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Greatpeter (m)
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But this is the time he/she needs your supports more than ever
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alter ego
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Cure her with fire.  |
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nferyn (m)
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@ all of those who would run before even looking into the situation:
Do you know that HIV/AIDS is a sexually transmitted disease. You won't get it by talking or shaking hands and certainly not by listening. Check your attitude, listen and make up your mind AFTER you know all the facts, don't let any bigotry get in the way of your humanity and compassion
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nferyn (m)
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Cure her with fire. And what's that supposed to mean? <SARCASM>Are you into the ancient catholic practice of the auto-da-fe? </SARCASM> |
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WesleyanA (f)
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if that happened to me, depending on how faithful i think he is (he must have cheated or maybe he didn't ?  ) i wouldn't run. i'll just stay with him and not have sex with him . he'll probably die 4 years later  . then i'll sigh and move on.  |
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smartsoft (m)
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Why una they run  |
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niceguy (m)
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please to think of it. how can the guy be positive and girl be negative when both of them
have been going out for four years. I doubt it.......................
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Greatpeter (m)
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It is possible if the two have not had sex together.
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dovey (m)
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if I find out that my lover is HIV positive, the first thing I would do is to go for HIV test and if confirmed that I am HIV positive. Life still goes on 4 both of us by maintaining our status but on the ground that the my lover has not been having unsave sex around. If he has been having unsave sex around then it is goodbye 4ever and I did prefer to be single till I die though I would still be maintaining my status.
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Chibueze
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Hmm,I'll pray 4 her.But God forbid  |
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loveth (f)
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God forbid bad thing.
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mckaycee (m)
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I really don't pray for such. But if it happens, I'll quietly observe myself for some weeks or months, then I'll go for a test. The result will determine my next line of action..
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solomon (m)
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he's it after having fun with her several times or before have fun?
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icingbaby (f)
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I will end the relationship, right there, and tell him that what you get for cheating on me. |
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sweetnini (f)
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thats y i always advice to see your partners valid test result before having sex
well for moi i'll still be the persons friend but nothing more ooooooo and i'll also advice him not to take it hard
he can live a 100 years but without marrying or having sex if he don't worry about it
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Toyosiso (f)
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Well as for me am definately goin to leave him alone to be sincere because really its of no use.
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cushman (m)
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I'll drop her like she's hot  |
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ariel (f)
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The first question will be, how do I want people to treat me if I had HIV?, if I treat this guy this way ( e.g dumping him at a jiffy just because of this, won't he feel socially discriminated?) remember discrimination kills the spirit, it will be like backstabbing. You can cool of the fun part of the r/ship for somedays, clear ur head, see doctors on how this could be managed and resume ur normal life. Note some people are carriers but it never manifest and never reduces their immunity and they still live? You guys shld think about this "whatever you want others to do to you, do same to them" always put yourself in their positions.  For me, I'll stay and help him out, was case scenarious no children are brought into the world, this is because I believe love covers a multitude of SIN.  |
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mmomi (f)
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Ariel good talk. Am disappointed in most people,they forgot that it is God that owns live.If you have love in you and believe God you wont die before your time.They don"t know that, they may even die(accident) before their partner.If you talk of love now they will be the first to advise UMost of them don't even know their HIV status.Is that place you are running to safe? |
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alj (m)
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no mmomi maybe God does own life but it is possable to throw your life away, and why do you assume to run away would to be to another persons bed. i would not abandon the person but our sexual life and there for relationship would be over. i would be their friend but not their partner.
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Rhodalyn (f)
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i can't dump him just because he's HIV positive, my love is meant to stay forever
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eveseh (f)
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i will just kill myself,because no one's going to married me again
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eveseh (f)
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i would just kill myself
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dedun
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I'll stay with her, I'll go ahead and marry her still (I'm negative though). I know a guy, after his wife gave birth, she fell sick and somehow it was discorvered that the wife is HIV +ve, the guy -ve. Ofcourse he won't run away. It may intrest you to know that my ex-girl has the virus she tot I was going to leave the day she told me, I stayed with her for 3more years, I slept with her and I'm still NEGATIVE.
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DaHitler (m)
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Did you use a condom when you slept with her?
Also, you know that there is a less than 1 percent chance that you would get HIV from unprotected sex with an infected person in a single sexual encounter. So, it is not unusual to sleep with an HIV positive person and not get the virus. However, I don't recommend it. If you must, make sure you use a condom. Don't use two condoms because that would increase the chances of it breaking.
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dearie (m)
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I want to believe u guys are just joking, how can u just leave like that, at the time the person needs u the most, It's amazing, so all love u professed was a lie, how about the campaigns going on about care 4 people living with HIV/AIDS? do they mean nothing to u?
It'll be cruel and callous of any 'supposed lover' to react that way, it will be wrong to just assume he/she's been cheating on u, because there are somany other ways one can contract the disease.
It's the best time to show some love, whether u were dating or not. I'm not saying u must continue the relationship, he/she would even suggest the discontinuity, n even if he/she doesn't u can carefully ease yourself out of the relationship, but definately not by being 'brute'
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lunafish (f)
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I wouldn't dump them because they were HIV Positive.
I would dump them if they knew and didn't tell me. Then they couldn't have trusted me and I can't trust them.
I would ask them every question I ever had.
I would stay in the relationship if they didn't know to begin with and if I wanted to marry them I would, We just wouldn't have kids together physically; we would adopt.
I would make it work. Just as long as they didn't lie.
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Big Shishi (m)
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sleeping with someone with hiv is just irresponsible,
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adeoba (m)
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nothing |
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rhamz
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i will 1st of all confirm my status & if I'm lucky 2 scale through, d relationship will ave 2 be on hold.i wldnt abandon her for d love we've been sharing buti will try my best possible 2 let her see why we can't continue 2 date but we will 4ever be best of friends
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