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layi (m)
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@U for ignore the guy. When self acclaimed love professors veer of course. Just watch them,
they'll come back.
@GP
Relationships r not jobs u apply for. I dont need to 'approach' for a relationship. I just be-friend wit d girl. There r several informal ways to achieve that. After a long while, if i see that we r compatible and i like her. I'll tell her staright up. I got no protocols or methodology. I'm always myself. I'll simply tell her whatz up. If she agrees , fine. If not..i'll never force her. I know better than to induce love cos such is always ephemeral.
I insists- If we've been together as friends for long, i see no reason why i cant tell her I love her. What makes u close to a girl?.. kissing n petting ?
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Greatpeter (m)
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Layi the profesor of relationship and love theorem weldone.
read my post with understanding you will see what I was trying to explore.
I would have elaborated it but wasn't in a good frame of mind.
Layi weldone, good job.
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Bob
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do u guys actually know the true meaning of love. layi, is saying u meet a girl and tell her u love her......u feel love doesn't mean u should say it..u re definitely spoiling your chances with that girl..and at the end of the day all u would see is her back
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layi (m)
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do u guys actually know the true meaning of love. layi, is saying u meet a girl and tell her u love her.u feel love doesn't mean u should say it..u re definitely spoiling your chances with that girl..and at the end of the day all u would see is her back
...another product of ignorance above. U keep saying peeps dont know what they are saying when u are obviously the one veering of course. U mean u r spoling your chance with a girl u love because u told her "u love her". So all u do is play along and assume she's your lover. If thats your own method, u wont go far? We all need "verbal affirmation". |
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Sesan2
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There is love and there is love. The ladies should tell us how they like to be approached.
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MatureMe (f)
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As I have gotten older the men that have approached me have gotten better too, you know why? They simply said hello and I in return said hi and they continued the conversation by being themselves, they didn't appear to be putting on an act for me because I usually see through the bull. hahaha If a woman want to be bothered with you she will let you know by the smile on her face and other gestures and the body language. Please don't ever be afraid to approach any woman you deem to be beautiful in your eyes. Hang in there.
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Grizzly (m)
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U approach a gurl for marriage hidden behind the wheel of a phantom rolls royce, they simply lurr that kinda thingy,
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smartsoft (m)
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Can someone teach us how to approach a lady, that was the question cos all this wey u na they talk no enter my head
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Rhodalyn (f)
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u approach a lady in an approachable manner  |
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Danasco (m)
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Just do it my friends way. tell her: BABY GAL U LOOK FERTILE AND FELT LIKE CULTIVATING U (Agric terms eh?).
The driving force about approaching a lady is the inner fellings you had before getting to her. it might be strong or just a mere infatuation. the bottom line is that we all have grown of age, gone are the days were you read and gram the lexicon before approaching a lady. tell her words she never had before, sweep her with a little of confidence etc. now you got to have the courage and skills to sweep a lady. You must lok natural to get REAL woman. forget the issue of money, if you are natural and be yourself you can even get some in nairaland. I no go mention name. but you can hear them say it themselves.
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Thagodfada (m)
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How about just telling the girl that you couldn't help but notice her and you would like to get to know her? ask for her name and number and give her a call to ask her out later. That seems to work for me. I don't think you need an elaborate scheme or line nowadays. Trust me, most girls already know if you are their type before you even open your mouth. Sometimes we guyz even ruin it by opening our mouths with these ye-ye lines. Just be yourself. Please don't tell a girl that you are meeting for the first time that you love her o! Her answer might be, "what exactly do you love about me? you don't even know me!!" "Love is a thing that grows out of familiarity while Infactuation, on the other hand, occurs at first sight" (copy right - thagodfada). |
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anyiam (m)
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this is truly difficult for me and some other cute guys.
sometimes i see ladies that i feel should be my girlfriend but i usually have this problem of approaching them, especially if it is on a street,cafe,church at least somebody i have never met before.
please, i would like somebody to advise me on what to do and how to go about it.
Abeg it is critical
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internetbi
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HOW CAN I APPROACH A LADY FOR A RELATIONSHIP ANDWIN HER HEART. I WANT TO KNOW THE FUNDAMENTALS
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dappy777 (m)
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There are really no fundamentals. Just be rich and handsome, you won't have problems getting dates.
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adconline (m)
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Let us put this in perspective, why is it so wrong to tell someone I love you? I can tell a girl that I love her make up, perfume, hairstyle etc and can’t tell her that I love her. Although there is no conventional standard in dating, but the rest of world has agreed that " thou shall not say I love you" the eleventh commandment of dating holds.
If I love inanimate things like make up and stuff and can freely express myself, why can’t I say I love you? If I were to choose, I would rather have someone tell me I love you than I love your perfume/shirt and I like you. I think we have missed our priority in this regard. If everyone who said I love you really meant it, then the world would be paradise, devoid of law courts, contractual agreements, divorce, and break up etc
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layi (m)
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nice talk adconline
I always tell my loved ones(family and friends) i love them if the need arise just to erase any doubts they may have or reassure them of my unflinching support.
I'm not a kid to follow stupid dating rules born out of over indulgence in romantic novels. Get real people and be yourself.
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JAMES M. (m)
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APPROACHING A LADY FOR A RELATIONSHIP DEPENDS ON
1. THE ENVIRONMENT U FOUND THE LADY
2. HER MOOD ETC
IT IS VERY EASY TO APPROACH ALADY, WHAT U SIMPLY DO IS TO MAKE HER NOTICE your PRSENCE, WITHOUT HER NOTICING your PRESENCE U CAN GET HER ATTENTION. AFTER GETTING HER ATTENTION GO STRAIGHT TO THE POINT LET HER KNOW HOW U FEEL ABOUT HER . PLS DONT BEAT AROUND THE BUSH
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cutiee_xx (f)
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oh boy, writing in CAPS is seen as an act of rudeness.   do something about it |
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phoenixman
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APPROACHING A LADY FOR A RELATIONSHIP DEPENDS ON
1. THE ENVIRONMENT U FOUND THE LADY
2. HER MOOD ETC
IT IS VERY EASY TO APPROACH ALADY, WHAT U SIMPLY DO IS TO MAKE HER NOTICE your PRSENCE, WITHOUT HER NOTICING your PRESENCE U CAN GET HER ATTENTION. AFTER GETTING HER ATTENTION GO STRAIGHT TO THE POINT LET HER KNOW HOW U FEEL ABOUT HER . PLS DONT BEAT AROUND THE BUSH
rubbish, rubbish, rubbish. ideally, make yourself interesting in introducing yourself. Thats the attention grabber. Be polite, friendly, confident but not arrogant. drop subtle hints that you find her interesting and likable in conversation. Dont be too pushy, trying to get her contact details. If your approach was right those will come by the end of the little chat. |
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macgozy (m)
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@ NDDY, HOW CAN U JUST WALK UP TO SOMEONE U'RE NOT FAMILIAR WITH AND POP UP THE WORD " I LOVE YOU" IF I AM THE ONE I'D ASSUME THAT YOU'VE GONE INSANE / SOMETHING.
THE BEST WAY AND MOST EASIEST WAY COS IT HAS BEEN WORKING FOR ME ANYTIME, ANYDAY, FAMILIARIZE WITH THE LADY AND BEFORE U SAY JACK ROBIN SHE'S ALL URS AND URS ALONE.
RIGHT, LAYI
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jhibola
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 [b][/b][i][/i] DBANG SAY NO LONG TIN JUST TELL HER THAT ''''BABY I LOVE YOU TALK YOUR OWN'' HAAAAAAA JUST JOKING, ALL GIRLS ARE NOT D SAME SO YOU HAVE TO FIND A WAY TO SAY U LOVE HER, FIRST BE HER FRIEND SO YOU GUYS WILL KNOW EACH OTHERS BEHAVIOR THEN AS TIMES GOES ON THINGS WILL WORK FINE
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to me
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It's really stupid to just walk up to a lady you are meeting for the first time and start professing love.Just wonder why guys can stoop so low do that. best key is be yourself and build a friendship with her then later you can tell her how you feel |
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darf (m)
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I think its best in approaching her you banish the tot of a relationship and concentrate on friendship
then cause her to be attracted to you by not showing you 're needy or clingy,be d man u know?
a relation @ this point would come naturally.
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Saluscs
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just be urself and let her know how u feel about her
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zheroes (m)
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it really depends.
approach her like you would a fellow guy, create this perception in your mind's eye that she is a guy like you, it makes you less nervous. apply less pressure, its not a do or die affair, be real, be natural, be you, dont try to impress, sometimes you may have to strike (like didier drogba) cos some of them can be dumb-asses you know. be a bit casual, it creates this impression you have a life of yours already, if she cares you both can share some fantasies, IF SHE CARES. ( i hope i dont get crucified for that).
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pope732901 (m)
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[size=8pt]Wait, instead of you guyz to teach yourselves how to ask a girl out. You keep bombarding yourselves with insults, why? Thats bad. Well what I wanna say about asking a girl out is just a very small thing. You don't need to be friends with her before asking her out. That na long thing, When you meet a girl now, and you became friends for years. Then you asked her out, and she ended up telling you she only love you as a friend. WHAT ARE YOU GONNA DO? Kill yourself? Olorun maje. LONG THING. WHen you meet a girl. Hit her up instanta. Let her know how you feel about her and if she says no, Let her go okay? Just walk up to the next girl.
There are certain things you need to do on a first date that will make you look attractive to her. You don't ask her dumb questions. Like, how are you? where are you from? where do you live?[/size]
Try this questions (DOn't make her feel she is on a job interview). Mind you. When you're talking with her. Look straight into her eyes and not down at her chest.
1. What was your best job?
2. What were your worst jobs?
3. Tell me all the places you worked
4. Tell me about your best friend
5. Tell me about your family
6. Tell me about your relatives
7. Favorite movie star?
9. Favorite entertainer?
10. Favorite song?
11. First kiss?
12. What is the dumbest thing you have ever done?
13. Have you ever been arrested?
14. Do you like to shop?
15. Best way to relax?
16. If you found a box of N100,000.00 what would you do?
17. Are you romantic?
18. What is one food you will never give up?
19. What is a food you can live without?
20. Ever been in love with 2 people at the same time?
21. Three places you would love to visit?
Try these few questions, and you will look more attractive to her. Don't be friends first O.
If you guyz stay very close to yourselves, and she traveled. WHAT WOULD YOU DO?
JUst let her know how much you care about her at first.[/size]
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Vicjustice
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Hey, why same question everywhere?
Well this is my responce to one other poster:
You wrote this up there with courage, so with the same courage, you can "toast" a girl.
Com'on, it's easy; remember that there are many guys like you, so this means there are many more girls who are vacant with anticipation that you guys would come to them.
There are many ways a relationship can kick off, many of which do not necessarily demand many grammars or step by step. But in an event of conventional "toasting" simply follow this guidelines:
*Meet a girl you like in an area and condition that would be convenient for her to give you better attention
*Give greetings with integrity. . .
*Have a little chat about anything and see her areas of interest. . .
*Be sensitive to her attitude and see if she likes your conversation
*Ask her what she plans for the week, especially the weekend
*Then ask her if she'd like to go outing with you, perhaps for a drink
*Arrange the day and time
*Close the conversation with an exchange of phone numbers.
I know that some Nigerian girls could be so unnecessarily reluctant in a show of "hard to get", so this is where you simply have to apply some instinctive wisdom: remember, money, money, money is not always the best way to entice a lady.
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cul dalex (m)
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Hey, why same question everywhere?
Well this is my responce to one other poster:
You wrote this up there with courage, so with the same courage, you can "toast" a girl.
Com'on, it's easy; remember that there are many guys like you, so this means there are many more girls who are vacant with anticipation that you guys would come to them.
There are many ways a relationship can kick off, many of which do not necessarily demand many grammars or step by step. But in an event of conventional "toasting" simply follow this guidelines:
*Meet a girl you like in an area and condition that would be convenient for her to give you better attention
*Give greetings with integrity. . .
*Have a little chat about anything and see her areas of interest. . .
*Be sensitive to her attitude and see if she likes your conversation
*Ask her what she plans for the week, especially the weekend
*Then ask her if she'd like to go outing with you, perhaps for a drink
*Arrange the day and time
*Close the conversation with an exchange of phone numbers.
I know that some Nigerian girls could be so unnecessarily reluctant in a show of "hard to get", so this is where you simply have to apply some instinctive wisdom: remember, money, money, money is not always the best way to entice a lady.
deeemm
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