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Charming (m)
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I see alot of beautiful girls and I don't have feelings that i should go talk to them maybe she will give me a chance in her life. Is it because I am not very rich or I will I say my main self inside me is not ready for anything like that or do i think their level is more than mine. Please I need an answer to this Michael  |
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layi (m)
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The easiest way to get your dream girl is to use reverse psychology - make her like you. don't rush. Remain friends and show her in deeds first (that u love her). forget about "toasting lines". The world is changin...Protocols aint appreciated anymore. Just be yourself . Make her your best friend first. U guys get into yourself and chip in your feeling occasionally, albeit not seriously. When the clouds be full of rain..she'll likely bring the topic up and u got a golden chance to strike ( ...she's willing). Instead of "Girl, u know i've been dying to tell u something, I have some feeling that is doing me somehow. Its like sometimes i feel like u and i have something in common blah blah blah" Omo just go straight to point. Ladies appreciate confidence. 1 advice. don't ever get scared of sayin I love U. Bone the rejection that may result. Ladies love to hear that phrase.  |
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Charming (m)
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Thanks very much for the advise I am very greatful . I will give that a try and I will see where that leads. Thanks and have a great day Michael  |
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vexxy (f)
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Great advice, layi!
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nddy (m)
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i want to clarify issues
How can you tell a girl you have not offficially gone out with "I Love you" Does that make sense
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hot-angel (f)
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Hmm, layi has said it all. Just be yourself.  |
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smartsoft (m)
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@hot-angel, layi didn't say tell her u love her.. but rather he said Michael should show her in deeds first that he love her.. not by telling her, the things u will do will make the girl feels u really wants her that is all
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hot-angel (f)
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You can't tell her you love her when u havent even KNOWN her. You should develop some kind of relationship first.
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nddy (m)
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thats exactly what i wanted to know
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goodguy (m)
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Layi, una weldone oo! |
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layi (m)
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There's absolutely nothing wrong in tellin anybody "I love U". Do u not love them? haba! i want to clarify issues
How can you tell a girl you have not offficially gone out with "I Love you" Does that make sense
When u toast a girl? Have u started going out with her? How will she accept to go out with you if u don't tell her u love her. Leave protocols out of this and get real. The best time to say I love U is everytime. Be true to yourself. thats exactly what i wanted to know
Ur point nddy is diff from Lizzy's so i wonder what u wanted to know. Lizzy said u have to know her to say I love U. U said u have to go out with her to say 'I love U'. 2 diff scenarios because u can actually know a girl without officially going out with her. What if u've been very good friend for years. Aint that enough to know her? |
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nddy (m)
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When u toast a girl? Have u started going out with her? How will she accept to go out with you if u don't tell her u love her. Leave protocols out of this and get real. The best time to say I love U is everytime. Be true to yourself.
see Layi how on earth can you tell a girl i love you without going out with her, you might not understand what i understand as going out with her, I might be going out with this girl and say i don't like her, it does happen, how do you get to know a girl better if you don't go out with her, there is no way you can know if you a girl is actually meant for you if you don't have a relationship and in the early satges of a realtionship or on a first date don't ever talk of I love You for An American girl or a Girl from the Western Hemisphere. You might not get a second date. I think we are taking this issue from two different cultures and way of life
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hot-angel (f)
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Haba Mr Layi. You can't just tell a girl I LOVE YOU really havent had a strong relationship with her. as in go out with her or anything like that. Yeah you saw her and liked her, and u want her to be ur girlfriend. But u got to start from somewhere not by saying "i love you".
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layi (m)
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We've been best of friends for years. We know eaxch other deeply. Whats wrong in telling her I love her and I want us to take it to any level possible? I still don't get it.
All i know is don't tell a girl u barely KNOW. I know that for sure. But we've been together for years. But what HA doesnt know is that there's a friend that sticks closer than a lover. Some of us do have such friends. I don't have to be her lover to really know her.
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hot-angel (f)
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Layi.. the topic says APPROACH! That is like meeting for the first time.
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nddy (m)
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if she is your best friend simply tell her i have always had a crush on you
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layi (m)
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HA my posts are in sequence (don't isolate) A continuation of what i said earlier.
In summary. U shouldnt tell her U love her at first. Make friends with her first and tell her later when the time is ripe, when u've grown into yourself.
U don't only love ur lover......rather U actually have lovers because u loved first.
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hot-angel (f)
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Yeah you loved first. But u don't tell them u love them first. You actually go out with them and in the course of the relationship you say... "I love you".
I am tired jo.
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nddy (m)
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i think he is talking about an inner feeling you get when you think you have found the right person.
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hot-angel (f)
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Shuu.. i really don't know what he is talking about. But whichever way. You can't tell someone u just met that you love him/her. Y'all got to develop some sorta relationship.
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layi (m)
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Sure hottie. That's what I've been saying, but this relationship could be friendship not necessarily dating: it depends on what you mean by 'going out'. People go out unofficially too my dear. I even know of a couple who were friends for 8 years (no toasting). The guy just came up 1 day and propose marriage. She accepted and they've been happily married for 5 years now. Break the norm abeg.
Like 2face "I say whatz on my mind / i don't have time to edit"
@nddy
I aint talkin about that. I know the difference between love and crush.
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Latoya (f)
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Layi u are actually wrong with that ur I LOVE U thing o.How can u just tell someone u barely know that? if a guy walks up to me saying i love u i will just spit on his face because he is cursed.u just have to take it one step at a time.The i love u part will surely come if its meant to be.
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goodguy (m)
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Latoya, read Layi's post very well. All i know is don't tell a girl u barely KNOW. I know that for sure. |
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Greatpeter (m)
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I am changing gear here.
Love that is meant to be will be no matter the method you employ. Method or protocols or style won't fetch you love.
A truly love that is born out of a true heart is so strong and can't be resisted.
So be yourself and do your thing in your own way.
Forget about method or style.
the style or method Mr A adopted and worked very well for him may not work for Mr B.
The events taking place at that time or mood determines your approach.
Let's not religionize it (pardon for this grammar)
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layi (m)
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I wonder why d ladies misunderstand me.  We are saying d same thing for jeeez sake. |
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hot-angel (f)
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Sorry and congrats for reaching 2000 post counts.
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layi (m)
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Thanx Lizzie (omo daddy). Methinks i need a break now. 2000? pweeew.
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hot-angel (f)
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I am Lizzy.. not Lizzie. U r welcome Layi (omo mummy). break ehh? If u need a break.. i need a BEND.
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Greatpeter (m)
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Layi how do you make your own approach?
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alter ego
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put a gun to her head and tell her to love you forever or die. That will guarantee a relationship that neither you or her will ever forget. Her family will always think of you. Your family will always think of her. If your lucky, significant parts of your relationship may be filmed by local and/or national TV News Crews. The most important thing to remember is to wear protection, at all times ('cause you never know).  |
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smartsoft (m)
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Everybody they talk now @ layi u think say love nah bread wey people they buy ? let me tell you love is more than what you think.. if you cannot sacrifice for love then is wasting of tyme
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goodguy (m)
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we are talking of how do u APPROACH here. |
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