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earthrealm (m)
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no no no, she aint cheap,
u just fell 4 the wrong guy,
thats all,
don't bother ur pretty head about it,
just b more careful next time, most guys always see a girl who agreess 4 sex on 1st date as being too cheap,
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eselove (f)
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It could be a crime in some sense.What's the rush? If he really thinks you are special, he will definitely come back to you for a second date. You could always make love some other day. Try to get to know your date better first.Its important you learn to exercise self control no matter how you feel. It tells a lot about what's going to be the major ingredient if it ever blossoms into a relationship. You will definitely reap what you sow. So, it may end up being a crime to you,depriving you of a beautiful relationship. Your first date is the foundation of the future of that relationship. Please! build firmly on it.
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kike001 (f)
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no its not a crime 2 ve sex on 1 date but i guess it migth b kind of low but u just can't help how u feel if that guy call u 4 sex just tell him u not that kind of girl n just tell him how u feel  |
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ray_2 (m)
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Hi baby, Just take it easy Ok? Its life and i believe u've learned frm it. Just take this as an advice. Bible says"D down fall of a man isn't d end of his life" Ok?  |
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lovely_28 (f)
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Girl! ya made a big mistake, but i hope you've learned from it, because it just ain't right to have sex on a 1st date with any guy. Who is the guy and why the hell can't he wait? No matter how sweet his words are to you, or how much u think u're falling 4 him. The word is NO.Because you know one thing sweetie? Most guys will lie in order to get what they want from you, and once they get it. They pack you away like garbage. So keep your eyes open and don't make the same mistake again.
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zebudaya (m)
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I want a date with her!
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dakmanzero (m)
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Girl! ya made a big mistake, but i hope you've learned from it, because it just ain't right to have sex on a 1st date with any guy. Who is the guy and why the hell can't he wait? No matter how sweet his words are to you, or how much u think u're falling 4 him. The word is NO.Because you know one thing sweetie? Most guys will lie in order to get what they want from you, and once they get it. They pack you away like garbage. So keep your eyes open and don't make the same mistake again.
*rolling eyes* see her talking like its only guys that do that thing. listen girl. Sex is a *consensual* act that requires consent from both sides- and is *mutually* beneficial. Its not like he *got* anything from you. you were *getting* more during the act anyway. If you werent attracted to him and banged him for his money then it was just a case of who got the drop on who first. Once u got his money u woulda dumped him sharply. listen, I'm not saying the guy wasnt a d!kk or anything like that, I'm just saying I'm tired of seeing it painted like guys are this evil set of human beings that women should 'beware' of lest they 'pack her away like garbage'. Jesus christ. If u f$ck someone there should be no regrets, otherwise something is VERY, VERY WRONG. If some chick acts like she's doing me a favour by letting me bed her, I no want. Its a crappy experience anyway. Better when u both into each other equally. |
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zebudaya (m)
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finally darkmanzero some balls  this moment brings tears to my eyes  keep it up  |
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ThisDumebi
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Life's a minefield of mistakes and false starts.I suspect that u've posted this thread because u've just realised what has always been true.Guys look out for new ways of doing the same thing and one of such is having sex the first time they meet a lady. Always be wary; everyone is vulnerable in love.The best way to decent living for a woman for instance is to concentrate on her humanity in her premarital years other than her womanhood! Follow your mind!!
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solidicon (m)
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Its natural that people suddenly loose love from someone. But in your case am sure there are a lot of incompatibility. Its not making love on your first date that determines if you guys are really up to DATE. Think closely there is something you did that wronged him.
cheers
Frank.
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dakmanzero (m)
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git off ma case, zeb
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twinkledew (f)
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i think he calls u for sex because, he knows u want it desperately as well. (u will bnever say no to him) there is nothing wrong in having sex on your first date but most people think that when u shag on your first date it means u are easy to get. it means any stick can get into that pot whole whenever they want to.
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twinkledew (f)
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My mate said u shld move on. she has been there. quote "leave him and move on. because they say the sweetest thing and mess with your head" she said u shld get another victim and treat the dude the same way u've been treated. |
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twinkledew (f)
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move on. if u lost ur virginity with him i would have said otherwise.
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twinkledew (f)
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My other mate said u shld put your foot down and stop receiving his call. there are loads of fish in the sea. he also said u can holla at him if u want. |
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zebudaya (m)
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My other mate said u shld put your foot down and stop receiving his call. there are loads of fish in the see. he also said u can holla at him if u want. call me I'm the great white shark the other boys are tuna I'll keep you coming back. whip it whip it whip it real hard. |
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GNature (m)
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great white shark --- the others are tuna too funny |
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Radiant (f)
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call me I'm the great white shark the other boys are tuna I'll keep you coming back. whip it whip it whip it real hard. LMFAO, U need to do ur screws u know. |
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fredsmith
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no 2 ways about it
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tukur2002n (m)
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but why on earth will cheap be the first thing we ever think in this part of the world when a lady go down on First date? honestly i think we should change our orientation and see things from the other side before we conclude i am not saying every body should go down on first date ooo!!!! but if u think you both want it and you are doing the right thing why not go ahead all am saying is do what will make you happy and not make the next person happy ok.
but be wise with what ever decision you are making 'because u will bear the consequense alone.
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izoneb (f)
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its no big deal!just carry yourself and never call someone who shuns your call.Its all in the mind and about love.You could sleep ten years after and he chooses someone else and vice versa.
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Ekoja (m)
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C'mon y'all,
She really needs a real advice not a forum for some unfortunate miss use of English and words! y'all don't need to sound dirty around here! where you manners @?
Girl i think you lost your game right there but that doesn't mean you can't get'em back.
just forget the loser and put your real game on! Shit happens! but it only takes a little time.
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Memunah (f)
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yes it is a crime too soon i think y the rush ?when you are still going to be on with the guy/girl you do that later,no matter how much you love the guy/girl it doesnt worth it.the guy/girl might take you for a whore if you do that
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izoneb (f)
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ekoja u don't have 2 b rude.
U talk about manners and language yet u use s - - t!
Relationships work out when u are yourself.
It may not be right but i tell you even if you take ten years to give in,if it ain't working,it ain't working.
I have kids and my husbands love didn't change.A first date doesn't mean you met him on that day.
Except I'm missing something here.Did he meet her on that day?
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wenurmine (f)
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Friends please let me get this clear to you all. The relationship started this way, am in lagos and this guy happened to see my pics in one of my girl friend's (chichi) album in Abuja and he admired me according to Chichi my girl. he started disturbing her to introduce me to him and after some time chichi started worrying me to accept him that he was a nice person and all that and i was like how will accept someone i ve not even seen before? finally chichi gave him my number to call me and he did, we spoke on phone for like 3 months before i agreed to see him. He came to see me here in Lagos 1 weekend and the very 1st time i set my eyes on this guy i was like "oh my God" he has every qaulity i desire in a man besides i ve been searching for a companion for quite some time. I never planed to do any thing wit him that day but after some hrs of talking and all that it just happened. we both didn't expect it but i personally enjoyed it. But my problem now is that i wanted a long lasting relationship but i don't think he does, so i got confused and disappointed that was why i posted this very tread.
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loveme (f)
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Same thing hapened to me 2.n i learnt my lessons.most of nigerian guys like hypocrisy,pretence,n give to them just that.pretend u r the most innocent thing on earth n they wil respect u.
as 4 that ur guy,please do me a favour.forget him.he is fake.let him go.ciao.
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Radiant (f)
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eyaaa. Wenurmine, it can really hurt I know. I've been there too but u know what you can do. Take his calls and remain friends with him.Don't accept any 'sex invitations' but be friends with him. You might feel better. Don't be mad at yourself. U never know, the guy might come back for a genuine relationship |
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mejay
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Making love on the first day ones meet does not mean he/she is cheap. It depend on the level of love in b/w the 2.
When I met my husband we made love on our first day out and it make the our love deep the love.
He will behave d way he did even if takes him years b/4 to get in there. All he want is sex and not a friend.
Please, dear don't mind him, stop picking his calls and if possible tell him off. Next he call and ask for sex, sit him down and talk sense into him head. He is a fool and d biggest one.
To you ladies out there don't allow these so call guys to take advantage of you because there are full of trick and most of them have a sugar-coated tongue, and girls easily believe and fall in love.
Abi watin i say?
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Radiant (f)
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I don't think telling a guy off is the best. My best male friend now is the guy I slept with on a first date. We are not dating but we could if I wanted. They could be friends are help each other even if they don't date. We all need friends and u never know who is who. Mejay, you happen to be one of the lucky ones. Happy for you though. |
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ginababy (f)
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YOU ARE RIGHT
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Hugoboi (m)
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My best male friend now is the guy I slept with on a first date. really!!!! |
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ginababy (f)
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a guy was complaining that his girls are not good in bed so i decided he try me and we went for it. since then we have been keeping a very serious relationship and a happy one too.
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