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esto (f)
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Hi People,am quite new on this site,and i have been reading all thats been posted so far,and i want 2 see if u guys can give a solution to my probs.
My bestfriend,that am really close to,that we share a lot of thins together, even things i have never told my mother or sister,she knows all about them.I even went home on hols with her,she met my family.The whole thing now is that she is begining to have a crush towards my elder brother which am not comfortable with, please how do i stop that,how do i go about the whole thing,because now i get angry when i see her calling,or texting my brother, please i need your help here.
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hot-angel (f)
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Awwww. . .
Werll for starters, i think it's normal for you to feel this way.
Then again, why don't u want your friend talking to or dating your brother? Is it that your friend isn't going to be a good girlfriend for your brother? Or that your brother wouldnt be a good boyfriend for your friend?
I personally think u should just let things go.
Or if u really really don't want this, Talk to your friend. Afterall you share everything with her. Tell her you are not comfortable with her texting n calling your brother.
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kiki (f)
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Like Hot angel said it is normal for you to feel this way and ain't nothin bad in your friend datin your brother and look at it this way since yall share everythin together it makes yall even closer or are u thinkin when she start datin your brother she gon forget about u? great friendz don't do that
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mamaput (f)
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Thats not the point, this friend knows all about her. who she has slept with etc.Stuff you never tell your people. Sometimes it even goes as far as an abortion you may have had or not. And we all know that lovers tell themselves alot. This best friend may just forget who she is talking to if she really starts going out with the brother. if my just a friend wants my brother no problem with that. But my best friend  no way. I do not want my brother to know the colour of my pant |
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kiki (f)
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Lol i feel ya mamaput
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Busta (f)
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well said mama put!
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esto (f)
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Hi Girlz i heard u all,the thing is that i know the way we talk about issues,even guys, how they did this or that, and i can't just have her talking about my own brother too,another thing is that am scared of loosing her, she might forget about me,and say afterall its my brother she's dating, I'll try and talk to her,i hope she doesnt take it personal.
Kiki,mamaput,busta and hot angel,u are the bomb,thanx girlz!
later.
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mamaput (f)
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I see your point.
My brother is 4 years older than me and his wife was never my friend.But she tried to draw me closer.
BUt there is that Nigerian thing in me my brothers wife is almost like AUNTY.
And If she had been my friend she would have turned to aunty.
I will stop telling her things for sometime if i were you.
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esto (f)
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hey mama put i get u there, so u mean i should stop telling her things, about anything ?
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kiki (f)
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well i think yall can still talk u know but not that deep deep if u know what i mean
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mamaput (f)
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very fast and warn her not to talk about you to your brother.
And put you in trouble.
And if your brother is the traditional type , when she is playing her games with him he may think"kaiii so this is what they (meaning you and her ) do ewwww.
But you know men he may sleep with her and stop you from seeing her after dumping her.
or he may fall in love with her and say nothing to your relationship to her.
Stop telling her the ones you do not want your people to know. so that the one you have told her will be old story soon.
If its just a crush and she gets over it, you will have all the more to tell her.
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esto (f)
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Thanx a lot girlz,am already working on it,and i just hope it works really fine.
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mo money (m)
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let it flow for them and don't try to stop her rather maintain your friendship and warn her of what she discuses with him about you(esto)  . besides relationships like this doesn't last long because from your story you girls are close to players (life style) players will always play and you will be there to keep protecting your bros just as you are doing now. |
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esto (f)
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Hey! mo money, am no player,and can never be.aiit?
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kolabode
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You better say the truth and let the devil be asame may be both of you are lesbian,i'm right.
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kolabode
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You better say the truth and let the devil be asame may be both of you are lesbian,i'm right.
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esto (f)
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Hell no! that disgusting, am a straight being man! so watch it!
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femiy2k (m)
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@ esto. hey, what disgusting about being a lesbian ?? Free your mind and the rest will follow,
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Chiori (m)
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You see, there is nothing wrong with your friend having a crush for your brother. In fact, you should encourage a relationship to begin. After all you are not going to marry your brother, so why not a friend whom you trust and confide in so much, hooking up with him?
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Bubus (m)
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There is nothing you can do about it. Your bro doesn't give a $#!+ about your stupid stories. He just wants a piece of it. He gets it and he is off. You cannot control other people, just yourself. So sit back and let things go smoothly. Don't go acting cockblocker like you are tempted to act. Your best friend is prolly attracted to your brother for the same reasons that she is your friend. So live with it and freaking move on. Get a second bestfriend.
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sammyjl (f)
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 Isnt it normal
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creamdream
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@poster
Nothing in the whole wide world can stop an idea whos time has come, if the girl dey trip for your brother, there is little you can do exept you are an expert in the art of poisoning peoples mind, and that has its nagatives!!
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