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mosiate (f)
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hum......... i don't just want to imagine it,but if it happens,i'll leave the place,go to my room and cry and also i'll quit the realationship with both of them.
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tcherokee (m)
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Sorry I've been away for a while, and to answer your question vexxy....i'll be more angry with the girl because nomatter what she should never have agreed(hot angel u where right). The fact is most guys are "dogs" (i'd have said all but.....) and they'll literally chase anything in skirts if it catches their fancy, be it your best friends girlfriend, your son's fiancee and so on. The fact is that all guys are tempted to try and "score" with a girl that is already in a kind of relationship be it with their bestfriend or whatever, cos lets face it, the grass is always greener on the other side. The fact is a girl, whether she is in a relationship or even marraige might have to fight off advances from her guy's/husband's friends,collegues and sometimes even relations. It is just how the cookie crumbles i guess. So i'll break it off with the girl cos if she can't handle it at this stage, i pity myself if i eventually marry her and i'll still be friends with the guy even though i will not trust him again cos in a roundabout way, he has shown me the kind of girl she is.
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vexxy (f)
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Thank you for that, tcherokee. In a way, I know what you mean. One would be more inclined to keep the friend then the relationship. The friendship has probably gone on longer so one would extend more grace to the friend.
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tcherokee (m)
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No problem  But from experience i guess it is only guys that think that way |
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uchetobi (f)
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ohhhhhhh thats not true. girls think that way
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vexxy (f)
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Very true because when it happened to me I discarded the relationship but kept the friend. That's why I asked him to see if we did it for the same reason.  |
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tcherokee (m)
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Are u serious? Most girls i've seen that have caught their boyfriends with their bestfriends, either break it up with their bestfriends completely or contemplate what will happen if their bestfriend suddenly "dissapears"  and i've seen a couple of cases where the girl and the boyfriend will make up but the girlfriend will be history. Hmm but i guess there are always exceptions to the rule..... |
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vexxy (f)
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Very true. I talk to the girl to this day albeit sporadically but I've not spoken to the guy in about 5 years now.
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tcherokee (m)
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Heya poor guy. ironically i'd have thot the reason that the girls won't keep their friendship is because girls generally have consiences. As in the girl that did the cheating will be very uncomfortable around her friend and my just find it better to break off the relationship completely. whereas guys..... They'll be like it's just one of those things. At least that's what i think..
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vexxy (f)
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Well, we had our moment of seperation. For months I we stayed away from one another but I forgave her, and she believed me. We moved on from there. It was a gradual process of forgivness.
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tcherokee (m)
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it usually is... and it just makes you the better person at the end of the day
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cushman (m)
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Well, i'm going to do nothing. But both of them will suffer psychologically.
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kissyspark (f)
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if i find my best friend kissing my boyfriend, i will let them see me,i pray am able to hold back the tears cos am not supposed to cry in thier presence, then i will walk away for good...........but that will end the relationship between myself and either of them mmmmmmmmmmh eventhough its not easy to let go of someone u truly care for
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Scorpio (f)
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I've known my best friend for years now[n even when i know it'll never happen], if this happened to me, the guy has to go. I've been through hell with my girl and the guy? i prolly've only known him for maybe like what, 2mths. I'll let him go.
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niceguy (m)
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If I found my lover kissing and cuddling my best friend, anyway, I cant guess what
will happen to her but I will quit the relationship and give her serious warning never to come to my house any longer.
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niceguy (m)
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I was away and one of my best friend called reporting to me that he cut my girlfriend coming from her formal boyfriend house. so when I asked her she didn`t denie. what will be your reaction?  ??/ |
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Scorpio (f)
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Ask her wat she went to look for there, if she gives you a very good answer, be with her, but watch her. If you can, ask the ex[her's], just find out the truth on your own and if you can live with it, so be it!
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shockreaction (m)
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Well, no idea. I guess it'll have to happen first before I can figure out what to do...
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oyinkan (f)
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i pray not experienced such,and if it happens the best thing to do is to call it quite between my so called lover and my friend.And i will have noting to do with the both of them till kingdom comes.
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ocho (f)
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I'd scream "yee kpa"! Yeah, like that would help. Only God will help me act rationally at that moment!
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ocho (f)
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I am an anti-violence person, so at that moment, I will be in shock but that's about how far it will go. The thing is, they both aren't worth my time if they could even think of hurting me like that!
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goodguy (m)
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I'll do absolutely nothing! I'll just smile at them and walk away majestically. Betterstill, I'll not like them to see me. So when I ask the gurl about it, I will want to know her reply, whether she'll deny it or not. If she denies it, then I'll give her proofs that I actually saw them. Then we'll call it off!  |
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kikelomo (f)
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I am quite new to the site, but i must say, i find layi's responses quite interesting and thot provoking. You've got a strong personality and i admire that. Well let's see, what would i do? dump his sorry ass and keep my girlfriend on locksdown, far away from future potentials. (u won't blame me would you)? I mean he was probably not worth it in the first place, cheating on me with my friend. what a dipstick! Such profanity!
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goodguy (m)
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welcome kikelomo
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tamia (f)
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if i find my best friend kissing my boyfriend, i will let them see me,i pray am able to hold back the tears because am not supposed to cry in their presence, then i will walk away for good...........but that will end the relationship between myself and either of them mmmmmmmmmmh eventhough its not easy to let go of someone u truly care for
c'mon it was just a kiss. it happens all the time wat are friends for? think about dat friend listen to wat happened. my cousin kissed her best friends boyfriend cuz it was the guy who came unto her n she was emotionally stressed then don't tell me her best friend was supposed to cut her ties wit' her. by the way it doesn't hurt to kiss your best friends boy friend! it's just a kiss it's not sex |
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FOD (m)
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@tamia...It's not just a kiss, it's coupled with cuddling...
I pray it doesn't happen to me. If it does, that definitely ends the relationship with both of them... I believe u'll allow it only if u do the same. I'll neva accept such.
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sweetnini (f)
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i pray it doesnt happen to me too
but if it does i will just leave them and find a quiet place and cry
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tamia (f)
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@tamia...It's not just a kiss, it's coupled with cuddling...
I pray it doesn't happen to me. If it does, that definitely ends the relationship with both of them... I believe u'll allow it only if u do the same. I'll never accept such.
so? it still isn't sex. i don't think kissin' n wat eva is a big deal |
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goodguy (m)
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so there's nothin in kissing abi?? what if u found another man kissing and cuddling your mama/sister? what would u do?  |
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Scorpio (f)
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Me thinks she ain't never had a heartbreak before just thinkin |
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kikelomo (f)
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Goodguy, i am most obliged. Thanks!
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