When Parents Oppose Your Relationship?

What do u do when u're hopelessly in love and your folks are opposing strongly to ur relationship?

It depends on what they have to say.
maybe they just want to open your eyes.
Parents usually handle in the interest of the child.
Not all are just biased.
If my daughter comes up with an indian i will go like "ho my god" without even knowing the guy , but if she is serious and my hands are tied i will start to study the boy very well

yeah i read this book like that 2

then love undergoes the test of real or not real love. If y'all really love each other or not!

Then lets hear your story and see if they are right or wrong.

Guess what thanks to internet one day my daughter showed me a pic of a Boy she was dating.
One look was enough for me to know the boy was a bastard. And i told her that i cannot make it impossible her to see him, but very difficult.
She called me every name under the sun how unfair i am  i do not even know him just because bla bla bla.
But at the end of the day i was right. And thank god she saw that too be4 it was too late.
Parents have more experience and when it comes to their kids their eyes are very open.

To an extent its not fair for parents to meddle into one's relationship, 

Their involvment should be on a low profile,  giving parental or moral advice n stuffs like that. and not an upright rejection of your partner. Some parents base their decision on physical outlook of the individual, which is not fair.

On the otherhand its good,  because they've been there, seen it all and the experience. so they wouldnt want us to pass through the negative side of relationship as they did.

@ Worldgreat



World, have you tried discussing your frustration with the Igbo girl? Don't assume that she knows that you dislike her yelling. Give her a chance to come to a common ground with you. Tell her that you want to talk to her about the relationship. Don't talk to her as if you are disgusted with her behavior. Talk to her as if you understand her and are not criticizing her. 

Some parents are doing that just because of their own selfish interest.I had a similar experience,his mum said no way just because i'm not their tribe.And he told me he cann't do what will make his mum feel bad about him.since then he's no longer the same person i use to know.

Could be a really difficult situation- trying to make decision on ur own (and God's) intuition, knowing that whateva the future does bring, u'll be bearing the consequences- if u turnout ok, or not?
But even before u get to the point of outrightly deciding if u're going to b with the person, the dating process remains such a strain. Definately not a beautifulsituation to find oneself in.
Godddddd!

If my parents oppose to my relationship then just oppose. they can't stop me
if i introduce them to someone then that means i'm serious bout him. and i've researched him very,

so if my parents don't like him to bad for them

i know this sounds wrong,  but when it comes to true love then it can't be stopped

they might disown me but whatever,  i know some people will be thinkin she's willing to be disowned over a man, she's being a baby , she's dumb etc.

but she doesnt care 


did i make sense ?

am juwon by name 25 years old i was a student of uni ibadan and had some problems in school because of my ex girl fri i was trying to help her to school she told me then there is a SPIRITUAL CURSE but i never took it serious i entered a terrible problem then in 2001 and i was sent out of school in 2002 then after that time i stated developing some problems which i will HEAR my NAME from no where telling me to start walking and i would have walked 3 to 4 hrs before asking my self where am i going i never took it serious and never told my parents till i walked 3 to 4 hrs everday from year 2001 till 2005 august where i finally got delivered.In march 11 i got to meet a girl who finally helped me back to school in festac i study INFORMATION TECHNOLOGY in NIIT Festac centre but my parents are really happy about this and told me they wanted to see my new girlfriend i took her home my parents like her so much but unfortunately my mum elder sister and came and said so much about that that she hate her and she is a foolish,stupid and all anoying decaying words that are not good to tell a human being. She made her way to my uncles house where i live and came up with same problems, the problems was too much for me that i told her to pay up my school bills or leave me alone but i said no and get off me when my uncle heard he told me to leave his house and kicked me out the girl promised me for my second installment but she later told me that their is no means helping me anymore since she is not going to get me married that was her target she changed her line and all about her i had been sent out of school now for 3 weeks and my mum has been too much worried i don't know what do i was thinking about it i don't know what to do please i need emails or calls to advice me what to do jarue4real@verizonmail.com or 2348032725262 i told SEUN about it and told me to post it on nairaland i don't know what to do i had lost my girlfriend, lost my school and me and my uncle are not in good terms i have a bitter world now

@ kiki
Yeah right

@juwon
Move out of your present location perhaps to a friends' and start afresh. Just move out maybe u've been depending on your spouse for too long. Just believe your future is spotless.

@Actuary

    What do u do when u're hopelessly in love and your folks are opposing strongly to your relationship?

 Please don't be hopelessly in love. There are many reasons for being hopelessly in love (not the issue now). Open your eyes and don't pretend. Is there anything in your relationship that you think you can cope with but your folks know  you can't (based on your peculiar family values)? You need to prove  to them if you know you can cope. Remember marriage is for better for worse.
     Now put your folks apart, hear the views of  real friends (who know you well and can tell you the truth) about your folks reasons of disapproval. They can be of help to you.
     
 

dey going to ve 2 agree at 1 point if u really like ur pattern i no of sumone hes dad didnt like da guy he was datin dey got married at last n da dad still visit em so what u waitin 4 so far u sure its love u jsut gotta be strong 

Or they see what the man / woman in love cannot see.
That the person is just a bastard,. a selfish fool  a lazy bone or something like that

After being with my finace for 5 years+, my father disapproves of me getting married to him. I'm Igbo lady and my finace is Yoruba. My father is saying he is not being bias, but he feels that the marriage will not work. But I don't understand why he has watched our relationship grow. He has met my finace on some ocassions, and really enjoyed his company (so he told me). But know he is so against the idea. I feel he has given me false hope, and feel that I can not forgive him. He wants me to choose between him and my finace. It is just being narrow-minded. We were brought up in a multi-cultural city (London, UK), and wasn't brought up with the same traditional values. I have tried speaking with my father, and the only reason he gives is the tribal differences. I'm so upset,