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MrCrackles (m)
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it can be managed albeit with a lot of money. the risks are too high.
And that is one of the positives that can be held on to!
Personally i wont terminate a relationship based on some stupid genetic tests
I ride on and firm my believe in God because with him itz all gravy
As long as the risks can be mitigated, itz worth a try!  |
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origina9ja (f)
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humm
dis is sad man
i know it hurts but let it go coz at the end of the day you will both suffer
the risk are just too much
mrcrackles which 1 are you oo
make i know now
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MrCrackles (m)
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humm
dis is sad man
i know it hurts but let it go coz at the end of the day you will both suffer
the risk are just too much
mrcrackles which 1 are you oo
make i know now
U wan marry me?
I be SS!
A living testimony that there is nothing wrong in taking risks
No risk is too big to be taken on! |
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tangent (f)
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And that is one of the positives that can be held on to!
Personally i wont terminate a relationship based on some stupid genetic tests
I ride on and firm my believe in God because with him itz all gravy
As long as the risks can be mitigated, itz worth a try! i wish it was that simple. marriage is more than u and your spouse. it involves the family as well. |
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MrCrackles (m)
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i wish it was that simple. marriage is more than u and your spouse. it involves the family as well.
For some people it is simple believe me! |
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*Hauwa*
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Cracker, lol sorry crackle, i agree with you.
we all going to die from one thing or the other in this life no matter how we try.
i won't say terminate the relationship if you both in real love. be prepare to love the child. and if the 1 one has it, love the child. maybe then when your woman is pregnant again do the early preg test and decide if you want to keep it or not. you can do the test with the first one if you want and both of you decide to keep or terminate it.
once in my class, we had this discussion of pple wanting the perfect child. you look around you, you see couple with one MR child, you see pple with disablity. it is not the end of the world. God giveth. whatever HE gives who are we to judge?
again, it is your choice to stay or leave. love between you both and love for the child is very important. not a big thing when you live oversea where doc dot on kids and live is VERY important to them.
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tangent (f)
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For some people it is simple believe me!
you are a guy. men have a way of standing on their feet to do what they want but it's hard for any woman to go against her parents. |
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yawa-ti-de (f)
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By the power of genetics, it means u hv a 1 in 4 chance of having a child with SS. Check out www.facefoundationinc.org for more information If you want to still get married, at least you go in with your eyes wide open. This is more about your kids, if you plan on having any, not you and/or your girlfriend. I know a couple with 2 kids that hv SCD. It is not fun with tem. Monthly, they are in the hospital at least 1 week, and they are in the states so at least they have access to the best medical care. At least you 2 summed up the courage to get tested for whatever conditions that you may have. For that, I give you an A+. Such couples I dare say are hard to find in Nigeria, generally speaking. |
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**osisi (f)
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Hi naija pips,
Please am confused right now.me and girlfriend of 5yrs just discovered that we are both AS.we are planning of getting engaged in 2010.But now we are confused.PLEASE I NEED YOUR ADVICE.Cheers It's not worth it It's not worth it It's not worth it. Take it from someone who has seen children and parents suffer through this illness It's not wort it at all. Unless you're planning to adopt children,my dear cut off that plan of marrying this girl. My dear it's not worth all the hassle,the pain of seeing a child/children suffer in excrutiating and crippling pain The pain of surgeries and nights of wondering if they'll make it to the next day The neglect of the healthy kids while you are constantly in and out of hospitals with the sick child/children The months and months and years of nursing a sick child/children The untimely death in most cases. It is not wort it by any stretch of one's imagination. |
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MrCrackles (m)
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Cracker, lol sorry crackle, i agree with you.
we all going to die from one thing or the other in this life no matter how we try.
i won't say terminate the relationship if you both in real love. be prepare to love the child. and if the 1 one has it, love the child. maybe then when your woman is pregnant again do the early preg test and decide if you want to keep it or not. you can do the test with the first one if you want and both of you decide to keep or terminate it.
once in my class, we had this discussion of pple wanting the perfect child. you look around you, you see couple with one MR child, you see pple with disablity. it is not the end of the world. God giveth. whatever HE gives who are we to judge?
again, it is your choice to stay or leave. love between you both and love for the child is very important. not a big thing when you live oversea where doc dot on kids and live is VERY important to them.
Thank you jare!
Some people need to be able to stand thier ground and push on no matter what!
What gaurantees exist that two AA couple's children are going to survive?
Why do some people allow thier family to make decisions for them when they are old enough to?
For me, i have seen tonnes of couples who pressed ahead anyway regardless of the genetic and phenotipic nonsense!
Mindset needs to change, archaic and stupid traditional plus cultural sentiments needs to be casted aside
mess it, i am going ahead if it was me and whatever has been destined for me will never cease to be! |
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**osisi (f)
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By the power of genetics, it means u hv a 1 in 4 chance of having a child with SS. Check out www.facefoundationinc.org for more information If you want to still get married, at least you go in with your eyes wide open. This is more about your kids, if you plan on having any, not you and/or your girlfriend. I know a couple with 2 kids that hv SCD. It is not fun with tem. Monthly, they are in the hospital at least 1 week, and they are in the states so at least they have access to the best medical care. At least you 2 summed up the courage to get tested for whatever conditions that you may have. For that, I give you an A+. Such couples I dare say are hard to find in Nigeria, generally speaking. That is the probable chance. There are some couples that end up with 2 or all 3 kids with SS by that same chance. It is not worth it at all I say. I've all lost a cousin and another is currently almost bed ridden here in the USA with all the wonderful healthcare one can imagine. We are still believing for a miracle It's not a chance,any sane couple should take especially since you now know. |
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MrCrackles (m)
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you are a guy. men have a way of standing on their feet to do what they want but it's hard for any woman to go against her parents.
The trend needs to change!
Stand up tall woman!!! |
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MrCrackles (m)
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It's not worth it
It's not worth it
It's not worth it.
Take it from someone who has seen children and parents suffer through this illness
It's not wort it at all.
Unless you're planning to adopt children,my dear cut off that plan of marrying this girl.
My dear it's not worth all the hassle,the pain of seeing a child/children suffer in excrutiating and crippling pain
The pain of surgeries and nights of wondering if they'll make it to the next day
The neglect of the healthy kids while you are constantly in and out of hospitals with the sick child/children
The months and months and years of nursing a sick child/children
The untimely death in most cases.
It is not wort it by any stretch of one's imagination.
It is worth it!
Take it from someone who has seen tonnes of couples pull it off! |
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tangent (f)
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The trend needs to change!
Stand up tall woman!!!
have you seen ss patients before? do u really think it's worth it bringing kids to the world to suffer? if it's not ignorance then it's selfish. |
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MrCrackles (m)
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have you seen ss patients before? do u really think it's worth it bringing kids to the world to suffer? if it's not ignorance then it's selfish.
Nah i disagree with you
I have seen an "SS" patient before, pitiable site!
At the same time, i know and i am an "SS" patient, if i could have videoed myself growing up and played it for u, u will be envious of what i am today!It is not ignorance nor is it selfish, quit! |
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**osisi (f)
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It is worth it!
Take it from someone who has seen tonnes of couples pull it off!
Pull it off with how many hospitalizations inbetween? Is that what you would advise anyone to take a chance on? what a friend you must be Do you know the average life expentancy of an SS adult with the best healthcare? do you know what it is in Nigeria? take a gues |
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**osisi (f)
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Nah i disagree with you
I have seen an "SS" patient before, pitiable site!
At the same time, i know and i am an "SS" patient, if i could have videoed myself growing up and played it for u, u will be envious of what i am today!It is not ignorance nor is it selfish, quit! Now I understand where you're coming from. Knowing all you went through,is this a life you'll wish anyone? Be sincere my dear |
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MrCrackles (m)
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Pull it off with how many hospitalizations inbetween?
Is that what you would advise anyone to take a chance on?
what a friend you must be
Do you know the average life expentancy of an SS adult with the best healthcare?
do you know what it is in Nigeria?
take a gues
All these questions are poppycocks
Hold on to your beliefs and i will hold onto mine
God giveth and he taketh
Some arnt SS and yet they shuttle in and out of hospitals like BRT buses around lagos
I am a living testimony that SS can survive, the odds might be stacked against them but they can! |
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UNLEASHED (m)
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I'm sorry but. . . . .
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MrCrackles (m)
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Now I understand where you're coming from.
Knowing all you went through,is this a life you'll wish anyone?
Be sincere my dear
I didnt go through jack shit believe me
I was normal growing up and prolly healthier than you compared, no disrespect! |
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**osisi (f)
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You livein London Mccrackels,probably had all the transfusions,the morphines for pain and probably marrow transplant.
And you're one of the "lucky ones"
many are not even with all the first class care
This dude lives in Nigeria.
big big difference
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tangent (f)
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Nah i disagree with you
I have seen an "SS" patient before, pitiable site!
At the same time, i know and i am an "SS" patient, if i could have videoed myself growing up and played it for u, u will be envious of what i am today!It is not ignorance nor is it selfish, quit! my goodness.  You livein London Mccrackels,probably had all the transfusions,the morphines for pain and probably marrow transplant.
And you're one of the "lucky ones"
many are not even with all the first class care
This dude lives in Nigeria.
big big difference
i agree 100%. |
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MrCrackles (m)
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You livein London Mccrackels,probably had all the transfusions,the morphines for pain and probably marrow transplant.
And you're one of the "lucky ones"
many are not even with all the first class care
This dude lives in Nigeria.
big big difference
You wont quit Osisi
I like you jare
Hold on to your beliefs, but i stand firmly on mine
I lived in Nigeria for 8years growing up as a kid
And i was healthy, healthier than other AA and AS kids i know off! |
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MrCrackles (m)
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Nothing is new under the sun! 
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**osisi (f)
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@ the poster,don't let this guy deceive you
On the internet anyone can claim to be anything.
All you need to do is seek out a neighbour with SS anemia and ask of their world.
I hope you make the intelligent choice,
Any would be couple that go on to marry and have children knowing they are both AS are not very intelligent.
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vicade (m)
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@Topic
Father AS, Mother AS, Three children and we are all AA.I know our family is a special case, but it could be you too but you just need to believe as long as it is True Love and GOD is on your side with Grace and Favour.
If you love your girl friend, there is Nothing GOD cannot do and i mean Absolutely Nothing. With GOD,all things are possible. Chances are slim scientifically but will u rather marry a wrong person with the right blood?
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tangent (f)
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Nothing is new under the sun! you are one out of ten million healthy ss patient. just because you are lucky does not mean everyone else would be. Any would be couple that go on to marry and have children knowing they are both AS are not very intelligent.
i agree with you. they are not intelligent, self-centred and ignorant. |
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MrCrackles (m)
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@ the poster,don't let this guy deceive you
On the internet anyone can claim to be anything.
All you need to do is seek out a neighbour with SS anemia and ask of their world.
I hope you make the intelligent choice,
Any would be couple that go on to marry and have children knowing they are both AS are not very intelligent.
Rubbish!
Loads of poppycocks!!!No one is decieving anyone here, poster has asked for advice and i gave my honest one, so it shouldnt worry you
The poster decides at the end of the day, shikena! |
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*Hauwa*
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Looking for ther PERFECT child. . . oh well.
osisi, i will say i agree with your thinking cuz the guy is in nigeria. it is hard there okay.
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MrCrackles (m)
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@Topic
Father AS, Mother AS, Three children and we are all AA.I know our family is a special case, but it could be you too but you just need to believe as long as it is True Love and GOD is on your side with Grace and Favour.
If you love your girl friend, there is Nothing GOD cannot do and i mean Absolutely Nothing. With GOD,all things are possible. Chances are slim scientifically but will u rather marry a wrong person with the right blood?
Gracias my brother!
All these other people yearning dust no get am! |
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MrCrackles (m)
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I rest my case on my opinion, and i am not forcefeeding anyone to accept it neither would anyone change my mind!Adios thread!
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KarmaMod (f)
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you're just lucky brash many parents of SS children are miserable T Boz of TLC has a crisis no less than every year and when she talks about it, its depressing as hell. this is someone with money and ability to get first class treatment  takless of Naija |
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