahala. |
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Nia
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dear Nacie
do not mind all those that refer to u as cheap, u aint cheap at all, all i know is that u both f****ked each other and thats all to it. and it was just fun while it lasted , don't worry when see true love u'll know, mean-while keep f***********king , its goooood 4 your health.
cheers
LOL Yes, it's true. Sex is good for your health, so this is one reason to look on the bright side (But make sure to use protection.) |
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eendy (f)
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It really is a crime.Oooh a sin really.
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kellorah (f)
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@topic: crime ke? NOPE. But i wouldn't do that on a first date, common!
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Remmzy (m)
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@jeffola & Nia 
This was why i said sex is sex{wether exercising or just f**cking} while love making differs from sex.
Love comes with alot of commitments that matters to the soul heart.
@nacie; let the past flow off you @ least i believe you still av the time, but i pray your love locates you because for you to post this matter of the heart shows you want a change. That change will locate you soon.
Moreover, follow not the path of those that prescribed campus marriage because only 1 out of 20-30 cases works out. Av been there & done that, got a handful of examples! 
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nico (m)
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@Hugoboi
If u count the months, my Mum & Dad were makin' out .
plus the 9 Months I was in my mother's womb
plus including two hours of Labour
I guess That will make me, 15yrs old
I know my dad says, the months I was in my mother's womb doesn't Count
But hey! What does he know!
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Tamsam
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sex was what u wanted at that moment. first night or not is a secondary issue. u were not cheap,girl. What u failed to do was pretend it never happened or betterstill, 'quit d stage when d ovation is loudest'. not too late, though. In fact its d smartest thing to do.
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mo money (m)
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hey sis. you are ok, you've just reacted perfectly to nature and there's nothing bad about that it's just that you fell for the wrong guy. my advise is that you should resist that next time. chillout baby
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