She Has Refused to Say "Yes" (or No) to My Proposal, For Years

Please my people, I don't know what to feel again for this girl again o.  I have proposed to her since my junior days in school.  Well today she will act normal tomorrow something else.  I am confused, I really like her that it hurts.

I call her like thrice in a day, she knows I love her.  I can remember when when we were around in JSS 2, I was at her place, can you beleive her dad tied me down?  Still, I had to show her that no matter what I still feel the same, and not even her dad can seperate me from her.

That was about 8 years from now, still in contact.  This girl has made me stay away from every other relationship.  I never want to have another girl but her, so she wont feel I am a cheat.  She never says YES or NO, but says let's wait for that time.  Please tell me when is the time coming.  Is it after I am dead or someone else has stolen her heart?

She says adesodgi i know u love me, but let the time come.

My opinion:
- You are obssessed with the girl (this is only good if reciprocated).
- She doesn't care about you (but she's using you as a backup).

My advice:
- Get over her and make deep friendships with new girls.
- Get over her, forget about her, cut her off.

But before that, lets plan a 2 week toasting marathon with full coaching by Nairaland members.  If the toasting doesn't work.

U were tied down? I thot the dad liked u . It was after i read your post through that i realized u were actually tied (rope) down.
Funny but sad. Anyway its expected (at that young age), you were lucky the Dad wasnt a soldier.

Firstly what were u proposing then ? You were just toasting her. Your case is understandable because First love is the strongest. The feeling could linger for years.

You are 21 now and prolly more matured. U got to take the bull by the horns. U've got to talk to her. U can get the girl of dreams. The secret is in complementing her. Anyway before i can profer any more advise. I'll like to know
**her age and occupation
**do u live in the same city (or across d seas)?
**R u schooling or working?
**Do u still talk and is the chord broken?
**were u really close back in the day or mere acquainces wit occasional visits?

Let me know these and i'll get u a nice plan .

But remember the golden rule. don't ever get so attached to any girl who isnt your wife. Anything can happen. If u can get her, u'll always get someone better in future. don't let your heart rule over your head because Love aint blind (lovers are).

she probably loves you too but feels its too early you have known her all your life she mostly has never had a serious relationship with any other. as a typical naija man i feel she they gbensh and you, come they yarn my freind follow her see wetin she want,if you see say na game then start from there.

Hmm, In my humble opinion, the fact is that she knows you like her and she is just using you as a backup boyfriend.  i was asked a girl out for 2 years kind of like what you where going through. She kept me in limbo for 2 years then i got tired and asked one of her friends out. you wouldn't believe it but her friend said yes and we started going out. When the first girl found out, she got mad at her friend, came and told me to that she will now go out with me and i should break up with her friend. Unfortunately it was too late for her then. So what do you think...?

Me thinks she likes you, but she's forming. you have to let her know though that you won't alwayz be asking her[because you need to start letting go slowly], maybe when she sees that you don't call as often as you do, she'll let you know what's up.

This lady is just watching you whether you truly love her or not.

She wants to know whethere you will back out.
Please don't but the moment she says yes, I bet you she becomes totally yours.

You know women are becoming more sensible and wiser because some of us have betrayed their trust
and they don't want to be beaten or dribbled twice. I quite agree with them and i won't blame them for their actions.

So wait for her let her decide she will be serious with you if you are patient with her.

can you believe her dad tied me down? 

that is child abuse, you didnt tell your dad or the police about this, My dad wouldnt take that for granted, i mean whoop another man's child that is insane, just because you were  with your daughter, even if you  were having sex, i mean that was un called for.

dude you are wasting your tyme

It happens...she just does not want you. doooooooo Look elsewhere!

 

mamba abeg make we hear, r u sure u were u not dating other girls while u were toasting her thats why d girl hasnot agreed to date u. 


@Adesodgi
please if she ain't down with u , she doesn't dig u period. As a babe i know, after 11 years, haba, all the thinking should av been done through the years. So catch the drift and MOVE ON. If u choose to hold on then good for u, but remember a word is enough for the wise.

 

goodboy!!!

@adesodgi
Please man be strong and realistic.SHE don't love U. face it like a man.

@curious nija. I agree with u. She probably aint even worth all your sweat after all, if u start pursuing more exciting possibilities.

I have been their before, its not good for your health. Forget the girl and please stop calling her like before. Call her once in a month, the fact is that she does not like you, move on with your life. 8 years is way to long to be after a chick and you should have forgotten about her like 6 years ago.