Nigerian Men, Sex And Affairs: Non-nigerian Women Speak

Elidegreat,

You are still a Woman Wrapper,what the F**k is your point?I do not regret my relationships with the Caribbean or southern African women,it failed because of both parties unwilling to concede to each other.Nigerian women have being accused of everything under the sun but the 9/11 attacks.

Since you are the defender of Non Nigerian women,please tell me how many Nigerian women have being HURT by Non Nigerian men,how many Nigerian women have being left standing with Mixed Raced children after being dumped when these men are tired of Black Princess.

You try going to the trenches with me,and I will B**ch slap your a$$ back to your hole,what a brat.Please don't pardon me or sympathize with me.

mrmajor, i don't know why you are so mad. Believe me i am not looking for sympathy.
You havent read my thread well. NO, he was not my prof. We didnt have any academic rship. He was temp here doing research in another uni and in another town in Holland. We don't even have the same fields of study. We met at a conference. I only mentioned his profession ( he is an ass prof in the USA) and mine in the context of , even intell people falling in love,
Now where did you get that? I wouldnt be so stupid to have an affair with my own prof! And besides that was besides the point,

Cool down, no need to get all worked up in cyperspace; i would call that ridiculous.
Your standpoint on non-n women and n-men affairs is clear, which adds to the list of conclusions this thread has provided me with.  And that was the main reason i posted this thread.

Cheers to you too!!!
 

well Guy, i am a Nigerian but i am not really felling your generalization of AA.

Well if we were to swap americans for nigerians in your post it will read something like

Americans will sleep with Nigerian women as much as he likes and plenty of them too(if they are in Nigeria), why? because they can, but will never marry them, y because they can too.
 That is hundred percent true and every Nigerian knowz that.

The other day the pics of three Nigerian girls who were with a Foreigner in PH were released. If u were told that your so called momz and Wives would three of them at the same time be gobbling over a foreign man's cock ul probably not believe it. If u knew what many Naija girls do, ul probably not be so stereotypical. The first time  i saw a regular girl that slept with a different man each night was in Naija and guess what, she was really churchgoing

ok,,,,,,,,so?

 

@BROWNSUGA

sweetie the thing with N men is not that they hate other woman, i find that Nigerian society do not in some cases allow or accept  open sexuality, to them it is some thing that should be left for marriage, so Nigerian men living in other countries seems to be very promiscuous,were as us non n women who grew up in the carribbean or or other places have less issues with sex i have Nigerian friends who find me puzzling because i f u c k as i please.



I feel that Nigerian men marry Nigerian woman because they understand their own culture and way of life, a Nigerian woman would accept more from a Nigerian man than other races would, on the other hand i have male Nigerian friends who are married to non-Nigerian woman and they would never marry a Nigerian woman because of their fixation with money and lack of excitement in bed(his word) i also have Nigerian female friend who are married to non-Nigerian men and will never marry a Nigerian man because of their unfaithfulness.

i am going out with some one i met on Nairaland, and it was not my intention of getting serious with him, but to my surprise he turn out to be a wonderful person, i am not the marriage type but for him i  would chuck away my rule book.

sweetie it is very hard to find a good faithful Nigerian man but don't give up on  Africans alltogether you just need to be very careful when getting involve with them.

 

 

Hello, everyone this goes out especially to emeka83.
High emeka83 how are you? First of all i would like to say what you said was very rude and down grading. I'm sure this individual feels bad enough than to have someone say something that heartless.

I'm going to say something one time and i wish that everyone on this board would here it loud and clear. All that talk about AA GIRLS NIGERIAN girls is a mess. Let me tell you something emeka african american culture comes from africa so when you say that you guys only want your people you sound precisely ignorant like a dumey that does not know what you are speaking of. Black people originate from africa when happen to really look up to our ancestor and culture we try so hard to embrace the culture the food the talk but you all push us away. You the sad thing of it all is that spanish people, dominicans, elsavador, spain all other culture claim one another but we are to ignorant to love each other. Can i ask you a real question what do we have? Do we have the white house any businesses that really mean something in the world h no. You know why cause we crabs in a bucket mean while spanish and other cultures keep on building. So emeka put that in your pipe and smoke it. One more thing when you arrive to heaven god swilling will he ask you what color or you did you stay with your tribe. Jesus said how can you say you love me yet never saw me yet you hate your brother or in your case your own family. God bless you! This is just a lesson baby please grasp it. Holla back i'm always ready for discussion!

head spining!

i think nigerian men should not in anyway worry about all this hear say ! a striaght up nigerian men value his family and culture and hey no compromise attached for real! thats what makes he nigerian and might not be religious but still fear god for real so nigerian men never worry!

but hey why is it always about nigeria men this and that! an average african america and west indies men will get the women pregnant and walk way to sell more drugs! we know that. everywhere u look in my neighbourhood in london all yall see is the women walkin around with no father ! i think all yall shuold leave nigerian men alone of cause this is a major concern u no.

all these coment are simply reflecting that nigerian men are simply clever for real! not sure if im right

Ladies and gentlemen,

Thanxs for all your comments and critic.
But please lets not deviate from the topic. The essence of this post was not to discuss the sexuality of neither n men nor non-n women.

The point of discussion, based on my own personal exp, as, those of my friends and those posted here, was to get to the core WHY n men are such calculative, selfish, opportunistic cheats. And why the perception of n men is as negative as it is in the world.

I am not out on discrediting the n man, neither am i saying that all n men ar per se bad.
But i just wanted to know why such destructive misconduct and wickedness is associated with n men?  Does culture play a role? Or perhaps as Penelopy said morality/mentality/survival mechanism,

What has so far been posted, esp by the n men,  can be concluded as; An n man will mess and mess and mess any non-n woman at his covenience/disposal, whether he is married or not. An n man doesnt really have any affection/respect for non-n women and an non man would really rather prefer to end up with a N woman. 

I am not an AA women, I am from East Africa. And, like i said earlier, i have been brought up to believe that the marriage institution is sacred and to value family. I have been taken advantage of by an n man. Its over and i am moving forward,

I hoped to have learned something of n men, esp their line of thinking of non women. But most importantly i hoped to share with you how n men are perceived ,  esp in the West, and as is mentioned elsewhere, in other parts of Africa.

Does this mean that it is OK that n men cheat on others and thus on their wives for they can't control their sexual lust? I say this because sexuality has been the only reason mentioned as an explanantion,

And why do u all have such an abominable perception of women of non-n descent?
Its as if you see them as sexual toys, or to quote emeka83 "video hoes".
Really sad,

I am out.
Cheers.

@Brownsuga, please search for an answer in @Coco29's statement quoted below.(I wonder why she yanked it off. Pple should not be afraid to hold views in this forum.)


I am sorry, but I am left with no choice than to conclude that most non n women are like Coco (adventurous and wild!). I am yet to find a single, thorough bred N man who would take such character (of his own free will) to the Alter! I may be wrong, but I am yet to find the person. No Nman wants a wife that has gone round his neighborhood at different times in the past.

Meanwhile I think @Brownsuga should apologise for the statement below


The comment is grossly unfair and does not derive from the various submissions made on this forum. Nmen are definitely calculative but certainly NOT “selfish, opportunistic cheats.”

I feel the substance is not being treated in this thread.
I feel the originator,feels the pain and considering what she has heard b/4 and what
happened to her you can't blame her.IT'S HER EMOTIONS.
The only thing is that she has to be told that LUV,MALTREATMENT,GOLD DIGGERS,LIARS,USERS,
HEARTHBREAKERS e.t.c doesn,t know colour or its not nationality perculiar.
Count your losses if any and move on.

This is typical steriotyping.
Coco you don't need to be mad with these statements afterall it was only an individual's opinion.

no am not lost. 

Coco dear,
Reading your thoughts, I had a feeling you were under intense pressure to maintain your cool throughout. I like that. Shows you are matured and can be reasoned with. I am really sorry if my thoughts come out also unedited and in a way that hurts. No harm is intended. In any case we are just talking, aren’t we? I have no plans to spread hurt and ill feeling when I could easily spread love and fellow feeling. Especially not on cyberspace! I can do that in court, certainly not on the web! Someone ignorantly called me a woman wrapper (whatever that means!), because I make efforts sometimes to sound nice.

As regards the issue being discussed, a new twist was added by a female friend of mine who has been living in France for 3 years. In our discussion yesterday, she complained that Nmen in Europe also treat them in the same manner that you non N sisters have complained about. She said the Nmen in France are merely interested in using them (N sisters living in Europe) as tools to satisfy their sexual urges. When the chips are down, the Nmen travel back to Niger to pick wives! To me this is an indictment and appears to corroborate all that has been said by non N sisters on this topic. Maybe there is an ill wind in Europe (and elsewhere) which prevents Nmen from committing themselves to a marital relationship once the female is living outside the shores of Niger! I hope my statements do not conflagrate an already tense situation. Cheers