Distant Relationship?does It Last And Is It Real?

This thing has always disturb me and now i have decided to bring it on this fast growing forum.
please i will like u great forumite to please help me shed more lights on this.
one patner in a country and the other one in another even among undergraduates dating in different schools.

i really  really  really  really  really  really  really  really  really  really  really  really  really  really  really  really love it

 It works for some, but in most cases it does not work. I don't hav a personal experience, i am just talking from what i hav seen from other people's experience

yes i understand,but u all know that on the girl's part there is no problem but for the guy i don't think they can stay a week without thinking of sex a

yeah iice,
its just that am kind of scared about the saying out of 'sight is out of mind'
but at the same time i will try all my best to make it work
i hope he does too

thanks sista

I have been through a long disance relationship and I can tell you that for it to really work, then there has to be 100% devotion from both the woman and the guy to each other so that the relationship doesn´t wander off to bad waters.

I can´t say that there are any advantages to this kind of relationship because the downside of it surpases the positives. The amount paid to keep the communication sparking is alot. Arguments may turn to dangerous and derailed thoughts. Then again, one needs to seee the person he/ she is wth to really feel the mutual and emotional support, after a long time of not seein each other,well, those feelings start to go away.

Don´t get me wrong,all I am saying is that such kind of relationships are tough to deal with. The energy put into them is like thrice as much despite the distance. when it happened to me, I thought I would get even more time to put my mind on other areas on my life and at the same time, balance my relationship. Boy was I wrong 

Otherwise, to you out there who is feeling me on this and is either into that kind of relationship right now, good luck and try your best to make the relationship work. And don´t let your head play mind games with you.
I am currently married to the man I waited for. After the long wait of a whole year, we were finally reunited.

@kachichi
 am happy for u o,at last u are married to the one u waited for.

but make i no lie its so expensive to maintain a distant relationship because of the rate of international calls,but all the same am coping its a matter of time i believe.
but you all know that atimes the mind does some wandering and wondering what the other patner is doing at a particular time or moment and if one shld let that get too much things u don't want to do starts coming up.

Those are rather four (4) words.


3 words - It does work!

my sista long distance realationship exist and it works fine, just like me other fellas have said earlier.



@ mubowa

me am here  if u need one ok. send ur details to me and lets see.

sorry, i already found one

It is sweeter than anything i can ever imagine

one thing i can say is it lasts and lasts. and from personal experience, u achieve no real closeness. u spend time missing each other and talking and talking and there's no action. after a while the words begin to sound hollow and u wonder if u have something real. then he's a guy and it's only natural for his eyes to wander around, esp in a foreign place. i had one for two years and i was shocked at the end when i realised i barely knew him and he hardly knew me. the second one was much better, but the network usually frustrated us and all that stuff. besides i got tired of watching my friends go out on dates and to the movies with their boyfriends and i cldnt tag along. i met someone else, got close, called it quits and moved on. though the previous guy hurt me, he admitted to cheating so i cldnt trust him anymore.

it can work but it'll take lots of patience, sacrifice, trust and credit. if u knew him very well before he moved, and u were already really into the relationship, then it will probably work. but if it's still young, it wont stand the test of distance. so good luck.

Understanding with matured mind is all u need

Different strokes for different folks, but if I read between your lines, u may not be able to cope with it.
My advice; Don't start what u can't finish, Understanding, perseverance, determination and trust keep relationships together despite the forces of distance, but please try to hook up from time to time for absence heightens love, but presence strengthens it.

#Candid Submission#